Nuchal Measurement of 4mm at 12 weeks

[theoverthinkingmum]

Hi ladies,

I'm currently 12 weeks and 6 days pregnant with my fourth child.
I have 3 children already they are aged 4, 3 and 1, I'm 39 years old.
Originally I was pregnant with twins and sadly a day before I turned 9 weeks I found out that one of the twins didn't have a heartbeat.
I was suppose to do my NIPT test when I was 10 weeks although my Obstetrician pushed it back til today because I lost one of the twins.
At my scan today they told me the Nuchal Measurement is 4mm and spoke about all the risk factors relating to this, including heart problems and genetic disorders.
To say the least, I'm absolutely devastated and completely petrified, I won't get my NIPT blood test results til next week.
If I get a "normal" result, they still want to perform an amniocentesis to investigate further and if get an "abnormal" result he said then I have my answer.
Please let me know if you have been in a similar situation or know anyone who has and can shed some light.
I've always had an underlying fear that I would have a baby with some kind of disorder or abnormality and today I feel like that came true.
I can't describe how I'm feeling right now so any advice would be truly appreciated.
Thank you

We had a nuchal measurement of 3.7mm, and it's devastating, I know. It was just before they had the improved blood test, but the older version indicated a low chance of downs.

The conversations are horrendous, and it felt like a bereavement. I had a chorionic villi test, which came back clear, so we were told it wasn't chromosomal but could be a heart issue. And, I know, there's a risk with that, so it was frightening. We then had a scan a few weeks later and were told that the baby was sitting in a difficult position to see, but they couldn't see anything but we had to come back at 20 weeks.
At 20 weeks had a scan, told everything was normal, and to go away and enjoy my pregnancy.
The whole thing was traumatic. We had a healthy wee girl.

You just have to look after yourself, look after your family, and take it a day at a time. I'm sorry you're going through this. Perhaps try to find someone to talk through how you are feeling? I was given a midwife team number, which I called once to ask about a scan, and broke down speaking to her. She calmed me down a little bit, but even recalling it now, I find it upsetting.
Best wishes. x

Oh OP, so sorry for you. Really tough to get bad news from a scan, almost made worse by being a 'risk' rather than an absolute answer.
I don't have any advice to give really, everyone's situation is unique.
I went through vaguely similar when I just had two kids, but nature intervened and I lost the pregnancy anyway at about 13 weeks, and I did find that focusing on my others did help me.