Unexpected pregnancy no5?

[Jowd92]

Recently found out I have conceived whilst on my contraceptive pill I already have 4dc 12,9,3 and 2 in dec I’m really shocked and I feel stuck in making a decision I really didn’t want any more children it’s hard work with the two younger boys being close in age I don’t know if I could manage another baby there was never any plans to have any more so this has really shocked me really stressing as I know I have to make a decision and I really don’t know what to do :(

Sorry to hear you are having a hard time. Could you book yourself some counselling through the termination clinic to talk things through. My daughter went three times with her last as she really struggled to make a decision and she said they were super helpful. She said as soon as she explained that she wasn’t sure she wanted a termination, the conversation became much more open and she was able to explore all her feelings in both camps as it were.
Good luck, it’s such a tough place to be but you do have choices and they are all ok.

Maybe it was meant to be x but definately change your pill or your partner to do the snip.. i love big families so i can only see it as a good thing. And by the time you have the baby the 2 little ones will be at nursery and school and not be that little anymore x

I had a termination, and the thing that struck me was the aftermath, and its effects on my mental health. This came as a relative surprise to me, as I have always been (and still am) pro-choice. I had good reasons (foetus very poorly), but really have struggled coming to terms with a decision I under other circumstances probably would not have taken. After termination, life will not automatically revert to pre-pregnancy. I thought naively that I was happy with my DP, and if we lost our baby, at least I would still have that. That is not how things have worked out. It has affected us a lot. I know for some women it does not have this effect, but I have really struggled since the decision and have had some dark days (received counselling as well). The what ifs are especially tricky to deal with.

I think seeing if you can get some counselling is a good idea, just so you can talk things through. Termination may still be the best option for you and your family, but at least you know (and will find comfort in) that you have considered every angle of the decision, and have gone into it with a reasonable understanding of the potential mental, physical and emotional costs. Good luck with everything, OP.