Anyone else having a c section this week?

[Itshappening12]

Having a csection for DC2 tomorrow and feeling all the emotions today!

We haven't told friends and family so it's a surprise but feel the need to share and talk about it!

I am feeling so emotional towards DS1 who's such a good boy and feeling so guilty that I won't be there for his bedtime tomorrow for the first time ever. I feel like I am grieving the end of an era where it's just him and have cried a couple of times this morning already.

But I am equally super excited to finally meet our baby especially as we don't know if we're having a boy or a girl and I'm so ready to find out!

Also slightly disappointed that I've not gone into labour as it's our last pregnancy and I will never experience it now (had EMCS with DS1). My body just doesn't seem to know what to do! Feeling bad about the c section recovery with a toddler around as well.

Anyone else in a similar position?

I've got mine booked in for Thursday!

It's my first baby so don't have the feelings around having a toddler but like you we have kept the date a surprise.

I'll be 39 weeks on the day, am having it for medical reasons (plus was angling for one anyway) although like you part of me wondered if I would go into labour beforehand and experience a vaginal birth as baby is measuring big.

I feel nervous about recovery as keep being told how painful it is but am mostly just excited to meet my baby now.

Have GD so hoping that means we'll be one of the morning ones on the day as think the waiting around would kill me!

How exciting @lunadreams, do you know what you are having? It is nice to know the date isn't it but I'm finding the anticipation build up so overwhelming!

I will be 40+1, I tried to have it as late as they would let me to give the baby a chance to come (no medical reason for us, just the risk of previous scar rupture if we go too far past due date) but this baby had other ideas :).

Hope you get a morning slot, we were told to come in the afternoon so will have to find a way to keep busy until then!

Don't worry too much about recovery I didn't find it too bad the first time despite it being an emergency one and keep hearing that recovery tends to be easier with an elective. Fingers crossed!

@Itshappening12 I’m in a very similar position to you with having a second section coming up at the end of the month, unknown sex of the baby and first time leaving DD. Both excited and feeling so much mum guilt! Really hoping to be out after 24 hours - was kept in nearly a week last time but that was EMCS. Hope all goes well for you

@Anynamenottakenplease good luck! It's hard with little ones, we've explained to DS what's going to happen tomorrow and he doesn't seem fazed but who knows! In any case I'm sure I'll be the one feeling the most separation anxiety!

Gosh a week! I've not even thought I could be staying longer than one night as the thought is unbearable! I couldn't believe being sent home after just 24 hours last time, I really wasn't ready so soon, but definitely hoping for that this time! Especially with little ones not able to visit in hospital at all. Fingers crossed!

Thanks @Itshappening12, yes I know I'm having a baby boy :)

How exciting that you don't know...it must be a lovely surprise!

Hope it all goes well tomorrow. I think all these emotional wobbles are totally natural and will all be worth it when we have our babies in our arms.

Good luck! Xx

Just wanted to say good luck 😊 had one last month and it was the most lovely, calm day.. I would do it all again tomorrow if I could! Take it all in. That moment when you meet your little boy or girl will be just amazing. My recovery was great so hopefully yours will be better than last time.

Enjoy it ☺️

Thank you for the encouraging words @sarah13xx

I actually slept pretty well and feel ready, I've been worrying/thinking about this for so long I am feeling prepared! Can't believe I'm meeting my baby today!

Just wanted to wish you luck @Itshappening12!

I remember those emotional moments before my ELCS so well, but DC1 took it all wonderfully and really slotted into the big brother role like it had always been that way. Like you I'd had a previous EMCS too, and the recovery after the elective was so much better and easier than with the emergency. Even with a toddler to look after! I'm sure all will go well for you today. Enjoy meeting your lovely baby

Thank you so much @BelieveInRainbows and so good to hear your recovery went well and DC1 took to it all so well!

I really hope it's the same for us, just waiting for my boy to wake up now to give him the biggest cuddles and kisses. I'm going to miss him so much until I come back home!

@Itshappening12 Good luck with your section today! 🥰
Mine is booked in for the 4th of October. Will be my first ELCS but 2nd baby. I'm having another girl. My DD is nearly 18 months old and I'm going to miss her like crazy too. My hospital said they aim to discharge within 24 hours now, so I think I can cope with that. Recovery from ELCS seem pretty quick these days. I've been told to keep up with painkillers even when you feel better.
I'm sure your little boy is going to make the best big brother!
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Good luck for today! I will be in your position next Tuesday..
feeling it all at the moment - extremely overwhelmed and not sure if I’m coming or going.
Also have a toddler and feel all the guilt and worry related to that and how he’s going to feel with a new baby around. This will also be our last one..
Hope everything goes really well for you today xxxx

Thank you both!

@MyGrassIsBrowner yes I have been preparing for 24 hours away and can cope with that, fingers crossed all goes to plan and we don't need to stay any longer. definitely need to keep on top of painkillers, I was completely fine last time until the first day home and forgot to take them and once the pain has settled in it was harder to shift! Hope your DD enjoys her little sister

Just wanted to wish you luck, hope everything goes smoothly x

@Itshappening12 hoping you've had your section by now and enjoying aaaaaalllll the newborn snugs. Can't wait to hear how your section went. I hope it was a positive experience! 😊 x

Thank you so much all! Our little girl was born at 2pm and we are in love! It was a great experience, so calm compared to the fiasco of DS's birth so I am going into it a lot more relaxed and rested!

DS has been pretty upset being home without us though and I cried when I overheard him crying on the phone to DH earlier.

DH has gone home to do bedtime and be with him so I am left to my own devices, but all the staff is really helpful and the ward is quiet so I should be able to get the help I need through the night. Hopefully I will be out tomorrow too.

Good luck to all waiting for your c sections hope you meet your babies soon!

@Itshappening12 Ahhhh congratulations 🥰 I'm so pleased it went well for you! I'm so hoping I have a great experience too. Bet you cant wait to reunite with your little boy! Hope the rest of your recovery goes smoothly (keep up with those pain meds!) Hope they discharge you tomorrow so you can enjoy that newborn bubble with your family 🥰

@Itshappening12 congratulations! Just came back on to see what you had 😊 how lovely. So glad it all went well. Fingers crossed you’re able to get up and about tomorrow and you’re home soon

@Itshappening12 huge congratulations on your DD! Hope you're all doing well :)

Despite best made plans for ELCS on Thurs my little bubba wanted to come on his own terms and I went into labor on Sunday eve 🙈

After spending 6 hours in labour in pretty rubbish conditions we ended up going down EMCS route which was actually a really lovely experience and much needed as he was wedged in my pelvis the little monkey (and also big as expected at 8lb 13ozs!)

Think I pushed myself too much with moving around yesterday as am really feeling it today but so far my experience of a c-section has been super positive!

My word of advise to those with yours coming up is definitely bring some sort of peppermint tea or capsules as resolved Gas pain within 30 mins, bring arnica cream or tablets to help with bruising, don't push yourself too much even if you feel you can do more, take all pain relief whenever it is offered to you.

P.s. try and get some sort of long handled grabber if you can! I keep dropping things on floor and have to wait for someone to take pity on me before I get it back 🤣

Good luck to those with theirs coming up...you'll be grand x

Oh wow what a surprise @LunaDreams huge congratulations!

So glad you had a good experience I found the whole thing really calm and relaxing too. Just feeling it a bit today! Unfortunately I'm unable to pass urine so keep getting threatened with another catheter and another night in. So stressful! Everything just feels a bit swollen and not working as it should, let's hope it resolves itself soon.

DD is also quite unsettled so barely had any sleep. Trying to go with the flow but hard not to compare with her brother who spent most of his first few days fast asleep. Doesn't help when all the nurses comment on how unsettled and loud she is!

@LunaDreams omg congratulations! Fantastic weight too, well done!
I'm glad even though it ended in EMCS it well went regardless. Was there a reason they left you in labour so long? They said if my labour should start spontaneously I have to go straight into hospital and they'd get me in for section immediately (assuming no one else is in theatre) I had a 4.5 hour labour with my DD so I think they'd be worried I might have another quick one.

@Itshappening12 I hope you can get some pee out you poor sod, are you drinking enough? I've heard drinking more water than you can stomach to try and get things moving.
Sorry your little one has been giving you a rough one so far. It's going to be hard not to compare babies (I too will be the same) my DD slept for 4-5 hour stints in those first weeks it was truly blissful. Got a feeling this one might be the total opposite, you know just to put me through my paces 😂 x

@MyGrassIsBrowner yes DS slept through the night from 3 months so it will be a tough act to follow but based on DD's movements through pregnancy (pretty constant!) I knew she would not be as chilled out!

Saying that she has been fast asleep in her crib for the last 2 hours now so I have caught up on some sleep and feel better! (Typical now daddy is here to look after her she's decided to be an angel)

No luck on the urine front though, they did a scan and can see my bladder is bursting yet nothing. So catheter going in for the next 48 hours. Luckily she said I can go home with it, so I can see my boy later!

@Itshappening12 yeah my DD slept through the night early on, was pretty strict with her sleeping routines though and I intend to try and stick to the same or similar routines with this one. Tbh my DD never suffered with reflux but got a feeling we may have got lucky and this time might be in for a treat 😆 but we'll see!
Oh aren't they always well behaved for their dads! Absolutely same with my DD, she can play me up all day, soon as daddy walks through the door it's like butter wouldn't melt.

Argh I'm sorry your still not able to wee, that's one of my worries as well. But really good that they're letting you go home with it! Bet you cannot wait to see your boy!

@MyGrassIsBrowner exactly the same! Everyone kept telling us how easy DS was and that we wouldn't get so lucky twice so was fully bracing myself for a non-sleeping, tongue tie, reflux baby this time.

It's still early days but she is feeding like a champ and BF has actually seemed a little easier this time so that's one less thing to worry about. For sleeping, time will tell but I was also very strict with DS routines and intend to do the same. For now she pretty much has her nights and days reversed but she is settled enough that we can take turns and get some rest.

Had catheter finally removed today and managed a wee which feels like the biggest weight off my shoulders! I feel like anything else I can deal with now and it will be easier to be a good mummy to my boy too as it was making me a bit immobile and miserable.

Really excited to hear about your experience in just over a week!

@Itshappening12 sounds like you're nailing it mama. Does help when baby is co-operative though hehe!
Sooooo happy for you that you managed a wee! How are you mobility wise? Is it painful getting about?

Well I'm actually back in hospital this evening, they're monitoring me as my blood pressure is high and my feet are swollen as hell so think they may have pre-eclampsia on their minds however I've had no headaches/visual disturbances or any of the other usual pre-eclampsia signs so I'm hoping they might just put me on blood pressure tablets and send me on my way!

Oh no @MyGrassIsBrowner sorry to hear that. I hope it isn't pre eclampsia and you get sent home to rest soon. Not ideal being stuck in hospital as it gets to the evening either and you just want to be comfy at home!

We are on day 3 and I am feeling a lot more mobile, I remember day 3/4 being a bit of a turning point the first time too. Walking was always OK but sitting down/getting up, getting into and out of bed, sitting up to feed baby etc was pretty painful.

I must say I have found it pretty tough though, a few times I have felt at my physical limits. Saying that, they did send me home with stronger painkillers which I didn't take (stuck to paracetamol/ibuprofen) so probably didn't help myself. I just wanted to make sure I could feel the pain to make sure I didn't overdo it if that make sense?

Also didn't help myself by not using DH as much as I should (would lift baby in and out of cot myself rather than waking him up so he could do it for me) and pushing myself so I seemed "normal" to my toddler.

But in the end, it was "only" for 3 days and feel pretty well recovered now already so it is pretty fast when you think I've just add major surgery!

Thank you for sharing the wee excitement haha I felt on top of the world and wanted to shout it from the rooftops, never thought I'd get so excited about wee duh! :)