7w pregnant, bleeding and measuring a week behind

[lapeonia]

Hi all

I am looking for some realistic experiences if someone has experienced something similar to me... I am currently 7+2 according to my LMP. Since Monday this week I have had bleeding every time I go to the toilet (also now staining pads, not huge amounts), a few occasional cramps here and there. So because of all this I contacted the local EPU and they had me in for a scan yesterday morning... it was a transvaginal scan and they could find the sac and a baby who apparently had a flickering heartbeat (everything was very blurry, I know baby would be tiny at this stage), but it measured a whole week behind the expected gestation.

I am extremely worried and feel like I need to just prepare myself that this is not going to end well. EPU didnt offer me a rescan date, just said congrats and sent me off. They also didnt find a reason for the bleeding.

I have tried so hard to stay positive (I feel like I need to stay positive for the sake of this baby, it's not fair on it for me to write it off already), but every single time I use the toilet there is blood and red discharge, which instantly just wants to make me cry.

Please advise, has anyone been through this/something similar and not had a MC, but a perfectly healthy baby in the end? Or is it actually realistic that baby is not developing right (hence a week behind) and the bleeding is just the first sign for things ending early...

Honestly it could go either way. I had a miscarriage in February after a scan which showed the baby was measuring behind albeit with a heartbeat, but I was certain of my ovulation dates. If you don't know when you ovulated then it's possible you're just a bit earlier than you thought. Can you arrange another scan in a week or so? That's the only way to tell whether things are developing or not, unfortunately. Crossing fingers for you!

@lapeonia I've been through two miscarriages. What colour is the blood that you're experiencing? Is it bright red?

@haidri it started off with brown discharge, now it’s red/pink every time I go to the loo. Have also had a few stringy bits/small clots recently. So sorry to hear you’ve experienced this twice…

@itssquidstella thank you for sharing your experience. So sorry to hear it wasn’t a good outcome for you. I do think I need to stay realistic about this so hearing what’s likely going to happen is good.
May I ask, how soon after the first scan did you find out it had been a mc? I will try to arrange a new scan for end of next week maybe.

@lapeonia I had a tonne of scans as I knew something wasn't right. I had one at six weeks where I was measuring behind and no heartbeat yet, one at 8 where we saw a heartbeat but only measuring 7+3 and then one at 9 which showed the baby had died at 8+4. That was enough for a diagnosis.

@lapeonia
So sorry your going through this I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp, every loss started with brown blood that turned to red,
Fingers crossed not the case for you but all I can say is hope for the best but prepar for the worst. 💚

@itssquidstella think I just need to book another scan and wait this out!

@Babyghirl I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through so many. It’s the longest wait ever, to see what happens. Mentally a very hard time. Also wish the epu midwife had been a bit more realistic instead of congratulating me at the time

@lapeonia
It's an awful wait they should of rescanned you in ten days because that would tell them more what's going on, and give you a straight answer 💚

I had spotting op from 4w-8w and everything turned out fine.
Ofc it can go either way.
Is it possible your abit earlier than you thought? Had you tracked ovulation etc.
If I was you I'd book a private scan for a weeks time.

I'm in exact the same situation. 7+2 today, bleeding since Tuesday. Had a scan and was measuring a week behind but good strong heartbeat.
The EPU have managed to get some progesterone pesseries prescribed for me (probably due to my age and last miscarriage). Bleeding seems to have stopped.
They are scanning me again 2 weeks later.
Fingers crossed for us both xxx

@lapeonia well if it's red blood and clotting then.. 😢

I've had it go both ways

With DS I had endless bleeding and threatened miscarriage. Appeared to be a random hematoma in the end.

With my second I had a miscarriage at 7w3d unfortunately. Bleeding and flickering heartbeat and then nothing.

Wishing you luck that it's just being out on your dates and random bleeding.

Hows you getting on @lapeonia ?
Did you manage to get another scan booked?

@PeanuttyButter so sorry to hear you’re going through the same thing.
Also sorry I haven’t replied all weekend, been processing things and have avoided SM!

As my bleeding has now picked up even more I had to call the EPU again yesterday. They said they’ll have me in for another scan on Thursday morning (a week after first one), until then just pop a pad in and basically wait it out. They said if the bleeding gets too heavy to manage at home to go to the hospital.
I booked a private scan for Wednesday too, but epu midwife said not to go to that one as if something should be bad they’ll refer me to the epu so i’m better going to them for the scan.

I’m now of the mindset this baby is not going to make it. Trying so so hard to slowly accept it, although still find myself being hopeful when I’m not in the toilet wiping blood. What an emotional rollercoaster!

How are you getting on?? X

Just thought I’d update this post in case anyone ever comes across it searching for something similar.

I had my second scan with EPU yesterday morning. Sadly, I was told there is no longer a baby there. So in a week I’ve gone from a baby with heartbeat to an empty sac! They said Ive likely already passed the baby…
As my mc has already started they suggested to try natural management of the rest of it and scan again in two weeks for an update. So an unknown waiting game is now on, I have no idea what to expect from the rest of this.

So sorry for your loss @lapeonia. Please take time for yourself to process everything and be kind to yourself. Wishing you luck for the future ❤️

So sorry about your loss @lapeonia hopefully the miscarriage will complete quickly and you can start to heal emotionally too.

I too have been avoiding social media. Also tried to avoid my phone in general to stop Google. I stopped bleeding 2 days after I started the progesterone, got my scan on Tuesday which still feels like a lifetime away. I too just want answers and to move on to the next stage, with a failed or developing pregnancy. This whole wait is agonising. My pregnancy symptoms have all disappeared which I'm taking as a negative sign. I will come back and update after my scan

Update from me for anyone googling small crl.
Unfortunately we returned for the scan 2 weeks later (so 8+6) and the heartbeat was gone. Baby had grown only slightly so would appear to have died shortly after the scan at 6+6. Got an ERPC booked for tomorrow as since the initial spotting started 2 weeks ago not had a trace of blood. Good luck if you find yourself in a similar situation, I hope it's better news for you x

@PeanuttyButter I’m so sorry. I hope the procedure went ok for you. Take care of yourself, I think for me I’m expecting this to finally hit me in a week or so, the realisation of it all. Currently just living day by day trying to not think about it.

I finally passed the sac yesterday (went for natural (?) management), it was a shockingly hard experience. Now the healing begins!

@lapeonia hope you're doing ok too. Procedure went well and without hiccup. Bleeding almost stopped but the hardest part is the emotional healing. I've always found the week later to be the hardest so look after yourself xx