Miscarriage and depression

[DanniiF90]

Hey everyone,

Last week I suffered a miscarriage at almost 6 weeks. It was the first I've ever had but no less heartbreaking. I'd always suffered with depression since I was a teen anyway, but managed it with medication and still had a relatively normal life. I had the odd down day, but I'd done so well with it for years. Cut to the aftermath of the miscarriage, I've basically spent a week in bed. Had a week off work. It's been horrific. I just don't seem to have the energy to do a thing. Not to clean, organise, cook dinner, look after my 10 year old. It's not a nice feeling and I was wondering if you had any tips do get myself out of this funk?
I keep saying to my OH that we should try again but I'm really conflicted, I've currently just started an access course and will hopefully be going to uni next year to be a midwife, if this happened again I don't think I could cope.

Thank you 🙏

One at the time, OP. I am sorry this pregnancy did not have a happy ending. These things are very hard. Just try to get through the day, and take advantage of ready meals and others' offers for help. It doesn't help to put too much pressure on yourself. Perhaps the grandparents, or other family could take your child for a weekend, so you have some time to recuperate in private.

Park the TTC debate for a week or two, until you feel a bit more well-rested. Some women take a break, others feel TTC'ing again is the only thing that helps make them feel better. Just do what works for you. Just don't put too much pressure on this either.

@DanniiF90 personally I focussed on grieving properly through whatever it may be whether it was just eating loads or resting loads to get my mind off things.

Unfortunately I had very bad social anxiety after the miscarriage because I didn't want to be around big crowds as I'd just remember pregnancy all over again.

8 months on, I'm focussing on my passions in life & not pressurising myself to ttc