Two chemical pregnancies in a row

[LittleMG]

Last month I took a test 6 days before my period and got a positive, I then had my period as usual. I was so upset sounds stupid but it really did hurt (emotionally) this month I left the test til the day of my period, got a positive again, and then an hour later my period came. I didn’t have to much time to think about it but still feeling sad and now worried is there something wrong with me? Has anyone else had this happen and gone on to have a full term baby? Should I go to the dr? They usually say you should try for 6 months or something don’t they? Thanks for reading, just want to do something I feel so frustrated angry, with myself I suppose :(

Hi OP. It does not sound at all stupid that you were upset - of course you were, it was a wanted pregnancy that ended. Sorry for your losses.

Under 35 years old they say to try for a year, and over 35 years old it's 6 months. But if you suffer repeated miscarriages (which they class as 3 or more) you can go to your GP regardless of the time scale. Unfortunately since your period arrived on time both times, they may not class it the same.

Early losses like this are sadly very common and it doesn't usually mean you can't carry to term x

Thank you so much for your reply, I know it was early but it does hurt. I have a little boy I fell pregnant with him so easily I was under 33 then, 37 next week :/ I feel like I want to go to the dr if it happens again but I know there are people who have much bigger problems than me and maybe we should just keep trying? X

I feel you OP, and I think it's definitely worth a trip to the doctor if it happens again (although obviously I hope it doesn't), I'm not sure what they will do but it's worth an ask. However since you've had another baby, I think it's incredibly likely that these CP's are a one-off, probably the eggs or sperm had chromosome abnormalities, which is very common. I really hope you get a positive outcome soon x

Thank you so much x

Hi LittleMG. I found this very upsetting too. I also had an older child. I had two CPs in a row, then a miscarriage, and now I have another child conceived the month after. I was the same age as you and think it was just that my eggs were not in as good condition as when I was younger, and so I had a few false starts. No harm in going to the doctor after six months of trying, just in case. Wishing you all the best.

I was last pregnant 26 years ago when you took tests after a missed period, and chemical pregnancies weren't known about. I can tell you are obviously desperate to be pregnant but how about waiting until you are at least a week late before testing, as in the 'olden days'? That way you won't be (so) upset after thinking you were pregnant and then aren't. Sounds harsh and I really don't mean it to but perhaps testing so early isn't always a good thing?

@LittleMG I feel for you I really do.

I had 3 children already that I’d conceived when I was 32 and younger, then I was 37 when we started ttc baby number 4.

Sadly I suffered 4 miscarriages during the 16 months it took us ttc.

I was referred for tests after the third loss, as was my partner who had a semen analysis done. No cause was found for us losing the babies so we were told to just keep trying.

In the mean time I’d done so much googling and reading and decided to start myself in a low dose (150mg a day) of aspirin as I’d read so many good things about how it can help the baby stick and even aid implantation as it makes the blood less sticky.

The first month I decided to try it I started taking it at 1dpo and got my positive test at 8dpo. I was so sure it would end in yet another loss, but the lines on the tests kept getting darker and darker, my period due date came and went, I even got a 3+ on a clear blue test. Finally I was referred to the EPU to scan me following the losses, and amazingly we saw a baby dating 5+4 with a strong heartbeat!

I was consultant led throughout my pregnsncy (for other reasons) and she recommended I continue the aspirin throughout the pregnancy and I only stopped at 36 weeks, a week before my planned c section.

My rainbow baby was born 2 weeks ago today, so it definitely can happen after several losses.
I was 39 by the time baby arrived and it honestly felt that this day would never come, but I’m sat here now feeding my baby and all the heartache was worth it.

Sending hugs x

Hi op I'm sorry for your losses.
Theres not something wrong with you but age can be a factor in egg quality and sperm quality . I'm 36 and had two losses at 6 weeks but things were going wrong from 5 weeks.

If gp doesnt count these chemicals as losses cruel as this might sound but they will count them as 'months tried' so either way once you get to 6 months of trying you can ask for basic testing or a referral.

You can look into supplements I had success with Proceive Max supplements for fertility and Ubiquinol (CoQ10) in high doses both me and my partner took the supplements.
There's a lot of information available online about how to improve your chances of a healthy pregnancy after 35.

Hi @LittleMG
I am so sorry for your losses, and please don't feel stupid.
I am currently 16 weeks pregnant but had 4 chemical pregnancies in a row before this one stuck. Similar to you I already have a 3 year old girl who I had absolutely no issues conceiving so it all came as a huge shock to me.
After the 3rd chemical we were referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic and all the tests came back as normal. They did say I had a slightly low amh level for my age (this was one of the blood tests they did) so I took vitamins that they suggested to try and improve this and I think this is what helped (however I have no way of knowing this)
Best of luck to you xxxx

@Icklemissgem

Hi *@LittleMG* I am so sorry for your losses, and please don't feel stupid. I am currently 16 weeks pregnant but had 4 chemical pregnancies in a row before this one stuck. Similar to you I already have a 3 year old girl who I had absolutely no issues conceiving so it all came as a huge shock to me. After the 3rd chemical we were referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic and all the tests came back as normal. They did say I had a slightly low amh level for my age (this was one of the blood tests they did) so I took vitamins that they suggested to try and improve this and I think this is what helped (however I have no way of knowing this) Best of luck to you xxxx

Thank you so much for your reply it’s made me feel so much better. Good luck with your pregnancy x knowing it’s not necessary a massive thing gives me a bit of hope. Thanks xx

Thank you all so much for your replies, it’s made me feel so much better. I am looking into some supplements and will go to the dr if this doesn’t help. Hopefully I’ll get there x thank you it really helps to hear your stories xxx

They do think that as many as 50% of cycles in a normally fertile couple who are TTC will result in a chemical pregnancy and the reason we know about them is largely because we have the luxury of early testing.

It's fine to be upset, in fact normal, you were planning a new life. However, I'd be reassured that you've had a previously successful pregnancy and are still in the early days of TTC your second. I think it's overwhelmingly likely to happen for you and if you're still trying at 6 months without it having happened, then it's time to start the ball rolling.

Being upset with everything that happened is more than normal.

After 2 chemical pregnancies, I would go to the doctor even if not trying for 6 moths.

Thank you once again for your kind replies, so my period was really light and only lasted a couple of days… I have taken another test and it’s still positive so fingers crossed maybe I jumped the gun?? One day at a time though. Thank you all for your supportive words xx

@LittleMG
Not sure if you’re going to see this but just wanted to reach out. I turned 40 last month, had a chemical last month and now again this month. I have 2 healthy kids 6 and 8 who I’m extremely grateful for but I’m feeling very sad. Did you go to the doctor? What happened? Hope it all went well ❤️

Hi @CKBM I’m sorry you suffered this too it’s dreadfully upsetting even if drs don’t really bother as it’s so early. I continued to bleed on and of for weeks and when I rang the dr they said you just have to wait… one dr was especially dismissive. However, I am still pregnant and ready to drop in about a month. But after so much bleeding through the first trimester I have been constantly worried, I still am. I sort of convinced myself it wouldn’t last but here I am. It’s a little boy, my second, I want him so much. This has been an awful pregnancy with dreadful sickness, low iron, covid…
I do understand how you feel, I felt silly as it was so early but was devastated, I never thought it would happen to me. I am lucky I know that I managed to conceive again quickly. I just can’t wait to have my baby in my arms. Good luck to you, it’s such a hard time and no one knows but you how it feels to have that little hope taken away. Xxx

Thanks so much for responding. That’s amazing that you’re pregnancy has continued. Wishing you all the best for your delivery 🙏🏽❤️