Feeling low in 2nd pregnancy

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I’m just over twenty weeks pregnant with number 2.. a planned pregnancy we both wanted and prayed for,
I had awful debilitating morning sickness for the first trimester and caught every bug going from my daughter, but otherwise healthy ok.

Problem is I just feel so unmotivated all the time. I have zero body positivity this time, really feel awful about myself and my weight, I haven’t made an effort ( dressed nicely/make up/hair ) this whole time as just feel like I don’t care, my diet has been AWFUL - could tolerate much for the first 4 months and not eating a lot of chocolate / pure juice that I know I shouldn’t do then u feel guilty that I’m potentially harming baby.. also missed so many more pregnancy vitamins this time round due to illnesses / forgetfulness. Also not sleeping great but always been a very light sleeper so who knows if that is anxiety / from the colds / el something else.

Then overwhelming guilt / fear that new baby will wreck bond with my daughter who is so unbelievably clingy at the minute and wanting held all the time.

I just feel so blah and not sure if this is normal or something more?

I think it's normal to feel this way, I felt so depressed and irritable around 19 weeks of this pregnancy. Everything you have written makes sense and I know myself and lots of women have felt the same and had similar fears.

Don't worry about your diet, the baby will be fine, it's much harder to be pregnant when you already have children to care for. Your bond with your daughter won't be ruined either, although it's a perfectly normal thing to worry about.

I completely emphasise with the feelings of 'meh', I hope you feel better soon and have lots of support around you. It will get better, you're halfway through, I know it feels endless at the moment but it will all come good

Obviously if you do feel like you need extra support it's worth mentioning how you feel to your midwife.