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Can anyone help me determine about how far along my miscarriage was

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Smcintire95 · 11/09/2021 22:20

The hospital told me I was 5 weeks along but what I passed looks like I should have been farther along. I thought my last period had been may 1 but Now I’m afraid that may have been my implantion bleeding and it really was April 1 can any one help

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joopy79 · 11/09/2021 22:24

I'm sorry for your loss. I think there would be a big difference between 5 weeks and 5 months so I would accept the opinion of the hospital.

JuneySunshine · 11/09/2021 22:26

Hi, sorry to hear about this.

If your LMP was May 1st I make that 19 weeks pregnant?

WheelieBinPrincess · 11/09/2021 22:28

That would be a significant blunder for the hospital to make.

Doggiedementia · 11/09/2021 22:29

If you had been 5 months you would not mistake it for a 5 week miscarriage.

EarringsandLipstick · 11/09/2021 22:30

How did the hospital date your pregnancy? They would have asked for your LMP, and scanned you?

If you really were that far on, you couldn't have miscarried in the way you mention. You'd have delivered your baby, similar to labour.

I'm sorry about your miscarriage 💐

SylvanasWindrunner · 11/09/2021 22:31

Five months you would have passed a baby the size of a mango or similar. It would have been fully formed and you would have pushed it out.

Five weeks would just be a clot, it wouldn't be distinguishable as a baby.

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Smcintire95 · 11/09/2021 22:32

I’m sorry I forgot to mention that I had my miscarriage June 9th I thought I’d be able to post a picture but I can’t figure out how

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WheelieBinPrincess · 11/09/2021 22:32

And yes, there would be no mistaking a foetus that far on, at all.

bookh · 11/09/2021 22:32

I'm sorry for your loss.

How did the hospital date you?

So when did you have your first scan? 1st may period would make you about 19 weeks? So when was your 12 week scan.

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Smcintire95 · 11/09/2021 22:34

I forgot to mention my miscarriage happened June 9th. And I told them that my LMP was on may 1st because that’s what I figured.. it’s just what I ended up passing looked bigger then what someone at 5 weeks would have passed and I’m wondering if I could have been more like 10 weeks I wanted to post a picture but I guess I can’t

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SylvanasWindrunner · 11/09/2021 22:38

Ah, well, that would make you either 5 weeks or 9 weeks? Nine weeks would still be very small, although you could see something resembling a fetus if you examined what you passed. I've passed a 7.5-week pregnancy but didn't look. I'd say the clot that came out was slightly smaller than a golf ball (but the fetus would have been a lot lot smaller). At five weeks you wouldn't really see anything resembling a baby/fetus.

Sorry you went through that, OP Thanks

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Smcintire95 · 11/09/2021 23:00

I’m sorry I had forgot to mention my miscarriage was June 9th… I just have been questioning if I was really 5 weeks because what I passed was probably the size of a was about the size of a grape

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Cafeaulait27 · 12/09/2021 02:47

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks but the baby died at 6 weeks. What I passed was a clear sac about the size of a golf ball filled with fluid, and the embryo inside was about 2cm long with little stumps for arms and legs. A few days later I passed the placenta which looked like a sausage.

Did what you passed look like that? M

Im so sorry for your loss x

EarringsandLipstick · 12/09/2021 07:09

@Cafeaulait27

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks but the baby died at 6 weeks. What I passed was a clear sac about the size of a golf ball filled with fluid, and the embryo inside was about 2cm long with little stumps for arms and legs. A few days later I passed the placenta which looked like a sausage.

Did what you passed look like that? M

Im so sorry for your loss x

I'm very sorry for your loss. However if your dates are correct, you must be mistaken in what you saw.

At 6 weeks a foetus is about 6mm in length (approx the size of a baked bean) without otter discernible features. In a m/c, the products of pregnancy will be broken down at this point so a recognisable foetus won't be expelled.

Cafeaulait27 · 12/09/2021 08:25

@EarringsandLipstick there is absolutely no way I’m ‘mistaken in what I saw’. I saw it clear as day with my own eyes and so did my husband. We kept it in the fridge for a few days and then bought a plant and a pot and buried it in the garden ❤️ There’s absolutely NO WAY a clear sac of fluid the size of a golf ball with an embryo inside could be mistaken for anything else, but you wouldn’t know as you weren’t there to see it yourself.

It started with very strong period pains and a hell of a lot of blood in the morning and progress to the point I I was having unbearable contraction type pains for about 3 hours at the most intense part and when I passed the sac the pain stopped. The sac ‘plopped’ into the toilet and I fished it out. I was hoping someone would test it but they don’t do that with your first miscarriage.

But thanks for your input…. Not sure if you’re suggesting I imagined it all? Very strange thing for you to say tbh.

Cafeaulait27 · 12/09/2021 08:30

@earringandlipstick But just to say I did make a typo - the embryo was about 1cm but I did write this in the middle of the night last night.

When I had the scan which told me the babies heart had stopped beating the gestation on the monitor was 6 weeks 4 days. I then had to wait to miscarry naturally. I was 8 weeks when I had that scan, but the week before I’d had a scan which showed a healthy baby with a heartbeat but it was measuring a week behind for dates (measuring 6 weeks but I was 7 weeks). I then had some red bleeding which is why I went to EPU at 8 weeks and was told there was no heartbeat anymore.

It was the darkest days of my life and someone telling me I imagined what I know myself and my husband saw (and looked at many times over the course of a few days) is really hurtful.

Also just to point out yes my dates are 100% correct.

BelieveInRainbows · 12/09/2021 08:36

@EarringsandLipstick how rude and insensitive to tell someone that they don't know what they saw!

@cafeaulait27 I had very similar to you in that I miscarried around 10 weeks but baby had died between 6-7 weeks. It was my second miscarriage and I was very aware when I was passing the sac and made sure to catch it in a sieve, I didn't purposefully look inside the sac but its clear and there was no mistaking what it was. I wrapped it up in a sanitary pad at the request of EPU who tested it for molar tissue then gave it a shared cremation. They called to say that it was definitely the sac/foetus and that it was negative for molar tissue and had been sent off for the cremation. Unless EPU were mistaken about what they saw too 🙄 Sorry for your loss, its an awful thing to go through without someone telling you that you must be wrong! Flowers

Cafeaulait27 · 12/09/2021 08:51

Thank you @BelieveInRainbows ❤️ Sorry for your loss and hope you are ok x

@Smcintire95 very sorry to hijack your thread x

EarringsandLipstick · 12/09/2021 09:11

Not sure if you’re suggesting I imagined it all? Very strange thing for you to say

Not at all. I've had m/c too, and I'm very sorry for your loss, as I said.

It's simply not possible that the experience you had corresponded with a miscarriage of a foetus at 6 weeks, perhaps the dates were different (they'd need to have been substantially so to correspond with your information).

I posted as I felt it was important unreliable information be corrected for eg the OP who is asking about her experience.

EarringsandLipstick · 12/09/2021 09:15

[quote Cafeaulait27]@earringandlipstick But just to say I did make a typo - the embryo was about 1cm but I did write this in the middle of the night last night.

When I had the scan which told me the babies heart had stopped beating the gestation on the monitor was 6 weeks 4 days. I then had to wait to miscarry naturally. I was 8 weeks when I had that scan, but the week before I’d had a scan which showed a healthy baby with a heartbeat but it was measuring a week behind for dates (measuring 6 weeks but I was 7 weeks). I then had some red bleeding which is why I went to EPU at 8 weeks and was told there was no heartbeat anymore.

It was the darkest days of my life and someone telling me I imagined what I know myself and my husband saw (and looked at many times over the course of a few days) is really hurtful.

Also just to point out yes my dates are 100% correct.[/quote]
Sorry I didn't see this when I replied to your other post.

I'm again very sorry for your loss. I too have had a missed m/c, and at a later gestation so very challenging physically requiring emergency admission.

I don't doubt your experience, I replied to some facts which you yourself have corrected.

Regardless of the date of the m/c, the date of the foetus would not correspond with what you described in your first post & I was referring to that for the purposes of OP's question.

I in no way want to comment on or diminish your very difficult experience & loss as described in later posts. 💐

EarringsandLipstick · 12/09/2021 09:16

how rude and insensitive to tell someone that they don't know what they saw!

I didn't.

I said that description was not compatible with a 6w loss. That's factually true & important for OP who is asking a pertinent question.

I'm very sorry for the poster & for what she experienced.

Garman · 12/09/2021 09:25

I had a miscarriage at what should have been 10 weeks but based on what I passed and a normal scan at 6+4 with a heartbeat my doctor said it was in line with it having stopped growing very soon after the scan. I had 6 hours of essentially labour/cramping, blood loss, clots. Then 2 days later I passed the sac which was unmistakable, and empty. My doctor said if I couldn't see any discernible embryo or anything developing in the sac at all that was indicative of a 6-7 week loss, no later.

Cafeaulait27 · 12/09/2021 10:00

@EarringsandLipstick you are wrong - as I said, the date on the monitor when I found out the baby had died said 6 weeks 4 days. This was confirmed by the midwife and sonographer. Are you saying this was incorrect?

Or are you saying I imagined what I saw?

In my case I had two scans - one where the baby was alive and had a heartbeat and another where it didn’t. At both of these the size and date were confirmed and I know what came out of me that day and buried in our garden. I have regular 30 day cycles so no way my dates are wrong either.

Some people miscarry at 6 weeks and no baby has developed, or sometimes they are reabsorbed by the body. Sometimes they miscarry even later than that and don’t see anything because nothing developed, or they just miss it in the toilet. That was certainly not my experience.

Why are you being so weird and hurtful?

I know my dates, I know what was confirmed at scans and I know what I saw and buried.

You’re a horrible person

Cafeaulait27 · 12/09/2021 10:03

If you’d like a little more detail on exactly what I saw in the clear sac - the embryo/foetus/baby was a bit like a shrimp with little stumps for arms and legs.

Not sure why you think you’re such an expert on my loved experience and the most upsetting and physically and emotional time of my life.

I’m actually disgusted

Cafeaulait27 · 12/09/2021 10:12

Lived *