Second Pregnancy Regret!!

[Hobbitsy]

I wonder if anyone else has felt like this but my anxiety is through the roof. I probably need to see if I can find some kind of counselling or therapy but the thought of spending the money makes me feel sick.

So we tried for a long time for Baby #2. We had just agreed to stop trying , I bought an expensive 1 child trailer for the back of my bike and.... guess what happened!!?? I'm nearly 18 weeks pregnant (after a very stressful start!) Anomalie scan is in 2 weeks and.... part of me is hoping something will go wrong which is a terrible thing to say because although I'm happy at the thought of another little person as an abstract concept, the reality of it is just stress and aggro, not helped by the fact that becuse of my husbands job we're moving house next spring. We donl't live near family, so I'm worried about what on earth will happen to my little girl when I go into labour, I'm worried how I will cope with two small people especially since my LO has long since dropped her nap, I'm reallu worried about money, worried about how my little girl (who will be four at the time) will respond, how I will cope with the move and the logistics of finding my little girl a preschool and a school shortly after. But I'm mostly worried about how we're going to afford another little person. Right now we don't really have to think about money but with another lots of nursery fees to pay PLUS wraparound care we really will.

I guess I just want to know if anyone else has felt similiarly!!??

I think it’s quite normal to panic when you’re expecting regardless when Baby is planned or not. We are expecting baby 2 at the end of the year and will have a 4yr old. Sometimes I worry how we’ll cope with time, how our routine will change, how my son will feel, will my relationship with him change? How can I love another child as much as I do him? The only advice I can offer is to just trust it. When we had my son I cried for days after he was born because it was such a shock, but we adjusted, we cope and he’s our world. Remember these things come into play one at a time so you have time to figure it out, and your mind will
Make things seem worse because you’re thinking about ALL the bad bits at once. There will be so many good bits too. Your daughter growing with a sibling, her being on this journey with you too.

Everything you feel is so valid, and it’s fine and normal to feel those things but I would also try speaking to your MW to see if there is any perinatal counselling or therapy for you to talk to someone just to talk about your fears and get them out.