11 weeks and needing reassurance

[Lauravsboys]

So I'm booked for my 12 week scan on Monday, this will be my 3rd pregnancy, 3rd baby all being well but I am absolutely plagued by fears, specifically that when we go it will be a missed miscarriage.

My previous two pregnancies were very heavy on the nausea and vomiting, very tender stomach and I can remember being unable to front sleep from very early on as the pressure would make me vomit.
This time around whilst I've had some vomiting it's much much less I'm mostly just tired, sore breasts and a new experience of producing masses of saliva. I think the thing that's getting me concerned is that I'm still so comfortable on my stomach to sleep and that there's nothing i can feel in terms of a bump aside from bloating and me being a little overweight (I'm a size 16 usually and carry a lovely c section mum tum).

Honestly I was awake half of last night worrying and cannot shake this fear that something is wrong. I wanted to book a private scan just to calm my nerves but can't get an appointment before Monday but honestly I'll be in bits by then.

Sorry for the long post, thanks for reading if you got this far.

Hello! I totally get you! I’m 10 weeks and so far this pregnancy is very different to my last, giving me the fear too.

I had all day nausea with my first and didn’t want to eat much. I also had the saliva thing, would completely soak my pillow at night! This time I’m starving hungry all the time, have odd spells of nausea but nothing bad and just feel ready for bed by 3pm!

But, I keep reading lots of women saying the same thing ‘every pregnancy is different’ and that keeps comforting me. I try to keep telling myself that I’m pregnant and all is ok and send those positive vibes to the little baby that’s getting stronger every day in my tummy.

I think what you’re feeling is completely normal. Do you have anyone in the real world you could talk to? X

Hi, thank you for your response.
I've talked to one of my friends about it but it's a little hard as the fears are making me very selective about who I tell which limits my choices.
I guess it's a measure of how im feeling that im pushing this out into the realm of kind internet strangers.
Im hoping today has just been a particularly low one and that a good nights sleep will help. It's somehow comforting to know that im not the only one who feels this anxiety though so thank you for taking time to reply to me. It means a lot x

No problem at all 😊 the mumsnet ladies are so supportive.
Not long now to your scan, try and keep positive. Like you say, tomorrow is another day. Let us know how you get on. I’ll keep everything crossed for you. X

I understand how you feel. I've got a 3 year old son but since then I've had 3 miscarriages, one was a missed miscarriage but I have a strange discharge so I got it look in to and we found out before the 12 week scan that I'd lost it.

I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant due my 12 week scan next Friday and I'm absolutely petrified so much so I actually do not want to go. I've had bad Nausea and sore boobs and some sickness but the last two days that has mostly gone. It's a horrible time. It's so hard but I'm just trying to tell myself what will be will be and there not point stressing about it as nothing I can do will change anything. However that being said I've barely slept all week worrying.

Keeping everything crossed for you and I hope you get good news on Monday xx

Thank you, it's honestly a small comfort to know I'm not the only one feeling this. I'll be thinking of you next Friday too. You are very right in your thoughts too, I kind of came to that yesterday too, that if something had happened, I can't help it and hurting myself worrying about it is only going to make things worse. Take care of yourself x