Advice really needed

[plumsandpeachesx]

I don't know what to do.

I recently found out I am pregnant, no idea how far as I'm on the mini pill. I haven't missed any, so I really don't know how this has happened but this is besides the point I guess now anyway!

My partner and I already have 2 children under 2, 6 month old and 20 month old so as you can imagine, children weren't on the cards again or at least for a long long time!

We are soon moving into a relatives home so we can save faster for a mortgage, so this means we also wouldn't even have adequate space for another baby.

But I just don't know if I could get an abortion, I am pro choice, but, I really don't know if I could go ahead with it. Im just at a total loss. I also haven't told my partner yet because I just know exactly what he will say and I don't think I can handle a heated conversation like that right this minute.

So any advice would be great 💕 thank you

I just wanted to bump this up the thread for you.

It's a really hard decision, and I don't think anyone can advise you what to do without being in your circumstances. It's for you and your partner to decide together. I know a couple of people in a similar situation who did terminate, and they have no regrets, it was right for them at the time. They now have managed mortgages on family houses, so it worked best for the well-being of their families as a whole. But it's a difficult decision to take.

What do you think your partner would say? He would want to keep or terminate?

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 I know deep down he would want to terminate, so I feel like this probably will be the outcome but since having 2 beautiful children over the last 2 years I know il find this so hard to do.

Really feeling sorry for you to be put in this situation, it sucks. Hope someone comes along soon who can maybe help. Good luck whatever you decide xx

So sorry that you’re going through this. There are practical decisions based on finances and if you want another child so quickly. But also emotive decisions and only you can decide that. If your partner is anti then you need to think about if this is worth sacrificing your relationship for as one of you may resent the other.

You sound pretty torn so might be worth talking it through with a non invested third party so you can get your head straight.

Thank for your the advice. I'm definitely going to speak to him about it and express my pros and cons to it. Just can't believe this would happen to us know - it's something I never imagined would ever happen to me! I've always been absolutely fine on the pill contraception.

So sorry that you're in this situation.
I don't have any specific advice but just wanted to say you can be pro choice but not be able to face a termination, that is more than ok.
I hope you find someone to speak to for advice and support and sending you so many positive thoughts