Worried about movement... again.

[Evianontoast]

So I've seen on Mumsnet a few times people saying "welcome to motherhood, you'll worry about your child until you die" and I'm really beginning to feel how true that is!

Last week, at 21 weeks fetal movement was very strong, and I could see movement outside my tummy and sometimes jumped at how hard baby's kicks were. This week, I can barely feel her, even when I press my hand to my belly - they are there, but they're faint and I have to really look for them. I want to call my midwife all the time to ask if this is normal but I know from reading online a lot that you can't expect consistent movement until about 25 weeks. And I know she's really tiny and could hide herself away easily in my tummy but that doesn't stop me worrying. Honestly, if I called the midwife every time I worried about her movement, I'd be having her heartbeat checked every day!

Is anyone feeling the same? I feel I'm going mad waiting for her to kick hard again but I know that she will when she will, there's nothing I can do about it. I've tried the sugary drink and lying on my left thing but that doesn't help :(

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@JennaPenna anterior, so I know I can't expect too much! But it is driving me to distraction with worry.

Mine was anterior also, so I felt my first proper kick at 22 weeks, then not much for a couple of weeks.
26 weeks I'd say was the turning point for me where he was in a routine and strong enough to feel daily.
If you are worried give MAU a ring, I was in and out for afew weeks but they were more than happy to see me.

Honestly I know this is really annoying to hear and won’t take the worry away, but babies really aren’t reliable in their pattern of movement at this stage as they’re so tiny still. I used to lie awake poking to try and get movements and get sick with worry but my midwife wouldn’t even entertain it because it was so early (I even got a Doppler to help with my anxiety )

Give it a few weeks and you’ll be fed up of the kicks and jabs

@JennaPenna that's good to hear that your experience was similar, it's very reassuring - also that they were happy to see you.

@Thefaceofboe omg this sounds just like me at the moment. I'm too anxious to get a doppler because if I couldn't hear her heartbeat I think i'd really struggle with that. I can't wait to be sick of kicks :P

Thank you both, this is very reassuring.