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How long after MC to get pregnant

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Pixie921 · 30/08/2021 15:46

Hey everyone 👋

I found out recently I had a miscarried at 6 weeks, I had been off contraception for well over a year and it had taken from then until now to get a positive though we were going with if it happens, it happens. I didn't realise until I saw that positive on the test how much I actually wanted this baby, so to have a MC on our first one has been heart breaking for both me and my partner.

We want to try again but I'm not sure whether we should leave it for a while to allow for things to go back to normal? I feel time flying past me and that my time to try is restricted by other life plans - we have a holiday booked for next august which we have had to push on twice now due to Covid (it's with friends otherwise I think I would have cancelled this in the anticipation of having a baby by this time) our previous pregnancy would have worked well with the dates. My partner is telling me not to worry and let's just keep going we can always change a holiday, but I also don't want to let people down, but at the same time I am now at a point where a baby is all I want, it's so difficult and so confused at the moment.

I know everyone is different but how long has it taken people to get a BFP after an early MC.

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AnnieBanannie1 · 30/08/2021 15:49

Sorry for your loss.
It's advised to wait a cycle to try again.
Forget about the holiday for now, concentrate on what you and DP want (a baby) if you need to cancel the holiday next year due to being pregnant I'm sure people will understand.
It wouldn't enter my head tbh.
Good luck!

leakymcleakleak · 30/08/2021 15:53

Wait a cycle as it helps with dating then start trying. It took us 9 cycles after a miscarriage. I also made choices around trying because of other people's weddings etc, and I regretted that hugely when it took much longer than anticipated. I think just go for it and see what happens, the rest always finds a way to work itself out and imagine how bitter you'd be if you put off trying. for a few months due to the holiday and it ended up being cancelled for entirely different reasons.

Babyghirl · 30/08/2021 15:56

@Pixie921
They tell you to wait until all bleeding from miscarriage is complete as ur cervix is still open and you can get an infection, but I would wait until you get your next period to allow body to heal, took me a year to fall pregnant again have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp and took me a year to fall again until my forth positive took me 3 months from my 3rd miscarriage l, don't put to much pressure on yourself as it will take over your life.

mia2201 · 30/08/2021 15:59

It took me 2 cycles after my miscarriage, waited til after my first period though. First time it took us much longer, there's some data supporting the theory that your body is primed for a pregnancy and the second one can be more successful, I'm 29 weeks pregnant now- all going very well, it's soooo nerve wracking but it get easier. Stay hopeful, good luck. There will be more holidays, don't put trying on hold if you and your partner really want a baby 😉 also keep up with taking prenatals/folic acid x

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Pixie921 · 30/08/2021 16:01

Thanks all! The past 12 months has just been a hurricane of everything for us at the moment - not in a bad way for all things but everything seems to be coming all at once. I got made redundant from a long term role in March due to business closure, was lucky enough to land another role (though not one I really enjoy) so have been looking elsewhere, landed a job interview then found out I was pregnant. Interview was same day I was having MC symptoms but decided to go ahead with it, now have final interview - so again sat thinking should I entertain the idea of a new job if I'm planning on getting pregnant again. I'm sure I just worry for the sake of worrying sometimes!

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Tina8800 · 30/08/2021 17:52

Hi! I had a mc in November at 8 weeks (baby stopped growing around 5 weeks) My hormones were all over the place, my body struggled to ovulate for months. When I finally ovulated I had a chemical pregnancy in February. I also got pregnant in April and I`m 21 weeks pregnant now.
I guess what I am trying to say that we tried straight away after the bleeding stopped, and I am happy we did. I tried not stress about it too much (of course it is nearly impossible) and used this time to learn about my body, my ovulation and cycle. Your body will decide when its ready for a new baby, so just do whatever you feel its a best for you!

PartyPotato · 30/08/2021 18:29

Fell pregnant on 4th cycle after my MC

dg93 · 30/08/2021 19:40

I'm really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. We had a miscarriage at the end of March and then got pregnant end of may/start of June.

This was after not being able to get pregnant for 8 years! Apparently your more likely to get pregnant within 2 cycles of having a miscarriage according to my midwife

catinthehat12 · 30/08/2021 20:42

I had a miscarriage in Feb, stopped growing at 6 weeks but it was 10 weeks before I had the complete miscarriage. Had a totally normal cycle in March which surprised me, then conceived on the cycle after that in April. Now 15 weeks pregnant and had a totally different pregnancy to last time (lots more symptoms) and no problems so far. Was very relieved to see a happy healthy baby on the scan.

It really does feel like the absolute worst when you are in it and positive stories of getting pregnant quickly were soothing but also still not quite what I wanted. I wanted that first pregnancy to go well with no troubles and trying again seemed like such a long and painful task, however I can say now that it went so quickly really. Definitely don’t pause your life for it, carry on trying and the busier you can be the better.

catinthehat12 · 30/08/2021 20:43

Wow have really messed my dates up there, so pregnant in feb, but miscarried in April, then totally normal cycle in May and had conceived again in June. Still same gist but a couple months out!!

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Pixie921 · 30/08/2021 21:26

@catinthehat12 wow congratulations that's lovely news!

I definitely agree with you there, think I'm currently in the anxiety bubble of not wanting to let people down on future plans, but also wanting to progress to the next chapter of my life with my partner. Hoping once it happens everything will just fall into place as it should be but it's tough to run with that mindset at the moment. Think I'm also fighting a little doubt in my mind that we may get a BFP again and go through exactly the same.

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custardbear · 30/08/2021 21:30

I don't ha e much experience or data but I've seen trends in me/friends that it seems falling pregnant does happen soon after MC - my miscarriage specialist obs consultant said just keep trying abs don't listen to the 3 months thing
Good luck, and sorry for your loss

Rtmhwales · 31/08/2021 00:30

We started trying as soon as the bleeding stopped. I just got my BFP yesterday on the 8th cycle of trying. Conceived the pregnancy that ended in miscarriage on the first try so this felt like forever and was painful. We want one more so if this one is successful we plan to start trying right away again in the first 2-4 months after baby in case it takes so long again.

Whatever you feel is right. My doctor said there were no issues with trying as long as I felt ready and emotionally prepared. I will admit every negative was like being stabbed in the heart and compounded the grief I felt about the miscarriage but I didn't want to waste time either.

Chanel05 · 31/08/2021 06:33

Sorry for your loss.

I had a mmc at 8 weeks and I fell pregnant again 8 months after.

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Pixie921 · 31/08/2021 09:52

Thanks all me and DP had a conversation last night and we are going to start again as soon as I feel ready to. We are going to use the CB ovulation kits to see if this helps as with the last pregnancy it was by chance as we weren't tracking anything. Has anyone else used these before?

In terms of the holiday we are just going to go with the flow, if we get a BFP prior to it and we need to arrange that's what we will have to do, but who knows how long it will really take.

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Kateb47 · 31/08/2021 11:16

@Pixie921 I have a DD who is 5 had a blighted ovum in jan 2019 took until September 2020 had a chemical found out I was pregnant again and I am not 7.5 weeks. Not sure if this one is going to turn out to be good but I am praying. Everyone is different fingers crossed for you. It's a hard time TTC. I just feel lucky I have my little girl.

19annie86 · 31/08/2021 12:24

I had two periods after my miscarriage, although I don't know if I ovulated in the first period after or maybe I missed it, got pregnant after 2 cycles, good luck

grey12 · 31/08/2021 12:37

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks and got pregnant naturally straight away Baby is well and now complaining she wants to feed again..... teething

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