Help scared of giving birth

[Lily189]

Hi everyone I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant and my sons 11 months

Hes birth was traumatic I was induced and after 11 hours i was only at 4 cm and he went into distress his cord was wrapped around his neck and I had to have an emergency c section I lost alot of blood
And after a week a collection of fluid formed and my wound started pink fluid dripping out I had a month of being bandaged and on different antibiotics

It was so mentally and physically traumatic for me I felt I lost out on that first month with my son and it still upsets me
I've got a really bad fear of my next birth and I cant stop thinking about it I've had nightmares and I've got a fear of having another c section and dying and leaving behind my kids and I know it sounds silly but I cant stop thinking about it
I'm allowed to try for a vbac and I wont be induced as they said my body just didnt take to it

I really hope i can as i want to be able to experience a vbac and be up and about and do more this time and I want be able do stuff with my son

I'm actually considering a class my local mums group do that give people of traumatic births birth counselling classes that help you overcome what happened

Has anyone else felt like this and has anyone any stories of good births after traumatic ones all help and advise would be great tia

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All I can see if that most c sections won't be like this. If yours is planned it will be far more controlled and calm. Is a vbac what you're being adviced to do?
I absolutely would go for the classes you mentioned. Birth trauma is a very real thing!

Definitely try to find out if your hospital does a birth reflections service to discuss your previous birth. I had a lifelong fear of birth and it was the labour part that would have terrified me so I opted for a section early on. Your experience of the emergency section sounds awful. My elective section was so lovely and I’d do it again tomorrow without a doubt. I always think worst case scenario so I was sure I was going to die during it 🤦🏼‍♀️ But of course I lived to tell the tale 🙈 3 weeks on and I’m almost fully recovered. If you were to have another section, chances are your experience would be a lot better than your first. Hope you manage to discuss your options, find out what went well etc last time and weigh up what’s best for you