Work stress and problems

[Serevai]

Hi everyone

I don't really know why I'm writing this, I guess I just really need some tips and advice

To cut a long story short, work are being horrendous with me, the weird thing is everything was wonderful until I got pregnant, now it seems to be the norm for me to do two job roles and for my manager to get defensive and dismissive when I raise my concerns

Anyway, I am not writing this for advice with what to do at my job, I've approached all avenues I feel mentally able to at this point and basically I think the best thing for me to do is find something else if possible during my maternity. So that's not what I want to talk about, but just for background

What I'm looking for is help with the constant thought battle. Ever since al this stress I am constantly up in my thoughts about it. How could they do this to me? What a terrible situation? And I just want to stop thinking about it and enjoy the last few months of my pregnancy with my family and not think about my work load and how cruel I feel they are being during my time off

I have started meditation, what do you do when you just need to stop getting all up in your thoughts?

Hi,

So sorry for you, this is horrendous. It sounds very purposeful on their part which must be really hurtful.

I know it's a big part of life but if they are willing to treat you like this you need to start treating it as "just a job". Do what you can in the time they pay you for, no more, no less. When my work gets me down I just start to look at it as a list of tasks to do and try to complete them with as little involvement as possible.

As you say, you need to just enjoy your pregnancy. Think about it big picture, in say 20 years, what will you remember. The birth of your DC or these people. You'll literally struggle to remember their names.

Meditation sounds great. Maybe pop for a swim or do something to meet other mums to be 😊

Best of luck with it and with little one x

True story: I mentally go through all the English monarchs in order. I'm not suggesting you do that but perhaps there is something else you know that is mundane but you can use to mentally break your thought patterns?

Even something like a gratitude list? I hate the name of it but I do find it can lift my mood to consciously decide to spend some time focussing only on the good in my life. Big things like family but sometimes little things like how I remembered the toast before it burnt this morning.

Bless you, what lovely replies.

You have lifted my spirits xx

I had/have similar feelings regarding work, started my maternity now so no stress with that. As a pp said, I started to think of it as just a job, I turned up, did what I could and went home. I also vented when I needed. It helped me to have some things to look forward to once maternity had started, so had a massage the first week of leave, a spa break the week after and lunch dates set with friends 😊

OP this sounds like an awful position to be in. If I'm honest. I would get signed off sick with stress and leave them in the poop. Sometimes workplaces only appreciate what you do when you're not there.