20 week scan

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I’m due to have my 20 week scan on Friday but DP has tested positive on a lateral flow test. We’ve both been to have PCR tests today, and the hospital has said that, as long as my result and a lateral flow on the day are both negative, I can still go.

I’m really sad for DP that he won’t be able to attend the scan, though I know a lot of people were in this position last year during covid. We had hoped to find out the sex of the baby at the appointment, but I want us to find out together and a video call of the appointment doesn’t feel like the same thing. I thought about asking the sonographer if they could write it down and put it in an envelope for us to open together - do you think this is something they might do? Any other ideas for how we could manage this?

The only other thing we can think of is to tell the sonographer I don’t want to know and go for a private gender scan once we’re on the other side of all this - might be a nice way for DP to be more involved.

Of course, this might all be irrelevant if my test comes back positive anyway!

Can you rearrange your scan for the following week? Just call up the hospital and postpone and explain your DP has tested positive. think they'd rather you not come in anyway if in the same household as someone +ve into a place with lots of vulnerable women and babies

@Bells3032 yes I thought this was what they would say when I rang them, to be honest, as I was also worried about giving it to others. I think it’s because by the time the isolation time has finished I will be 22 weeks, so they didn’t want to leave it this late.

They wrote it down for me & DH was with me. There are signs up saying that they don’t usually do so, but will due to Covid at the moment.

Not all hospitals will, but I think the ones that won’t are the ones that don’t tell you at the scan either, so if they were prepared to tell you at the scan, you should be able to have it written down.

Or a private scan is a nice idea, if you’d rather find out “live” together.

In the end we didn’t look, our piece of paper is in the car somewhere and we’re going for a surprise

My SIL had to go in on her own in lockdown and they wrote it on a piece of paper and she opened it in the car with my brother afterwards. They put little hearts round it, it was cute and they tried to make it special. Good luck for the scan!

I think I'd pay for a private scam to find out the sex together to be honest, partly because it would be a nice thing but also because some trusts prefer not to tell you the sex as that's incidental to the scan (although I think most would have a look) and I've read on here some won't get involved in writing stuff down etc. But then others do so it's a bit of a lottery really.

They will most likely ask you if you know/want to know, I've had loads of scans across two children and that seems to be a standard ask but mainly to avoid accidentally revealing for those that don't want to know.

So long story short I think it would be lovely and much simpler for you to book a private scan, we had one this time and to be honest I was really impressed with it, it was a really nice experience.

I would really recommend private scan for gender - with my first it was more of just its a boy and done. This time around we went private an didnt find out at the time took it home and let a cannon off with my parent's and his parent's and my little boy in the garden, it was really lovely we recorded it and sent it on the family whats app group for everyone to know, it really was a special day, we all had dinner together first and then found out..... it was really lovely to make a fuss about it after all we have been through with lockdown's and covid ect.