My partner is irritating me

[miffy1894]

Ok I don't want to sound mean but me and my partner haven't been together long and we both have like very small chances of ever getting pregnant well I definitely do!

Anyway little things annoying me like I had to pay for them to come visit. If they move down they won't be able to get any benefits for 6 months making me basically have to move up north ( ain't happening).

They've showered literally once being here for two weeks! Constantly smells of BO my whole house smells bad, they're shoes omg are disgusting they even admit they're disgusting.

I've been in hospital alone with complications came home whole flat is yet again a tip. Nothing was done.

Then there's the fact they fall asleep take up all of my bed and gets super touchy geeky when they know I'm literally feeling sick all the time and then got funny because they said they were horny.

Eats me out of house and home and claims poverty yet spends the grand total of thier benefits on weed, granted they cannot have any other medication but survives on weed and energy drinks.

Also can't now sleep in my bed because when I got in it it was wet with sweat and I wanted to vomit.
I've found underwear encrusted with feaces.
Like this doesn't make me want to be around this person.

Not to mention I'm an avid gamer and haven't been able to do anything on my own computer since then being here as they hooked up their Xbox and the whole time they've been down here we've been on complete different times and they've been playing Xbox with thier friends every night till 6-7 in the morning.

I thought if I was pregnant I'd be out first but obviously the bad body hygiene is making me want to not be around them.

Also the blatant lack of respect for my property aswell.
The fact that I'm now upset because my family are coming to visit tommorow I was promised I would get help cleaning considering I e been in a&e alone all bloody day!
Was exhausted wanted to go to bed.
Got a lecture about how I shouldn't be friends with a certain person.
Now realising that I'm being crazy thrilled by someone who acts the victim.
But yeah lying on my own sofa unable to sleep on my bed having to clean half my house at 2 am because they were home all day worrying aparently ?!
No they were on the Xbox all day didn't do anything ?!
But happy to eat food I bought, promising to repay me for things and I'm like with what money.

Also spends more time on Snapchat arguing with an ex they still live with and planning on leaving in two months but I'm already done like this is to much work for me. I apologise but I needed to vent.
I thought it was perfect but I can't be with someone who can't even do the basics.

Maybe it's my baby brain just making me hate everything about them right now but just is anyone else going through this where just thier partner breathing makes you want to punch them in the throat, tell me I'm not going crazy

You're not crazy. Kick them out. None of that is acceptable and you deserve far more.

Definitely tell them to get lost

He sounds revolting. If he can’t look after the basics or his own personal hygiene- how is he going to help you with a baby?

Is this thoughtless, using, stinking, stoner who you want for the rest of your life? No. Tell them to shove off and block!!!

Ew... You just made my morning sickness worse 🤢.

Get rid, you don't need that dragging you down. Sounds like he can't even look after himself never mind a family! It's definitely not just the pregnancy talking... I don't think anybody with the right mind or not would want to be with someone like that. I could actually smell him from the description haha.

Sorry your going through this, try keep calm ❤️xx

You've moved a disgusting, lazy freeloader into your home and they need to leave immediately.

Omg he sounds vile I could cope with that

Sorry you need to get rid

Please just ask him to go today. The longer it goes on the more difficult it will be to extract him. I would go as far as to buy him a train ticket home so you know he is well and truly gone. Then you can look after yourself and baby x

This is not a person who is adding anything of value to your life. He sounds like a disgusting slob with no respect for you or your home. Tell him to go and start planning for having the baby on your own.

No. None of that is right on any level. You will be better off without this leach. Kick him out and start caring for yourself and the baby.

Is this a joke post? None of that is in any way normal or acceptable. Get rid immediately.

What are you getting from this relationship aside from cons?

I don’t mean to sound unkind, but this person is very very far from being in a position to parent a baby. I used to work in safeguarding and if I met you as a professional I think I’d be referring you to children’s services (not you personally just the situation) because it doesn’t sound suitable for a baby. There shouldn’t be smoking in the home, particularly not weed. The house also needs to be hygienic or the baby, particularly once they start crawling will get ill. There needs to be a commitment to meeting their needs both in terms of stable routines but also financially. And most importantly there needs to be loving and supportive relationships between the adults.
It sounds to me as though you know all of this and that you’re probably capable of doing this alone (with help from friends and family). But for whatever reason you are doubting yourself and questioning your standards. The baby needs you to protect it and give it the very best start in life you can. You know all of this isn’t acceptable. You’ve communicated this with your partner and he clearly doesn’t agree or want to do what it takes.
If I were you, I’d be doing as posters above suggest and being clear with partner that he is no longer part of the plan for the baby and needs to clear off. You can start looking after your own health, house and finances and plan for a different but altogether less frustrating future. Good luck.