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40+6 in hospital. Want to go home.

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Andthenanothercupoftea · 23/08/2021 23:34

Went in for my 40 week appointment today. Blood pressure slightly high. Normal all pregnancy. Had to be transferred to main hospital. BP pretty much normal and has been since I've been admitted. No preeclampsia/protein in pee. But they made me stay in and put me on meds (the lowest dose possible).

It's now half 11, I've just been woken up to have my legs measured for stockings as I might be induced tomorrow so I can't have blood thinners.

I'm in a room with 4 people. One is snoring. I'm
too hot. I'm exhausted already and going to be woken again at 2am for more monitoring.

I've been low risk my whole pregnancy. I've no idea what's going to happen tomorrow. I want to go home and get a good night's sleep. I'm going to be too tired to have a baby tomorrow.

I'm sat crying as quietly as possible and I'm a snotty mess.

Is there any chance they'll let me go home tomorrow if they can't fit me in for an induction tomorrow?

I wanted somewhere to vent.

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Senorasurf · 23/08/2021 23:40

I really feel for you, it sounds really tough especially knowing you want to be well rested ready to deliver your baby.

I can't make a decision for you. However, if it were me, I would have researched the life out of all the policies and guidance related to your current condition and weigh up the pros and cons. Have you asked the midwife/doctor the reasons they want to keep you in? Ask for the specifics (not the wishy washy speel they give just to get you to be passive).

Based on research and weighing up the pros and cons, I would likely go home and discharge myself.

With my ds, I was admitted for reduced movements the night before my scheduled induction. He typically started moving fine once I was on the monitor but the doctor wanted to keep me overnight. I discharged myself (after they tried to scare me into staying) as I wanted to be rested and calm ready for my induction. I am glad I advocated for myself as I feel the professionals are so overworked and worn down with policy, they fail to see the human side of it all.

Good luck OP.

Gem176 · 23/08/2021 23:44

I hate hospital so really feel for you and have had a day of rollercoaster emotions and there is nothing worse than feeling upset and a bit helpless due to lack of information.

You can go home. It's hospital not a prison, I think we feel so beholden to the professionals that we don't question or ask anything. Ask whatever you need answers to. They have to answer you.

If you are well and the only issue is one elevated blood pressure reading (check that is the only reason you are being kept in) then simply discharge yourself, go home, get a good nights sleep then return tomorrow if they want you to.

Why are they inducing you tomorrow if all is ok and you are low risk? I thought in general induction of low risk, complication free pregnancies was left until 10-12 days overdue? I'm not sure though as I'm classed as high risk so I've never even got to 39 weeks before.

Look after yourself Thanks

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Andthenanothercupoftea · 23/08/2021 23:45

I wish I'd pushed harder to go home earlier today, but I've barely spoken to a midwife since I transferred "upstairs". I think because I was admitted at a slightly awkward time - the induction midwife had gone home and the shifts were about to change.

I've been reading up and I'm on the borderline for the high BP. If it's the same in the morning then I'm going to ask to go home. But I'm now feeling really stressed, so I bet it'll be really high.

I can't so two nights like this. I was fine until I tried to actually go to sleep. But just as I dosed off she came to measure me for the bloody stockings.

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UpHillandDownAle · 23/08/2021 23:52

I appreciate it can be hard not being able to sleep well but I would personally be concerned about taking the risk that removing myself from monitoring could lead to. I presume they’ve asked you to stay to prevent possible adverse consequences for you or your baby that would be picked up earlier or responded to more quickly if you stay in hospital. The reason they’ve kept you in is because sometimes pregnant women with similar have had problems.
All the best with your planned induction for tomorrow.

DickDastardly · 23/08/2021 23:55

I appreciate it feels rubbish etc but for goodness sake, don't discharge yourself against medical advice. You're there for a reason - and that's to ensure the safety of both you and your baby. They don't have you taking up a bed for laughs. You don't know better, posters on Mumsnet don't know better than the medical professionals monitoring you, and you'll ultimately be just fine

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Andthenanothercupoftea · 23/08/2021 23:58

They are inducing me because of high BP and the fact I'm 41 weeks (tomorrow).

I don't see the point in trying to go home now. It would be 2am by the time I got home as my husband would have to come and pick me up.

If my BP is normal again in the morning, I'm going home. I wanted to earlier but I felt like I was on a conveyor belt.

This is exactly what I wanted to avoid.

Plus I feel so pathetic sat here crying,.it's not like me at all.

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Andthenanothercupoftea · 24/08/2021 00:03

I just don't know what's right anymore. All I can hear is being told how stress is bad for the baby, I need to be rested ahead of labour and I should keep active and go on regular walks etc. None of which I can now do.

I'm.not even on continuos monitoring. I was told I needed to be admitted at 3. Wasn't admitted until half 6. I've had my BP taken twice since then and it's been normal both times.

Sorry I'm ranting, but feeling very lonely.

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NoMoreTractors · 24/08/2021 00:04

I was kept in for one night the first time I was put on labetalol, I think it's standard practice due to side effects. I've fainted many times on it until dose is correct. With the induction there's a chance you may be sent home if you're OK and you're waiting for a bed to have your waters broken or a balloon is fitted. Try and take things one step at a time, for now just focus on getting as much rest as possible.

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Andthenanothercupoftea · 24/08/2021 00:05

I think part of the issue is that this morning my midwife down played it all, then when I got to the MAU there was no information - at 1pm I had my BP taken "the midwife.will.pop in in a few minutes". Then I was left in a windowless room for 45 mins. Then they took my BP again. Then

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Andthenanothercupoftea · 24/08/2021 00:07

Then I waited 30 mins to see a doctor. Then I was asked to sit in the waiting room as they needed the room. Then I was all of a sudden being told they wanted to admit me as although my BP was normal, it was the higher end.

I'm just frustrated with myself for going along with it all I think.

And now.someone has turned on their TV or phone or something...

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Hotpinkangel19 · 24/08/2021 00:16

This was me 4 years ago. Try and get some rest - I know it's not easy, but being stressed won't help. X

crobo87 · 24/08/2021 00:36

I've been in overnight twice due to high blood pressure.
When they start you on the medication they have to keep you in 24 hours to ensure you are on the correct dose. I assume they are doing your Bp every 4hours?

I'm 35 weeks now and stayed in at 28 & 31 weeks both to keep an eye on the blood pressure and ensure it stayed stable with medication.

I'd also assume they will want to start induction with you being overdue anyway but obviously that is your choice too xx

AvantGardening · 24/08/2021 00:41

I always find the act of making a cuppa quite soothing. I’d have a walk down to the canteen for a hot drink and maybe a bit of cake.

stardust40 · 24/08/2021 00:51

I has similar with dd2 .... they wanted me in for two nights before csection due to high bp. I ended up half in/out!! Used to come home and then go back for key times so morning there as doc round but then came home about 12 and went back about 9pm! Still kept the bed but gave me chance to go home and get some sleep!!

OliverBabish · 24/08/2021 01:09

I can completely relate OP

I was admitted at the end of my pregnancy out of an abundance of caution but they put me on a ward where another lady had hyperemesis and was vomiting constantly. I had no sleep for 24 hours and was exhausted and crying.

I pushed for discharge and they agreed, and I went back a few days later for my induction.

Nat6999 · 24/08/2021 01:21

I got sent to be "checked over" at the hospital, I had refused to go for 2 days before & then got told to go for a quick go at being monitored, they then announced they were going to induce me, I didn't get asked if this was OK or anything & being a first time mum didn't know I could refuse. I sat until nearly midnight before they found me a bed on the Labour ward as ante natal was full, I was dumped in a room & my husband & mum were kicked out. I was terrified & just wanted to go home.

RainbowMum11 · 24/08/2021 01:32

I understand that it's really hard and not at all how you hoped/planned it to be, but as someone who didn't get to bring their baby home - stay where you are and rest as much as you possibly can.
Your safety and that of your baby is the priority.
Hope you get some sleep and are well cared for tomorrow

2021mumma · 24/08/2021 05:43

I was admitted for 3 days before ending up having csection. I got no sleep and felt awful like you. Can you ask for a private side room just to get sleep or failing that get your partner to bring in earplugs and eye mask? Try and get more answers tmrw

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Andthenanothercupoftea · 24/08/2021 08:03

Thank you so much everyone. I managed to sleep a bit between the 2am and 6am observations which helped and had a little doze before breakfast.

I think it's the not knowing. The lady in the bay next to me is being induced and the midwife was saying how busy she was today, so I don't know if they'll be able to fit me in.

Going to have a shower after breakfast to see if that makes me feel more human.

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Bennetgirl · 24/08/2021 08:04

I really don’t understand why they kept you in if your bp ended up in the normal range??

If they don’t induce you today and your bp is ok I’d definitely discharge myself.

You might feel better today though once the hospital wakes up and you can chat to people.

💐 I hope you have your baby soon and get home x

Parsley1789 · 24/08/2021 08:26

Don’t discharge yourself against medical advice…as a pp had said, they’re not having you in taking up a bed for nothing.

HalloHello · 24/08/2021 08:38

High BP is a known serious complication of pregnancy, they aren't keeping you in for no reason. I have been in hospital for a week with high BP in the past and it's no fun but it's necessary. You will survive with broken sleep, you'll be getting even less once babies here! Everything always seems worse during the night but wait and see the doctors this morning and make a plan together. Try not to fret.

Mumtotwofurbabies · 24/08/2021 09:24

I really feel for you as I was in the same situation at 38 weeks in my last pregnancy. I was thinking the same that I couldn’t get a wink of sleep with obs and crying babies on the ward (I think it’s awful that they put people with pregnancy complications on the same ward as newborns!) and def felt it wasn’t good for my BP. With me they put me on Labetolol and when that settled things sent me home, but it took ages to be discharged due to short staffing I think and I was also on the verge of checking myself out of the hospital. My situation was a bit different as I had two weeks to go though

AngelDelightUK · 24/08/2021 09:39

Hope today brings better news

MissSmiley · 24/08/2021 09:44

Maybe you're about to go into labour naturally, all that crying is how my labour started more than once

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