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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Vanishing Twin?

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AussieSim · 09/11/2004 02:04

So after my scare on the weekend I went to see my OB early at 6 weeks, 5 days. I was suspicious that I might be having twins as I had all the symptoms and he confirmed it. One is definitely viable with a nice clear sac and a little flicker of heart beat and the other sac is murkier and so we couldn't determine if there was a live embryo in there. He has scheduled another appointment for me in 2 weeks at which time he says we will know for sure. I feel sad and a bit confused about it. I don't want to get my hopes up that the 2nd one turns out to be OK, the dr said he wouldn't put money on it, but it has certainly taken the edge off what should have been a very happy day.

Anyone else gone through this?

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fio2 · 09/11/2004 07:13

Hopefully evrything will be okay.

Not direct experience but my cousin had a threatened miscarriage only to find on her scan that she had lost 'one' twin and from what I can gather this is very common, although very sad Hopefully though your other twin will be okay and it will just be too early to tell. try to be patient, easier said than done I know.

Good Luck with your pregnancy AussieSim xxx

MancMum · 09/11/2004 08:19

this happened to me - at 11 wks 6 days I lost DDs twin - it is very common - about 1 in 8 pregnancies start as twin and end in singleton... I had a different situation in that both my babies were exactly the same all the way up to the scan that showed we had lost one...sorry that my experience does not help you but I take a huge amount of comfort that my pregnancy ended in the birth of my perfect DD - I am so sorry you have to go thru this - I still feel a year on a slight sense of loss but this is outweighed by the huge joy I get from DD - she is doubly precious to me as a result...

Will be hoping for good news for you

secur · 09/11/2004 09:15

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ZoeC · 09/11/2004 14:45

Hi,

Fingers crossed for a good outcome for both, AussieSim.

When I had my dating scan for dd, the sonographer pointed out where a second one had been but not developed. He said it was pretty common and would be absorbed by my body somehow (I never had any bleeding so it must have done I gues). Personally, the thought of twins terrifies me so it just put the wind up me a bit that it might have been, but as I found out so late on, I never thought of it as a viable baby which I suppose helped.

Try and enjoy the pregnancy and don't worry.

Lonelymum · 09/11/2004 14:53

I have been through something similar. It was my fourth pregnancy and, like you, I suspected I was carrying twins, but nothing was confirmed or even talked about. Then, at nine weeks, I started to bleed, was taken into hospital and found I had one healthy baby (thank God - for several hours I thought I had lost everything) and an empty sac. Fortunately, because I didn't know about the twin until I had already lost it, and because having twins would have meant I ended up with 5 children when I only wanted 4, I wasn't too upset about it. However, it is harder for you Aussiesim, especially as the outcome isn't certain yet. I would try to think positively about the one baby and if you end up with a second, it will be a bonus. I'm afraid, as others have said, it is more common than people might think.

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AussieSim · 09/11/2004 22:23

Thanks for all your stories and support. I am still clinging to the little bit of hope that the dr left me with yesterday, but the whole thing has hit DH and I quite hard. This is going to be the longest 2 weeks of my life. I can't forget about it for 1 second as I feel constantly nauseous from the double dose of pregnancy hormones. I wish I could just focus on the happy news about the healthy one, but it is very hard.

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nicmum2boys · 09/11/2004 22:37

AussieSim, really feeling for you right now. So sorry this is happening to you. I have no personal experience of this, but have experienced before (and am again at the moment, I am 6 weeks pg, had spotting last week) that awful period of waiting to see what happens. It is so confusing and frightening. The only advice I can give to both you and your DH is to go with how you feel at any one time. If you want cry, cry, if you want to shout, shout. Most importantly hold onto each other. This will be a very long two weeks I know. Thinking of you (((hugs))) nic x.

hana · 09/11/2004 23:16

AussiSim, congrats on your pregnancy.......
A friend had bleeding early on in her pregnancy and went in for a scan - it was twins and like you she had to wait a couple of weeks for a second scan to look again - an awful two weeks for her like you've said - anyways, her twins are nearly 1 now. A happy ending, and I hope you have one as well. Lots and lots of luck, hope the waiting isn't too terrible and you've got lots of support around you.

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AussieSim · 10/11/2004 09:17

Thanks guys. It is particularly nice to hear a positive story Hana. Crossing fingers and toes.

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secur · 10/11/2004 09:19

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Lonelymum · 10/11/2004 13:30

If I were you, Aussiesim, I would look upon the constant nausea as a good sign. As you said, it is caused by the double dose of pregnancy hormones and that means two babies. I thought I might be carrying twins because for the first time ever, I felt slightly sick in pregnancy. That sickness feeling went away the day before I started to bleed...
It must be awful to feel sick all the time, but perhaps you should be glad of it. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

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