I don’t know how to tell my partner I’m pregnant…

[Muminneed123]

I’m 25 and he is 30. We have already got two boys. I have always expressed that I wanted another baby, and he has always said he doesn’t. That was the end of the conversation. At the beginning of the year I came off of hormonal contraception because I couldn’t tell what was my body and what was the hormones I was putting in my body.

We have since been using condoms. My partner puts them on right, every time and we haven’t had any split.
In February I missed my period and didn’t have one for about 6 months. Tests were done and it turns out I had PCOS and that’s was what was causing the issues. I had a period and was told by doctor whenever I don’t have a period for a long period of time to regularly test so no pregnancy’s are missed.

This month I miss my period, so I do a test and it come out really faint positive. I went and got a digital and it came back negative. Ok no big deal sometimes it happens. My partner saw the test before I did and was SO happy and relieved that I was pregnant.

A few days have passed and I have been feeling really strange ( sick, light headed) so I thought I would do another test just for my own peace of mind and it came back positive again.

Now I’m about 80% sure I’m pregnant and I don’t know how to tell him. He was so happy with the previous test being negative that I know he will instantly be pissed.

My thought was to speak to the GP and get a blood test done to be 100% sure and then tell him if it comes back positive. Is that unreasonable?

Anyone else been in this situation? Please help!

A GP is unlikely to do a blood test to confirm pregnancy - they rely on the home urine test as they are so accurate. Digitals aren't as sensitive so take longer to show as positive, so as you've had two positives you most likely are, just at a very early stage.

Just hold in mind that this isn't your fault. You both had sex, this is both of your responsibility. He might be pissed at the situation, but it would be unfair if he was pissed at you. He needs to know ASAP though, he could be more angry/hurt if you hide it, especially as he knows that you have tested recently.

Just get another test. Then decide your actions going forward.

A dr wont give you a blood test.

Agree with the others that a doctor won't do a blood test.
If you need a little bit of time to get your head around this then take it but as for telling your partner start off with the fact you've been feeling sick and retested, it should then be pretty obvious what you're going to say.
Say you're shocked and you don't want to make any hasty decisions. It sounds like a very early stage so time is on your side.

I'd do another test and then tell him that you still didn't feel right and as one came up feint you thought you should do a final one before calling the gp to see whats wrong with you

If you've been using condoms and therefore have been adequately protecting yourselves during sex then he has absolutely no right at all to be pissed at you especially as he's the one putting a condom on.

No contraception is 100% and pregnancy is a risk when you have sex.

He is equally responsible for this pregnancy but tbh given his attitude I'd be considering if I wanted to have another child with him.

Hi all thank you for your suggestions. I told him last night that I was going to test again this morning.

I tested this morning and the BFP I had yesterday has gone to a BFN. I’m assuming that whatever was there isn’t sticking around.

Thank you for all your advice xx