Feeling anxious about early scan

[Waterb0ttle]

Just need to vent a few things really to anonymous people I think. I had a mmc at 7 weeks back in January, didn't actually get everything sorted until the April. Had 2 cycles and then in the July I found out I was pregnant again. Currently around 7 weeks 1 day, I've booked an early scan for when I'll be 8 weeks 4 days. But why do I feel so sad about it already so anxious and scared. Is this normal? It's always the same question 'what if?' I can't focus my mind on anything else right now, I feel like everything is fine I'm cramping in the right places, got all the symptoms, everything feels so different compared to last time but my mind will not switch off!! Constantly googling things I already now the answer too. Urghhh! I just need to know.

The anxiety is absolutely normal but extremely consuming after a mc. I had a late mc a long time ago (15 years) and it still plays on my mind. I'm currently 15 + 4 and still go into each scan/appointment adamant that something isn't right and googling every niggle thinking the worst. I havent got any words of wisdom but wanted to tell you you're not alone x

It's really comforting knowing I'm not alone thank you for that. My mind is actually on overdrive it wasn't I was really calm but ever since I booked my scan all I can think about is the bad news all over again I guess time will tell, its just hard at the minute

I'm so sorry to hear that you had a mmc ! I am 9w with my first but I had an early scan at 7w and it was all consuming leading up to it that I cried on my way to the hospital already prepared for the worst but thankfully I got to see the lil bean with a heartbeat. I've no doubt that you are being very careful and looking after yourself.
What I found helpful is writing everything down, bullet points.. doodles.. scratchy handwriting.. everything. and being kind to myself. You have people around that care for you so don't be afraid to lean on them ! Try not to google too much (easier said than done says myself the chronic overthinker!) but maybe focus on 2 or 3 sites.

Best of luck xx

Yes my husband and gotten me a notepad to write everything down in, and every now and then I let him read it and he write little notes in there for me makes me so happy. I'm been extra careful this time, I'm feeling a bit better now about the scan, I'm just gonna keep an eye on my symptoms and hopefully they will stick around and get worse 🤞 thank for your kind words

Hi @Waterb0ttle you are not alone, it’s so normal to feel like that in pregnancy after loss. I am 6 weeks today and I had a scan today where I couldn’t see much and I can’t help but overthink it, mainly because I have had 4 losses and no living babies.
I’ve got another 2 week wait now til my next scan and not sure how I’m going to get through it 🤯

I'm super anxious over here too! Also had a miscarriage at 7 weeks end of January. I'm kinda trying to ignore it til i get over 7 weeks (still taking my vits ect) but can't bring myself to call GP to arrange midwife booking as of yet, feel like i am tempting fate so super on edge! Sending well wishes for your upcoming scan

@Lottie840 I am the same! I phoned the midwife team on my first pregnancy, but was to anxious to call for my next 3 pregnancies. Unless I have good news at my 8 week scan I won’t call either, although I don’t advise that to anyone else reading this! The Tommy’s midwives are really good, anyone can call them for advice mon-fri. I’ve spoken to them a couple times over the last 7 days

@MrsS89K So upsetting isn't it! And such a hormonal time too, just too much to process! So sorry to read of your losses, fingers super crossed and a hand hold for your next scan x

@MrsS89K and also did not know about the Tommy's midwives option so that's a great shout, thank you!

Hi, thanks for you kind words! I'm sorry to hear about your losses its so upsetting isnt it. Everyone keep saying just enjoy your time love every moment but I just can't yet. I'm trying to train myself to believe what will be will be. I also didn't know about Tommy's midwife, that need to be advertised more. Thank you for telling me that, I have my fingers crossed for your scan in 2 weeks time, please keep me updated all

I feel you. Just had my early scan yesterday on my 30th birthday. After 2 losses in this last year and Sweden not doing a whole lot of ultrasounds except 12 and 20 weeks, I felt like it would be good to squeeze in a time just to put my mind at ease.

I was super nervous and had butterflies yesterday and all throughout leading up to my appt but we got good news and I feel so relieved. Just keep in mind that while yes there is a 20% chance of loss there is an 80% of everything being great, I just tried to keep those odds in mind as they were in my favor :)
Now I get to think my little alien gummy bear is the cutest thing ever 😂
Good luck and just try to breathe 💕

Oh I'm so happy your scan went alright and baby is fine 😁, I'm literally counting down the days trying not to stress myself out to much.
Did you feel better after your scan or do you still feel the same?