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Waiting to see if I have miscarried

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Nicolelinda96 · 15/08/2021 10:54

Hi guys. I’m a 15f with no known conditions which may affect pregnancy. I found out I was pregnant about a week ago and according to my last period, I should be around 6 weeks.

I started bleeding about 3 days ago. It started as the tiniest pink smudge and has progressed into what looks like a regular period. I’ve only had minor cramps and otherwise feel well. There was also a couple of teeny tiny clots, although I’m obviously unsure if more fell into the toilet or not.

I’m going to hospital tomorrow morning and they will try and ultrasound. They will also draw more blood and will have two samples to compare.

All hope is gone for me at this point. I feel awful emotionally. I know in my heart I’ve lost it, but a tiny part of me is hoping that by some miracle it’ll keep fighting.

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Nicolelinda96 · 15/08/2021 10:55

Just to clarify, I am not 15 I am 25!

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haidri · 15/08/2021 12:37

@Nicolelinda96 just know that you're not alone. I'm also 25 & just went through two miscarriages consecutively with no previous children. You're going to make it through! Love yourself more than ever r

Nicolelinda96 · 15/08/2021 19:14

I’m also very confused because according to my last period, I should be about 6 weeks in, but I took a clear blue digital test a few days ago which said only 1-2 which probably actually means 3-4 weeks?

Surely that means my appointment is somewhat pointless?

My doctor said to not postpone my appointment, but if it’s not conclusive I simply will not cope. I’ve barely clawed my way through waiting two days, so another week at least is unfathomable.

They will however have two blood samples 48 hours apart to compare, which I’m hoping will give me my answer

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Everybodysaycheese · 15/08/2021 22:17

I didn't want to read and run and I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Unfortunately with miscarriage there is a lot of uncertainty and waiting which just adds to the pain. I wish I had known prior to my scan that it could be inconclusive (as in my case it was) and I had to wait a further fortnight for the inevitable to be confirmed. So please be prepared this could well be a possibility.
Hopefully this won't be the case for you (I also bled for a few days with a pregnancy that resulted in a healthy baby.)
Thinking of you OP and whatever the outcome tomorrow sending you strength to get through. 💐

Nicolelinda96 · 17/08/2021 11:07

It was an early miscarriage. I feel physically fine but have cried nonstop for days. As my hcg was extremely low a few days ago, I’m having a hard time allowing myself to think there was ever a baby inside me. Why do I feel like I’m grieving if it was nothing to begin with?

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glowingtwig · 17/08/2021 11:21

I'm so sorry @Nicolelinda96 . You're grieving all the hopes and the way your life could have been if this pregnancy had worked out. It really is the hardest thing I've ever been through and I have cried and cried over early mc.

Don't let anyone invalidate your loss because it was early and low HCG. Don't let yourself. You will come through it and everything will feel less awful and grey in time. But for now sending Thanks xx

Nicolelinda96 · 18/08/2021 21:28

I’m just wondering. About a week/week and half before this happened I got a 1-2 result on a clear blue when I should’ve been 4-5 weeks. I’ve heard these aren’t amazingly accurate for everyone, but my mind alongside the very low hcg (29 about 12 hours after I’d started bleeding ) is convincing me that it never developed into an embryo, which of course is possible but I can’t take the pain of not knowing if the little life inside me that is started to love so much and call my bean was nothing more than a fertilised egg, especially as I’m considering a tiny memorial tattoo for them .

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haidri · 18/08/2021 21:48

@Nicolelinda96 don't question your worth. But question everything & take the frustration out. Grieve your happiness

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