Miscarriage 19 weeks.

[Jessicamcc]

Hi! So I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago at 19 weeks I delivered our little boy Leo. We have a 3 year old at home so it’s been such a hard time and he is begging for a baby. Anyways just wanted to get opinions/success stories if possible of when you started trying and if you went on to have more children? We have no idea why Leo’s heart stopped beating waiting on post mortem results..I did however have preeclampsia my first pregnancy so I don’t know if this could have been related! Thank you

Just wanted to post to say I am so sorry for your loss 💕 sending lots of love to you and your family x

So sorry for your loss x

So sorry to hear this. It really is an awful thing to happen

We also lost a baby at 19 weeks, it took a long time to recover (emotionally) and I was still crying sometimes over 18 months later but it does get easier I promise.

I felt desperate to have another child, also had an older child, though she was only 19 months when we lost our baby, but I felt such guilt about giving her a sibling. Luckily we fell pregnant 3 months after losing our baby, but the next pregnancy was so so hard, both physically and emotionally (the worry, several bleeds and bad spd).

Dd2 is now nearly 3 and honestly, I still occasionally have a little cry thinking about what happened and our baby we lost, but it is definitely not all consuming grief anymore and hasn't been for quite a while now. I try and see it that if I hadn't lost our baby then we wouldn't have dd2 and I couldn't imagine her not being here, kind of everything happens for a reason thinking.

My advice would be, keep talking to your partner, be kind to yourself, it wasn't anybody fault, it just happens sometimes, thankfully seems quite rare for a later loss, get through the funeral and allow yourself to grieve

Oh and we never got a reason, they did blood tests to check clotting I'm my next pregnancy but no post mortem or anything here we were just told it was 'one of those things'

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my baby in April at 18 weeks too, so know how you are feeling. I have started trying again now - I wanted to wait for the post mortem results to come back to know what we were up against. There was absolutely no reason for the loss and that was quite hard to hear, though does give hope for the future. I have been able to access grief counselling and have started a course of acupuncture to try and help with healing - I am not sure how I would have been able to process my grief otherwise and hope that you have support in place? Lots of love and luck to you x

I’m so sorry to hear this, what a heartbreaking situation :( I hope you don’t mind me asking what were your symptoms/are the symptoms for losing a baby this late? I ask as I am currently 20 weeks pregnant, I was feeling movements regularly and feeling quite ‘pregnant’ up until about a week ago but since then have felt nothing and just have this strange anxiety that something isn’t quite right. 20 week scan due very soon. I’m sorry for crashing this thread with a personal question.

@Rach888 have you spoken to your midwife? It’s always worth raising any concerns. Hope everything is ok and your mind is put at ease soon

@Derbee thank you. I tried to call but couldn’t get through. I’ve had no bleeding so I think they’ll probably just tell me it’s fine and to wait for my scan which is next week. I just can’t find much online about what the symptoms are for later losses.