When did you tell people you were pregnant?

[Poptarts26]

I'm only 4 weeks along but I really want to share this news with my Mum - is it too soon?

We won't announce it generally until 12 weeks but I'm feeling quite anxious about everything at the moment and could really benefit from being able to talk to someone whose been through it all before and doesn't mind listening to all my irrational thought processes!

You tell when you want to. I didn’t tell till 12 weeks because I was worried if anything went wrong I would have to deal with my mom which would be stressful! But it sounds like in that situation you would want your moms support anyway.

Congratulations btw.

12 weeks. Felt like tempting fate otherwise.

I would have told my mum sooner but she was living abroad and I didn't want to tell her over the phone.

If you’re close to your mum and she’s supportive then definitely tell her. My general rule was I would tell those who I needed support from if things went wrong. I’m not one for announcing anyway, so still haven’t told people if I’ve not seen them
and I’m 32 weeks today!

I'm not close with my mum but if you're close with yours I would tell her whenever you want...because you would tell her if something went wrong...but in terms of announcing to everyone I waited until after my 12 week scan then told people

I told my friend early (5 weeks) because I wanted some support and she’d miscarried previously so I knew she’d understand if the worst happened. Family at 12 weeks and then friends. We didn’t do any SM announcements as not our thing.

I told no one except DC. Lost all 3 prior to 12 weeks and glad with the decision we made.

It depends on whether your private news would be shared with wider friends and family, even if you asked it to be kept secret. So many threads on here where it wasn't kept private. Do what you feel is best for you and your partner and congrats.

*DH not DC!

After the NT scan which was about 12.5 weeks

I always told my mum within a few days of knowing.
Generally didn't tell anyone else until I'd had the first scan.
With my last pregnancy it was twins and I only told people in person if it came up in conversation- most people didn't find out until they were born!

I told my sister as I needed support and knew that she would not tell others.

Thanks everyone!

We're not big social media users but have a weekend away with all of our closest friends at 13 weeks which seems the perfect time to get everyone caught up on the news.

Think I'll tell my Mum in the next few weeks as we're really close and I'm driving myself crazy worrying about things. If things didn't work out for us I'd have told her anyway so I think that's the only reason I can think not to share the news with her early.

Straight away to my mum - literally after each bfp, I'd tell dh and then message my mum. We are very close though, and I knew I'd want her support if I miscarried (which I did with one pregnancy). By the same token I also told one of my good friends around the 6-8 week mark each time. Again, she was hugely supportive when I miscarried at 11w as she'd been through it too. I do have friends who've not breathed a word until after their 20w scan because they wanted to keep the news private and that's fine too. Whenever you feel ready is the best time - there is no right or wrong answer.

Yes definitely tell anyone that you would share news of a miscarriage with. I know most people leave it till 12 weeks, but you'd pregnancy, you'd choice!

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Congratulations!

I told family at 4 weeks in my first pregnancy and had a missed miscarriage. In. Second pregnancy, I told the after 12 week scan.

I found it so hard to wait when we found out as early as you. However, we held off until about 7 weeks when we had a private scan which showed a heartbeat.

Told people as soon as I had a positive test. In fact I told my mum when I only suspected I was, then confirmed it when my tests came back positive.

I'm really glad I did because one of my pregnancies ended in miscarriage and I was able to have some lovely support from people.

I don't think there's a 'right' time, just whenever suits you really.

It sounds like you would benefit from telling your mum at an early stage so do what is right for you.
My mother couldn't be trusted not to tell other people. My father could be trusted but I wouldn't put him in the position of knowing and me not wanting him to tell her.

I told my mum at about 6 weeks because I was so unwell and honestly couldnt hide it! If I hadnt have had hyperemesis I may have waited until 12 weeks but it felt good knowing that someone was aware that Im growing a human.
My work had to know quite early because of H&S so it was only right in a way that my mum knew before them.
Everyone else found out after the 12 week scan.

Told both sets of parents pretty much straight away. Some friends about 6 weeks whenever it came up. I wasn't interested in pretending to be on antibiotics or anything in the pub (which basically screams I'm pregnant anyway). Before first scan anyone we told was always with the disclaimer that it is very early days and anything could happen.

First time I did have a miscarriage and was relieved to have a few different people I could talk to about it but lots of people would feel the exact opposite. There is no right or wrong, it's just a matter of guessing how you might feel if it does go wrong.

I told everyone as soon as I knew. Only in o person, I'd never announce on social media or anything. I've miscarried before too and I'm also happy to let people know if I miscarry because it happens to a lot of women and I am open to talking about it as I want to normalise it and miscarriage is nothing to be ashamed of. I think many people wait until 12 week scan in case they miscarry in first trimester but if you're up for being open to taking about miscarriage then you can tell anyone you want. You'll surely want your mums support if you miscarry OP?

100%, my Mum is brilliant and I tell her most things - she's had a miscarriage herself so I don't think anything bad can come of telling her. Thanks everyone for replying, feel a lot better about telling her beforehand.

@Poptarts26

100%, my Mum is brilliant and I tell her most things - she's had a miscarriage herself so I don't think anything bad can come of telling her. Thanks everyone for replying, feel a lot better about telling her beforehand.

I told my mum at 6 weeks, my dad at 7 weeks and I've just announced to family today at 12 weeks. I'm not announcing to friends until 14 weeks, which is when my "12 week scan" is with the nhs.

You can announce whenever your ready

I told my family quite early on, I have hyperemesis and without telling them I wouldn’t have been able to manage - I have a 6 year old and a puppy! I’m currently on sick leave now at 10 weeks so if I hadn’t have told them earlier they’d know by now, it’s completely up to you when you tell people, everyone is different!
It is nice having someone to be able to talk too in the early stages ♥️

I told my mum straight away, I would have been about 5 weeks. We then told immediate family a few weeks later as it was Christmas and they would have sussed me not drinking anyway.