Sex and Pregnancy

[Lunamoon20]

Hello, I’ve come to ask for some advice or if anyone has been on the same boat!
I’m 35 weeks pregnant nearly 36 and I haven’t had sex for the whole 8 months….
It’s all been on my part (sometimes my partner too) but I have gone off it completely, I just don’t want it, I don’t want to be touched, I don’t want any physical contact at the moment and it’s honestly made me feel sad even though it’s been my problem! I’ve also been a bit nervous to have sex as well not just not the wanting to be touched part even though thats a huge part of it.
I just feel so awful for my partner, he’s be so so understanding and patient with it all (I know he’s not getting it else where) but he’s just been catering to me and my needs at the minute and nothing is too much for him (he’s honestly the best person I’ve ever met I don’t have a clue what I’d do without him). I’m also worried that will sex go back to normal after not having sex for 9 months maybe more, I still fancy the pants off him like it’s unreal bur I don’t want to be touched not that I didn’t want to touch him if that makes sense, sorry I’m rambling on a bit, did anyone else not have sex for the whole 9 months and it go back to normal while being first time parents?
Thanks!

Anyone at all?

I didn’t feel like this but I do know friends who did so you’re definitely not alone. I’ve just had my second and sex during pregnancy was fine but I’m now trying to breastfeed and can’t stand the thought of being touched. I’m hoping it will pass.

Hopefully someone will be along with some better advice.

Honestly, don't worry. I didn't have sex during both pregnancies due to cervical erosion which made it way too sore even for internal examinations.

All was fine aftet birth and was no longer painful. The men just need to accept it and get on with it until you're ready lol

@HyphenCobra

Honestly, don't worry. I didn't have sex during both pregnancies due to cervical erosion which made it way too sore even for internal examinations.

All was fine aftet birth and was no longer painful. The men just need to accept it and get on with it until you're ready lol

How did you know you have cervical erosion? I find sex during pregnancy really painful making it impossible. There's no other symptoms of problems though.

To answer the OP, my sex drive has totally gone too. I just feel bloated, tired and gross most of the time.

I had light bleeding both times around 18 weeks. When they did an internal they could see it was on my cervix (cells growing on outside of cervix). Maybe ask your midwife to refer you for someone to look at it?

I'm exactly the same when pregnant I have no interest whatsoever in sex and with DD my sex drive didn't really make an appearance until my periods did. I'm currently 8 weeks pp after DS and I've a bit more interest but unfortunately DS is a clingon so opportunity is never there to test the waters. I'm sure once DS is less clingy and sleeps on his own for longer periods we'll get our mojo back much the same as we did after DD.

We were still having sex occasionally during pregnancy, but the last time it made my skin sore and caused a little bleeding - all fine but it was scary so we've agreed to wait until after to try again. We are still making time to have some intimate moments though, I have actually found my sex drive going up again now I'm in the final few weeks, so I'm looking forward to the day we can have sex normally again. It's been very up and down, depending how I've been feeling. My husband is very patient as well. I'm sure we'll get back to normal, just don't know when that will be.

Yep it came back. I got very upset too as the mind was willing but my body was decidedly not! My DH is like yours though and he could sort out his own needs quietly for a few months without any bother.