Sex wasn't an issue when i had my 1st and 2nd..... til the end of my pregnancies, it may not have been as frequent lol but we still had our moments.
We suddenly found ourselves pregnant last year and at around 6 months the fun stopped :/
After i went in for the kill i could see my husband just wasn't enjoying he was merely going through the motions. He just didn't find it comfortable and said he found it strange this time. Fair enough. At the time i went into sulky omgosh you think im huge mode. 🙈🙄
Anyway our daughter was born in March!! Its now August and since that very moment at 6 months when it was 'awkward' nothing has happened since. 😬
We've spoken about it, well tried too. Its hard but its left me in a bad place, we've just lost all connection with each other- a foot rub was about it when i was 6months - 9months. We barely kiss now or hug anymore. The longer it goes on the harder it is. With breast feeding is hard because i feel like im just sat in the livingroom most days - nights tv is on we barely exchange words, on our phones or feeding upstairs ready for her bedtime he'll be downstairs squaring up the kitchen, i find im in bed before him.
Our baby has been sleeping through the nights for nearly 2 months and we tried to start at home date nights (movies/video games/cooking....whatever) we've literally just ignored our own goal and missed 4 fridays doing so because we're doing our own think (me bath him crappy tv) we haven't committed once 🙈
Im actually nervous about being intimate and feel daft like i can't get into it. Ive definitely got a wall up. Plus i really dont wanna go back to contraception (im closer to 40 than 30!) Ive done my bit - no more pills for me etc. But Im terrified of getting pregnant again (our 3rd was a blessing/suprise) but he won't consider the snip. I know he loves me - he tells me 🙄
Will things ever change ?? Im feeling so lonely and disconnected from him. Tell me this is normal 😢