Third trimester - emotional and scared

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I’m 29 weeks after 2 miscarriages, this will be our first baby.

I was feeling really excited (and also have been anxious throughout the pregnancy on and off due to the losses) but hadn’t really thought much about what it will actually be like when the baby comes as we’ve just been living week to week hoping the pregnancy continues to go well.

I suddenly feel extremely emotional and like I’m on the verge of tears all the time, I’m also feeling scared. Is this normal?

I guess it’s all starting to get very real and I’m worried about how we’ll cope, and hoping I’m happy when the baby comes.

This baby is obviously very much wanted but I keep getting scared that I might not love him or that we’ll regret it. Which feels awful to even type. Help! I hope I don’t feel like this forever 😞

Anyone..?

Completely normal and I am very confident that you will adore your baby! I cried every day towards the end of pregnancy. I think it was the combination of tiredness and hormones.

Sorry for your losses and best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy xxx

Thank you so much @bongbigboobingbongbing ❤️ I feel a bit better today after getting a better nights sleep last night. My emotions just build up and I get so overwhelmed.

Apparently in the third trimester your hormones and brain heighten your fear and worry feelings to make you more cautious! Fun!

Tell me about the terrible hormones...🙈

I am 34+1 weeks and I am due next month and I am feeling the hormones are terrible 😞 again...

I am overreacting to everything ,crying for absolutely nothing 🥺

It’s not easy to be pregnant 🤰🏼

Good luck to you 🥰

@Krista1991 yes! Same, is it your first baby?

I found it overwhelming having both sets of parents over last weekend expressing how excited they are and how they’re looking forward to seeing each other again when the baby comes. It was all a bit much and I’m scared of having so many people descending on us when I’ll be recovering from a c section and generally the shock of having a baby to look after! Although I am grateful for loving family who want to be involved

No this will be my third baby 🥰

But the last few weeks I am feeling overreacting to everything 😟

Crying for no reason 🥺

Aww bless you @Krista1991 ❤️ Amazing, third baby! So it must be great if you’re doing it for a third time ☺️

I start crying and I just don’t know why! Or worrying about the future. Hormones all over the place.

Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes really well ❤️

I am 32 weeks and queen of hormones too. I could get a gold medal in weeping at the Olympics. The other day I was supposed to make breakfast for both DC but forgot the little one was at home (off sick from nursery) so only made it for the big one. I was absolutely inconsolable when I realised my mistake. How can I have another baby when I can’t remember how many children I currently have etc. Breakfast was a bowl of cereal.

It’s completely natural, if not very practical. And having a baby is a lot. I was quite strict on not having too many visitors at once and allowing recovery time but thankfully people were pretty understanding.

Urrhg the dreaded hormones!
The crying is bad enough but I also became very irritable and (in hindsight unnecessarily) jealous! Yep utterly convinced DH was looking elsewhere. I don't know where it came from and had no basis in reality. He thought it was amusing though!
But your situation is not only very common but also very understandable. You've experienced major loss in a society that still fails to acknowledge the pain of miscarriage.
I would not be surprised if these feelings are your ego/brain trying to protect you from pain. You're so close now but it's totally understandable that at least unconsciously you are reluctant to fully relax and look forward to your baby.
The hormones just help to enhance those feelings.
The only thing you can do is keep treating yourself with kindness.
Before long you'll be on day three when your milk comes in and then you'll really be tearful!

Obviously that's my stupid attempt to cheer you up, but I want to wish you every joy with the rest of your time before your darling little one arrives!