Positive Stories After Miscarriage Please!

[AmyS12]

Ladies I’m in need of some positive stories after chemical pregnancy. TTC has become an emotional ride for me and mentally feel drained and starting to become negative and worrying I have something wrong with me.

First time TTC - chemical pregnancy at 4+4
This is first cycle after loss and I’m at 13 DPO - super faint lines and now cramping and spotting.

Worrying I’m having another chemical which will be 2 in a row. Please anyone give me some hope or words of wisdom xxx

TTC after MC is incredibly emotional and stressful. The only thing I’ve found that helped me when I fell pregnant following a MMC was - nothing I can do or say or think will change the outcome of this pregnancy. I tried to just be fatalistic and also as the pregnancy progressed in the early weeks tried to just focus on ‘trusting’ in the process.
Also, a friend of mine said to me after her MC that she tried to just see it as nature’s way of preventing pregnancies that weren’t medically healthy and as upsetting as it is she had to accept nature’s decision. I found some comfort in that to a certain extent also. Sending lots of positive vibes to you and hope this is a sticky bean.

Thanks so much hun! Your so right I really need to trust the process. Think being such an anxious person anyway and this being my first doesn’t help!

Sending positive vibes your way too! 💖💖

I, too, had two miscarriages (both MA, both around 9-10 weeks, with surgical management). Trying to concieve after the miscarriages is emotionel and stressful, trusting your own body and the process is almost impossible and the apparently succesful pregnancy afterwards (34 weeks today) is the scariest thing I've ever done. The only thing that helped me was coming to terms with and accepting how scary and difficult this is. Your feelings are just that - feelings - and not indicators of how the next pregnancy go.

Thank you so much for sharing your story, this is really good advice! @Cantbebotheredwithausername

I’m so sorry to hear about your 2 loss and congratulations on being 34 weeks!

Sending lots of love and luck with your soon to be bundle of joy!! 💖💖💖

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. We started ttc as soon as the bleeding had stopped and I fell pregnant with DS before I'd even had another period. I know that's not what they'd advise but it was what we wanted and i honestly didn't expect it would happen that quickly! Easy pregnancy and a healthy baby boy at the end of it

All the very best to you

aww this makes me happy for you @KurtWilde
This is the exact same scenario as me although you hun was further along than me I’m sorry 😢

I had a chemical just before 5 weeks, ovulated 2 weeks later and now I’m going through the dreaded 2WW now hoping it sticks!
Congratulations on your baby boy 💖💖💖

I'm keeping everything crossed for a sticky little bean for you

In 10 years of TTC I've had a ruptured ectopic & mc at 7 weeks but I'm now 24 weeks with a healthy, wriggly baby. There is hope after loss although the anxiety never goes away in my experience. Sorry for your loss & good luck to you

@AmyS12
I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp ttc num 1 still not got there yet, I have lived on being told your more fertile after a miscarriage but that's not true for everyone, I fell pregnant every September for the first 3 pregnancy's so took nearly a year each time but 4th I fell pregnant in January there lost at 6 weeks and still trying so don't beat yourself up if it does nt happen straight away, and as much as I hated hearing it don't stress urself and try to relax goodluck and hope the nxt one sticks 💚

Our current baby is now 38wk, she follows 2 miscarriages at 8 & 9 weeks and a few chemicals since our last live births (twins). Our 2nd child followed 2 mc's at 12 & 8wk, our 3rd child followed a mc at 8wk too. I've never counted how many chemicals I've had, back in the early days of becoming a parent tests were not as sensitive (only got bfp with our eldest after 6wk) so I just put it down to being late.

Thank you so much @KurtWilde 💖💖

Thank you for sharing your stories @JackJack84
@Babyghirl @Chelyanne

My heart goes out to you all and your losses. I think I painted this out to be a fairytale journey and in reality for most of us it really is the opposite!

Think I’ve had a reality check to be totally honest, I’ve found so much comfort in all of your stories knowing I’m not alone in this.

Good luck hun with your last few weeks @Chelyanne!

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy @JackJack84!

And I’m sending lots of baby dust to you @Babyghirl

Thank you ladies for sharing your stories 💖💖💖

@AmyS12
I'm in a thread ttc after a miscarriage if you want to pop on over ladies r all going through the same thing, I can tag u in it if you want.

I am just 39 and have had 1 mc and 6 chemicals (5 of which were consecutive months). Took a ttcbreak and so glad I did as it was all getting to be a bit much. I needed to step away and reclaim my body.

My issue is my overreactive immune system killing off pregnancies so about to start steroids next month. A lot of women who struggled for a long time have had good results from immune system treatment - the “pred thread” on Mumsnet is a great and inspiring series of threads, highly recommend.

Thank you all again for your stories.

Update - I’m having another chemical pregnancy which is my 2nd in a row.

I don’t have the words at the moment and am just praying I can have in the future a healthy baby.
Xx

@AmyS12 - I'm sorry for your loss. Going through repeated miscarriages is so hard. I know exactly what it feels like when you just don't have the words.

Where I live, its only considered "recurrent" miscarriages after the third, so two miscarriages don't warrant any tests or medical investigation at all. After my second, it all felt so hopeless that when I tried to concieve the third time, I really only figured it'd turn into my third miscarriage so I could have the necessary tests and the hopefully be able to get the treatment I needed to actually have a baby.

I dropped my phone and accidently hit post before I was done. The point of my story is that a healthy pregnancy is still a likely outcome for you the next time, event though I know perfectly well it doesn't feel that way at all right now. Fingers crossed - I hope the very best for you.

@AmyS12
So sorry ur going through this again, and hope nxt one is a sticky one for you, unfortunately where I'm from they don't take chemical pregnancy as a miscarriage so maybe phone your doctor and hopefully they can do a few blood tests for you 💚

Thank you both @Cantbebotheredwithausername and @Babyghirl 💖💖💖