Feeling indifferent to pregnancy

[bluegrass1]

Hi all :)

I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant. When I first found out, I was thrilled. For about three to four weeks I was very excited and happy.

In the past month or so, however, I've been feeling completely indifferent to the pregnancy and the prospect of becoming a mother. I don't feel depressed or sad particularly, but I just don't feel any interest in babies, or any connection with my own in there. I don't feel maternal at all, and I've suddenly lost all interest in anything baby or pregnancy-related. I have to make myself read updates on the baby's development etc... because I just feel impassive and detached.

Did anyone else feel like this during pregnancy? Did it change after you gave birth? Is this normal?

P.S It's my first pregnancy, and it was planned

I absolutely hated being pregnant, and was pretty indifferent towards DS when he was in utero. Didn't feel a bond, didn't like being kicked, felt like he was a bit of an abstract concept.

As soon as he was out, I felt like I'd known him forever. Didn't get a rush of love exactly, more a rush of familiarity. Never had any issues bonding with him and he's 2 now. We get along much better now we're not sharing a body.

@allfurcoatnoknickers that's reassuring, thanks!

Hiya, I’m 31 weeks and feel pretty similar. I have had an easy enough pregnancy so far and feel very lucky (long may it continue) however do have a definite disconnect with what is happening and like my brain hasn’t caught up. At the scans, as amazing as they are, I felt like it wasn’t necessary inside me that I was looking at. I have movement now obviously and most of the time it just feels like a normal feeling and I can’t register its a teeny tiny person making this, I’d compare it to if your belly grumbles or churns and you’re just used to it.

We are currently decorating the nursery and I’m going to start packing my hospital bag in the next couple of weeks, I am hoping that might help me register what is about to happen but equally maybe it won’t until there’s a baby at home with me!

I felt like that both times. Suggestions to 'talk to the baby' seemed weird. Scans weren't emotional...I just didn't feel much other than the stress of getting everything done.

As soon as they were born I loved them so much.

Just don't put pressure on yourself to feel a certain way. It will happen.

@georgarina

I felt like that both times. Suggestions to 'talk to the baby' seemed weird. Scans weren't emotional...I just didn't feel much other than the stress of getting everything done.

As soon as they were born I loved them so much.

Just don't put pressure on yourself to feel a certain way. It will happen.

I also thought talking to the baby was weird. I talk all the time - I have a job that involves a lot of talking, so how would the baby have known I was talking to him?!

We did used to poke eachother though, that was quite fun in boring meetings. He would kick me, I would poke his foot etc.

I felt a bit like this until around 18 weeks, not that I was unhappy being pregnant but it was unplanned, it all felt a long way off and I had zero symptoms so it wasn't really on my mind at all. I was also conscious of not wanting to make a big deal out of it so early on. It was only at 18 weeks when I started telling people that it all became a bit more real.