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Is it normal to be put off your partner when pregnant

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esther13 · 01/08/2021 13:21

Need some advice as I'm stressing out.
I am 22 and already got 1 child and I'm a single parent.
I've Been with my new fella (who I have been best mates with for 4 years) for about 6months now and I'm pregnant again.
3 months into the relationship it was really good. I found out I was 6weeks pregnant last week.

The past 4 weeks we have been arguing none stop. I cringe as the topic of sex and hate when he even tries to give me general affection.
I feel like he's constantly around and it irritates me.
At the start of the relationship I would of been happy to be pregnant but now I feel it couldn't of come at a worse time because of how I'm being.

That being said I don't know if I am generally just loosing interest or it's pregnancy hormones kicking in.

He is so nice all the time and would literally do anything for me but even that is grating on me.

Just recently smelling his breath makes me heave so much. on the odd occasion we do share a bed, I sleep right on the edge lying away from him so I can't smell it.

I have been talking about my issues with him and he just apologises and gets upset. Which I hate because it's not his fault and I want nothing more than it to work out.

I am worried and upset at the thought I aren't feeling the way I suppose to when having a baby on the way.

Do you think this is hormones or just that I'm generally not interested.

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AnonymousXXIX · 01/08/2021 14:06

Every situation is different so no idea! But in my case: couldn't really go near DH entirety of 1st trimester & still not as keen as before now in 2nd trimester. 100% due to pregnancy and not how I feel about him. I'd say just wait and see? Maybe even as long as until the end of the '4th trimester'? Because that's how long I fear I'm going to need. ..

HalloHello · 01/08/2021 17:54

Very different situation to you, but I am 36 weeks and haven't been intimate with my husband since the night we conceived 🙈 absolutely no desire to touch or be touched. Even hugging is a bit annoying. It will go back to normal though, did exactly the same with our first.

Chelyanne · 01/08/2021 18:03

Not uncommon.

I'm finding my husband really irritating this pregnancy, I'm generally more irritable now due to pain/discomfort as I'm huge at almost 38wk. Doesn't mean I don't love him, he moans but he'll get over it.

Peachee · 01/08/2021 18:19

Yeh totally normal. I was repulsed by my other half in the first few months. We also argue more as I am a highly strung unreasonable pregnant woman most of the time. My hormones take over. X

Peachee · 01/08/2021 18:21

I will add it’s important to talk about it and have a laugh about it all otherwise it just eats you up from the inside. Have a laugh about it because once the hormones calm down and you feel more normal again (in my case at around the 11 month postpartum mark) you wonder whatever went on xx

esther13 · 01/08/2021 18:43

@Peachee

I will add it’s important to talk about it and have a laugh about it all otherwise it just eats you up from the inside. Have a laugh about it because once the hormones calm down and you feel more normal again (in my case at around the 11 month postpartum mark) you wonder whatever went on xx
Thanks for you input on this! I was concerned it was just me. Especially with having a child before and not feeling like this (granted I was still very emotional ) I don't know how to deal with my emotions and feelings at the best of times let alone when pregnant. Just glad to hear it's not uncommon.

Xx

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lockdownbabyx · 01/08/2021 21:21

@esther13 firstly congratulations! I just wanted to let you know that I felt exactly the same in the early weeks! My DP is so supportive and caring and I just went off him completely, everything he said and done irritated me. At night time when we would try cuddle or kiss me I would cringe. The smell of him, his aftershave, shampoo, everything just made me feel sick. I just didn't want him near me and I felt awful. I remember worrying that I'd gone off him and I'd made the biggest mistake by having a baby with him. However, after a couple of weeks all those feelings disappeared and I was back to loving everything about him again, it was very bizarre lol. I'm now 27 weeks and if anything I love him more, I want him around me all the time 🤣. Xx

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