He wants me to abort? Pls help

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Vbxxx · 31/07/2021 11:33

I found out I'm pregnant and at first my boyfriend was pleased he was happy but then after he changed asking do I really want it can I cope saying things like we don't live together it's gonna be hard it's not the right time. I'm in two minds about it I feel like he's edging more towards he doesn't want it he asked me to call some places about it. I know it is super hard I'm finding the morning sickness so bad I'm not eating and I haven't told anyone else about it I feel so alone I keep crying at the thoughts of getting an emotional I don't know what to do

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H8theW8 · 31/07/2021 11:43

A few things to think about...

What do YOU want?
How old are you?
How long have you been with your partner?
How far along are you?
Are you financially secure?

If you've just found out and it wasn't planned then it's bound to be a massive shock to both of you but, assuming you're only 4/5 pregnant, you have time to think things over. Don't make any rash decisions x

Skiptheheartsandflowers · 31/07/2021 11:54

It's your decision. You're the pregnant one. Do you want a baby? If you don't you can terminate but don't do it just because of pressure from him. Have you got a friend or family member you could talk to about this?

MintMatchmaker · 31/07/2021 11:59

Do not terminate because he wants you to. Decide what is right for you. It’s very easy for him to say when he’s not the one who’s pregnant or would have to go through the termination.

He’s entitled to an opinion but the final decision is yours to make.

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Vbxxx · 31/07/2021 12:15

@H8theW8 half of me wants a baby and would love one with him but he keeps putting all doubts in my head negative things and I'm trying to think positive I'm 24 we've only been together 5 months and I'm 7 weeks Im just unsure atm x

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Vbxxx · 31/07/2021 12:17

@Skiptheheartsandflowers hi thanks for your reply I live with a family member but it would be really difficult to tell them they wouldn't understand I kind of really only have my bf to talk to about it

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Viviennemary · 31/07/2021 12:20

Its to do with what you want. Don't be persuaded against your will. In any case even if you do have an abortion there is no guarantee he will stay. Maybe counselling would be a good idea if you are very unsure. You've not been together very long.

H8theW8 · 31/07/2021 12:21

@Vbxxx you can make an appointment with your GP and they can refer you for some counselling. It's a HUGE decision and it really would be helpful for you to be able to speak about thinks with someone neutral who will not pass any judgement on your situation x

Babyghirl · 31/07/2021 12:33

@vbxxx
Don't let him pressure you in to anything at the end of the day it's your choice, if keeping it will ruin ur relationship so will an abortion cause u will resent him for making you do it so either way it might not servive, can you talk to a family member your close to or family friend 💚

Chelyanne · 31/07/2021 12:41

Firstly tell someone other than your bf who is clearly trying to push you to do something you are not comfortable with.
You need to take time and decide if you could cope with becoming a single mother, if you will have family/friends for support. He can express his opinions but unfortunately for him it is your body and you get the final say. Good luck whatever you decide.

I've been where you are with our 1st. He wanted a termination but I couldn't do that. My family were very supportive and I told him I was doing it with or without him. Our eldest is 15 now, we're still a couple and expecting our 6th child. Looking back he was just scared as we were very young, life was tough in the early years but things got better.

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Vbxxx · 31/07/2021 13:08

@Chelyanne thanks for your reply I'm gonna try and speak to a family member about this xx

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