When does the shock go away?

[Sydney199]

I am 5ish weeks pregnant and have known for 9 days now and I am still in complete shock. I feel like I am having an out of body experience. FYI - We were TTC and it happened in the first month. I know I am absolutely blessed and I truly thought I would be beaming ear to ear.
At first I was in denial about the lines - false negative or evap lines surely!? But then a clear blue digital 3+ weeks made things a little more real .
Aside from the first day where I went into organisational mode and booked all my appointments and tried to read up on my hospitals etc, I have been in complete shock and denial. Lots of tears.

We are so ready for a baby in our lives and that change does not scare me. Being a mum would be my dream come true. However, I am just terrified of anything medical, changes in my body (on the inside, not looks wise), being pregnant and giving birth. I get hot and sweaty, hear ringing in my ears, faint or have to lay down for needles, getting my blood pressure checked or even sometimes just being in a doctors room (pathetic .... trust me, I know... !). I have really worked on shaking this off with age and I have improved, but it's still the one thing that gives me anxiety. It also runs in the family eg. my cousin would faint every time he visited my grandad in the hospital.

So like the title suggests... will the shock settle down and is this at all normal? I feel awful. But maybe the shock is just my coping mechanism for right now. I accept I might not love^ pregnancy but I want to be positive, tough and enjoy it as much as I can. I know it is a beautiful, natural thing - but I can't apply that thought on me yet.

I have signed up for counselling through NHS, IAPT thanks to reading someone's suggestion on this website - thank you.
And thank you for reading my long post x

My oldest is 3 in December and I'm still in shock that I made him!
We struggled for 7 years ttc
But honestly the shock for me never went away 😂

Same as PP - DD is 19 months and I still have 'wtf how am I am mum?' moments.

But in a good way. Enjoy it!

I'm 26+6 and still in disbelief that I'll have a tiny human to take care of at the end of this pregnancy quite often catch sight of my bump in a mirror and think where did you come from 😂

The initial ‘not feeling real’ bit changed slightly for me at 12 weeks when I saw the scan and could see an actual baby was in there. Then when we told some people that made it a bit more real life too! The fear part of it I can completely relate to. I’ve had a lifelong fear of giving birth and wasn’t sure how I felt about being pregnant either. Always used to say why are pregnant people not just in a constant state of panic sitting in the hospital car park in case anything happens? 😂 Turns out (for me) the being pregnant part has been completely fine. Literally so uneventful and quite underwhelming compared to how awful I was expecting it to be. Have heard people saying how sore your back gets.. never had a sore back once. Have heard people saying they can’t sleep and need to get up every hour to pee.. until this week (38 weeks) I’ve slept about 12 hours a night 😂 The only bad thing I’ve had is a bit of heartburn! The birth bit I presume most people start off scared of and eventually become chilled about it. That’s not me though! It’s still my number one fear on earth. I’ve requested a c-section since my booking appointment at 6 weeks and it’s now just over a week away. I’ve never been in hospital for anything so the idea of an operation is freaking me out but I feel that the situation is much more controlled so for how anxious I am, it’s the better option. I’ve had my blood taken about 4/5 times and a whooping cough vaccine so that’s the only bit you’d need to get through. Maybe numbing cream would help. You just need to decide how you’d prefer to give birth and what you could cope best with

I'm 34 weeks with my 2nd baby and I'm still denial!! I mean, I'm more accepting that I have a baby in me and it will be coming soon... but I don't feel ready for the changes to my independence and easy lifestyle!
I think seeing the scans makes it more real (although I still said to the sonographer, "that baby can't be in my tummy... I just don't get how that happens!" I mean, I know the science, but it still baffles me! LOL!)
But when my first was born and I had to ring the Drs and said "it's for my daughter", I nearly laughed as it sounded so weird and I couldn't possibly have a child!

No advice from me. I found out 5.5 hours ago and feel like im having an out of body experience

I found out in a similar way to you. We were actively ttc but it happened on our first try, period was 6 days late and we didn't believe the first positive test 🤣🤣 it took a good few weeks for it to set In and I'm now 25 weeks and pretty much over the shock now. I never ever believed in my wildest dream that it would happen so fast .

Thank you so much @feb2022 @Zarene @mooloop @SillyBry @romdowa. I loved reading all your messages. It was calming to know others experience the shock and it's not just all pure excitement (even when TTC).

@sarah13xx, your message was so kind and reassuring, thank you. I hope that change happens for me at the scan too... and some excitement starts to outweigh my fear. I am glad you had a breezy pregnancy compared to how it was built up in your head and I wish you all the very very best for your delivery!

@Stunnedandshock Wow, Congratulations! Were you TTC?

Congratulations stunned, sydney .

I think for me when I started feeling regular movements - around 20 weeks? Then it was like, right, OK, there is definitely a baby in there . Though I also agree with PP - my daughter is nearly four and I sometimes look at her and wonder how I made her.

41+4 here and it's taken me to this point (well about a week ago) to actually feel like I want to give birth and have a baby, if only because it will make a change from being pregnant 😆

I think you will be absolutely fine, and you may be overthinking things. We have this romanticised idea of pregnancy and parenthood when in reality... it's just life. Enjoy the good bits: and congratulations!

@Sydney199 I think like you, I’ve always fallen pregnant very quickly… this time, I had lost a Fallopian tube with an ectopic pregnancy and was expecting this to effect my fertility… so I was expecting a long haul… and then fell pregnant straight away. Which is amazing and wonderful, but heck, it doesn’t give your brain long to get around it!! 😉🤣

@Sydney199 no, we weren’t trying! DP had a vasectomy reversal 2 years ago (to the day!) We did the op to give us options in the future, but weren’t definite about a baby. We’ve been using apps to track “safe” days to have sex, but obviously something has gone awry! 🤣

About 20 years in my experience 😂

Congratulations 💐

I have a 13 month old and am 7 weeks pregnant with my second (planned). I'm still not over the shock of being a mum to 1, never mind 2 🤯

My LO is nearly 3 conceived via IVF and I still can't believe he's mine!
Don't think the shock ever leaves you tbh!
Congratulations!