Struggling at 6+6 weeks

[Moonandstars2118]

Hi all

After trying for 6 months with PCOS I was so so happy to find out that I was pregnant with my first, two weeks ago. I didn't have any symptoms, just missed period.
But last weekend .. morning sickness kicked in massively. On Sunday I spent all day in bed feeling like I was hungover. This week has been a real struggle, I've had no energy, been nauseous and sick much of the day and felt so emotional. I spent all of Monday crying my eyes out for no reason.
I saw my midwife for the first time on Tuesday and she took bloods etc and said that what I was feeling was normal. But now it's Friday and I just don't feel like it is normal. I'm working from home and my job is stressful with a lot of calls and today I had to throw the towel in and say that I was going to be off sick (but i'm still having to answer emails) and I've stayed in bed.
I can't even keep down water right now BUT I'm worried that I'm making it worse for myself by giving in to it and throwing up when the urge comes over me rather than trying to hold it in.
Pre pregnancy I was quite "sicky" I'd get motion sickness sometimes and on a hangover... wow was I sick all day afterwards. And when I was sick it would be like I'd get in to a cycle where then I just couldn't stop heaving (sorry tmi).
I just don't know how I am going to get through the rest of this trimester as I feel so down and pathetic... everyone else seems to handle pregnancy so well and I feel like this means I'm going to be a useless mum. My OH is really supportive but I can tell he is surprised at how ill I seem at the moment and is worried for me (and the baby).
I feel like I'm going to have to tell work what's going on really early and I think I'm going to tell my mum tomorrow which might help.
But I just feel like I can't cope with this for the next however many weeks / months :(
And it's so weird too because as ill as I am, I don't really want the symptoms to go away because at least at the moment I can be hopefully that the baby is well...

Not really looking for any specific advice, just needed to get it off my chest.

I am in a very similar boat, have been struggling for about 3-4 weeks now. I’ve carried on working but know that my work quality has dropped. I get moments that I can do well, but find that is after days of rest and staying in bed which just seems so impractical. I wasn’t such a sicky person beforehand but have suffered with nausea from travel sickness a lot and when hungover, and as I feel like that 24/7 now, I am sure it’s related.

No tips or tricks from me, it has been awful but, like you, my miscarriage before this means symptoms are preferable than not, which seems so ridiculous to say when I can’t live my life very well at the moment. Definitely do not feel pathetic, there are lots of us in this same boat. The first trimester is unbearable.

Have you spoke to your GP? You can get anti-emetics that might make your life a bit easier. I am still trying to find what works for me but they can give me a bit of hope on my worst days.

Chin up, I've been feeling the same.

Wasn't a planned pregnancy this time so only had a week from finding out to feeling like absolute shit!!

I honestly was wondering how I'll cope for another 5/6 weeks! I'm constantly nauseous and am limited on what i can eat massively.

Doesn't help when DH and my boss act like I'm being a primadonna 🙄

Cannot wait to feel normal again it's so draining feeling constantly sick 😪

I suffered with nausea so bad from week 6 to week 17 when it just dissapeared, im 34 weeks now and it hasnt come back at all since then 🤞 I was advised to have drinks with electrolytes in them to help, and foods like ginger biscuits and dry plain toast/crackers helped a little.

I was told by my midwife if I struggled to even keep water down to let them know incase they need to send me into hospital to be put on a drip so I didnt end up dehydrated, so if you arent keeping water down I would speak to a midwife again. There are anti sickness medications they may be able to put you on if you are really struggling

It is normal but it doesn't make it any less hideous OP. It really takes away from the joy of finally being pregnant. I've been there - twice!

Hang in there. The days go slowly but the weeks eventually pass and once you've had the scan the whole thing feels more real.

I personally found things got a lot better after 15 weeks

ps: yes as previous posters said if you can't keep down water call your midwife or go to hospital as you may need some rehydration help

Thank you everyone for your kind comments. It does feel better hearing that others struggle as well and that it’s not just me who is not coping well.
Thanks for the advice too. I managed to keep some water down last night so hopefully won’t need to go to drs.
I feel so much better now it’s Saturday, I think it’s the stress of trying to continue as normal at work… so may have to tell my boss next week if I still feel as bad.
Hope everyone else has a good Saturday. Thanks again xx

If you feel bad enough honestly just get signed off for a bit. It's not worth struggling through. It's only a short chapter of your life and you do need to look after your body and baby. The weird thing about pregnancy is that it does start to prepare you for being a mum as it forces you to focus on that one thing

Hi everybody, just wanted to put it out there that a few weeks ago when I was 7 weeks I was having extreme nausea but I just couldn't keep water down. After 3 days I went into A&E and they said if you can't keep ANY water down for more than a day, then definitely come in.

I ended up having such high Ketones to the extent I was borderline having diabetic ketosis.

So please make sure you don't go days without fluids as I was on a water drip for a few days but because my body did not have water for so many days, I was vomiting even with water drips!

@YukoandHiro that comment has really struck a chord with me… I defo know that I’ve spread myself too thinly in the past and thought that when baby comes I’m going to go all in on focusing on that. But you’re so right that it starts now really! Thank you.
@haidri thanks for that advice too I’ll keep that in mind and hope you’re feeling better now.

Glad it was helpful @Moonandstars2118 - it might be useful to remember that in the first 12 weeks after birth too. My first time I had a rough first month with lots of hospital time then tried to make up for it by rushing out and doing lots. It was a mistake as you just need to listen to your body and rest when you're helping, focusing on just your baby and you. Second time round I really committed to just resting and feeding for the first three months and it made everything so much easier

@Moonandstars2118 I literally could have written this! From the PCOS, sicky hangovers to the stressful job (and the constant meetings) I’m 6+3 and really really struggling as well, I just feel so drained and exhausted it’s really getting me down. I can’t even do my job properly because my head is just gone, all I can think about is how rubbish I feel. I don’t have any advice but just to say you aren’t alone & I hope you feel better soon! x