How did you tell your boss your pregnant? And when did you tell them?

[sas94]

I've just got a new promotion, so very nervous to tell them! I'm currently only 10 and a half weeks!

I told mine last week at 20 weeks, we're all still working from home so I've been able to hide it well! I told him over Zoom and was worried about telling him but thankfully he was really nice and genuinely seemed pleased for me. I was really worried that he would be annoyed because he would have to find someone to fill my job whilst I'm off but when I told him I was worried he said that as the manager, it's his job as the manager to worry about that and to find cover and I shouldn't worry about it at all.

I hope your manager is as understanding as mine

As above I waited til 20 weeks with third pregnancy because we were wfh, told work at 17ish weeks with previous pregnancies because we were face to face and it was getting more obvious! Was given a promotion while pregnant (After they knew) with one of my DCs so don’t let that bother you!

I've still not told mines due to working from home, I'm currently 17 weeks. I do plan to tell him soon though. It's been so easy to hide! I kept delaying it as I don't want anything to change and I don't know how he will react (he's not a nice boss). I will have to tell him soon incase he tries to get us back into the office.

"I've got some jews"
"Oh fuck you're not pregnant are you?"
"Yeah"
"Bugger. I mean congratulations. OK we'll get your cover sorted"

We have a pretty chilled relationship!

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Not Jews! Fuck's sake autocorrect what are you doing?

I told my boss quite early each time (this is 4th pregnancy), around 7-9 weeks. I knew he wouldn't spread it further around the office, but they can't get maternity cover for my job so need time to work out how to redistribute my work.

I told him yesterday actually, if we were in the office I'd have just walked into his office and asked for a chat. As we're working from home I sent him a message and he rang me back to talk it through. I wanted to tell him early this time partly because they are starting to open the office up again and I didn't know if it would affect my going back in.

Mine usually find out shortly after I get caught vomiting due to morning sickness. Early days atm, but I'm hoping to make it beyond 8 weeks before everyone finds out this time.

I told mine at about 6/7 weeks but I needed a risk assessment and I wasn’t able to do some site visits due to nausea. I told him over phone as we’re still working from home, he said “oh, ok. Congratulations, I guess” 🤷‍♀️ He was very stunned, like I’d told him I was pregnant with his child! But he’s a bit socially awkward and that’s why a few weeks later he’d already jumped to working out when I was going on maternity leave.

I was just gone on 6 weeks and I fainted so I had to tell him.
I'm a nurse in a high risk area too so also would have probably told around that time anyway so I could see occupational health for a risk assessment.

8 weeks because I vomited all over my clothes and hair on the way into work and I needed to let them know why I was going to be so late.

He walked into the room i was in alone to get some paperwork, I said I have some news and told him straight out. He's a lovely but slightly socially awkward man in his 60s! He smiled and said "okay" and then left

A few hours later he said congratulations and enquired when I would be likely to go on maternity to check he had worked it out right!

Much earlier than intended, around 6 weeks, as I was so sick I couldn't possibly work, even from home. I did it by email, have since spoken to manager who has been lovely and also discreet (as they should be), no one else at work knows yet. I plan to tell my staff after 20 week scan, working from home so easy enough to hide for now.

When I was about 6 weeks pregnant my lovely boss announced she was leaving and her replacement wanted to organise a meeting with me to discuss plans for the department, business plan for the forthcoming year etc. He was angling for the day before my 12 week scan but I managed to push the meeting to the day after didn’t want to say anything sooner in case of MMC and I didn’t feel I could do the meeting talking about the forthcoming year when I knew I’d only be around for half of it. So the day after my 12 week scan. I was so nervous but they were lovely about it (well, until the pandemic hit and they decided they couldn’t afford a maternity cover for me despite only paying me SML but that’s another story…)

Thanks everyone for this! Im in the process of getting a new contract so I'm going to hold off until I get it. My 12 week scan is next week so I'm hoping I won't start showing anytime soon!!

My boss is hardly ever in the office so I might set up a call with him! He's quite awkward and doesn't have kids so I'm not sure on his reaction.

Congratulations to everyone on their pregnancies xxxx

I told my senior nurse straight away, we're a small team and I knew I'd anything happened I'd need their support. There was also stuff I had to montior like how long I was in an AGP for so I just wanted to be open. When I told her she said-
I thought so, don't expect it to last 🙃🙃

@sas94 if it's your first you probably won't be too noticeable until about 16 weeks that's when I popped. It's quite noticeable now at 17 weeks unless I wear one of my loose tops. My boss is both not a nice person AND awkward so that's what's putting me off but will have to tell him next week as I'm now showing. I think we will feel better once it's done too and we can relax 😅

[quote 2020mission]@sas94 if it's your first you probably won't be too noticeable until about 16 weeks that's when I popped. It's quite noticeable now at 17 weeks unless I wear one of my loose tops. My boss is both not a nice person AND awkward so that's what's putting me off but will have to tell him next week as I'm now showing. I think we will feel better once it's done too and we can relax 😅 [/quote]

@2020mission ah that's useful to know thank you! I know its so nerve wracking! They don't have much rights trying to sack us at least but it's just the anxiety of waiting to tell them 😂

I have a really good relationship with my manager and told her at 11 weeks (nearly told her at 7 weeks when we went for lunch and she brought up preganacy as she knew I was thinking of trying, she was saying what a good mum I would make 😂 Managed to keep quiet).

I didn't tell HR or Senior Management until after I had my scan and screening test results at nearly 15 weeks. I manage a team so my cover needs to arranged in advance as I will need to support and train them before I go on Mat leave.

Told him at 6 weeks by throwing up on his shoes.

@sas94 I agree with @2020mission - unless you’re absolutely tiny if it’s your first you’ll probably be able to go ages until you show. Unless I wore something tight I wasn’t really showing until 5 months.

I'm 7 weeks and thinking of telling my boss soon. I think they'll need time to plan cover... I'm not sure if I should push to continue working from home though, I teach medical students, so reasonably high covid risk as they are in hospital. Has anyone else thought about this? I guess I'll just have to wait and see what the risk assessment says. I should add that I can pretty much do my entire job from home

I don't start my new job until September, by which time I will be 16 weeks, so told them at 10 weeks. I was soooo worried about it, I was making myself ill. They were shocked, and the big boss was not impressed but they thanked me for being honest so they can put things into motion early. Hadn't not have been a brand new job I wouldn't have told them until I couldn't hide it any longer.

Do what feels best for you. They cannot do anything about it, but I feel that it is really sad times that in 2021, woman still feel nervous because discrimination is still active.

I had to tell my boss quite early on at about 6/7 weeks as I’ve had hyperemesis and spent much of the early days violently spewing in any available toilet and have ended up having to go to doctors/hospital for medications/fluids.

I told my boss around 10 weeks, mostly just because I knew a slew of doctors appointments were coming up and I felt like I would need to provide context.

I think it depends on your relationship and how things are.
First pregnancy, I’d worked for my boss for years and we were very close. When I was about 8 weeks, I realised he was going to be travelling and I wouldn’t see him until I was 13 weeks. I wanted to tell him before I announced it to friends/wider office, so I decided to tell him in confidence super early.
It went like “I’ve got some news. I’m not sure you’re going to like it!”
“Are you pregnant?”
“Errr yes, we’ll, a little bit, how did you know?!”
“You’ve been weird eating your lunch at 10am most days… and it’s hardly unexpected!”
He then gave me a huge hug and told me he was very happy for me.
Second time, I had a new boss, who I have only actually met virtually as he is US based. I had been hospitalised with an ectopic pregnancy months earlier (just as I was moving over to report to him…) I probably could’ve waited a long time to tell him as he wouldn’t ever see my bump! But I had quite a lot of medical appointments so I told him once I’d had my 12 week scan. I just felt it was only fair to tell him sooner rather than later.