Ten weeks pregnant at 45 and all the fears

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I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago after thinking I was just tired from starting a new job. We've been trying for years and had 4 mcs in the past before 7 weeks (two mcs last year), so naturally I am terrified that this is going to go the same way. A scan last week showed a normal sized embryo at 9 weeks with a beauty of a heartbeat - it's the first time I've got this far. I've now got to wait for the 12 week scan to see if it is hanging in there, and this wait is destroying me - particularly as I haven't had any strong symptoms, just tired and swollen breasts. I guess I'm looking for other people's positive stories, particularly anyone else in their 40s who got a pleasant surprise when they'd given up all hope.

Oh my god I've got everything crossed for you OP. You're 10 weeks, you've never got that far before. Huge luck and best wishes.

I think of you and hope so much all goes well!

No great advice as I can't imagine any distraction will work but take a day at a time. But how amazing and I wish you all the best.

aww good luck, I’m sure this will be your time 🤞🏼 I’m younger but really didn’t have much in the way of symptoms! Was a bit sick but not everyone is and it only lasted a couple of weeks then I literally had no symptoms again until I could physically see a bump

Congratulations…great news . Genuinely have no words of wisdom for a distraction. I only ever felt tired and sore breasts early pregnancy so try and relax.💐

Why don't you book a private scan for reassurance

My pleasant surprise story: I'd just had the first conversation with the infertility clinic and was waiting for 1st day of period to book scans. Got BFP instead! Was actually annoyed as I thought it was sure to be another ectopic and I wanted to get on with things with the clinic. It wasn't!

Haven't made it to the line yet, I'm still only 21 weeks. But all seems ok. Fingers crossed it stays ok for you.

Thank you all for the kind words - this is my first venture into an online forum of any kind. Being this age means that I don't feel I can tell anyone without incurring some kind of judgement, especially if things go wrong. And I wish you all the best too, @Soverymuchfruit. That was a lovely surprise!

I am keeping everything crossed for you OP. Sending good luck vibes from a stranger on the internet.

Ahh good luck with this. Keep us posted

Good luck OP

Crossing everything for you OP!

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Omg amazing to read, congratulations and h+h 9 months, I'm 38 ttc 1st with 4 miscarriages and 1 cp and thought at 38 the boat has sailed for me 💚