Chazdink

[Chazdink]

Hello
After advice please
I’m suppose to be 12 weeks pregnant tomorrow however, 3 days ago I had a gut feeling really so I got asked to go in for an early scan. That’s when we find out baby stopped growing at 6w and 5days.
I was told to wait which I did for 6 hours!! To be told oh sorry docs busy so come back tomorrow. I went in and was given a dose of misoprostal and told we will ring you in 24 hours. Nothing happened and no phone call after 26 hours so I phoned them, once again told too busy so they phoned back after another 2 hours to go in and have a second dose. Now it’s only been 6 hours I have some bleeding but not much. My problem really is, I was told dnc was out of the question due to Covid. But if this second does doesn’t work then I will have to have it. But today been told I have to wait another 3 weeks to be considered for it. Hopefully this works and o can get on with my life. But another 3 weeks because of Covid? I carnt bare the thought. Do I have to wait? Or can I complain and get this done with? I might be too emotional but I feel really let down.
Can anyone give me advice?

Sorry this is my first time posting Iv been a follower for a while but all discussions seem to be old ones. Has anyone been through this recently?

I can't advise other than to tell you to ring midwife and ask her to help you sort it

Thank you. I’m not sure of midwife knows as I went above her and phoned the early pregnancy unit up on self referral but I will give her a try

This was similar to my experience three years ago, mmc at 12 weeks. Wasn’t even given the medication firstly, was told to wait two more weeks and see if anything happened on its own. Thankfully it did after a week.

I would phone and complain and say you appreciate they are busy but their communication has been poor and you require a better plan. There is a more detailed misoprostol regime you can take which involves multiple doses every few hours, rather than just jumping to a d&c

Sorry you had a similar experience. Thank you! See all I was told is you will get 2 lots over 24 hours if the first doesn’t work. I didn’t realise you could have more, this is my first experience. Tbh I feel like a pest if I was to question them but then I think tuff I need treatment too. Iv too other children to care for while going though this so I would prefer for it not to be drawn out. Thank you
For the advice

Hi OP. I don't have any advice for you, but I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss.

I had a MMC 18 months ago. I needed surgery as things were not resolving themselves. I had to wait almost a week then and it was absolute torture knowing that I had to wait.

I hope you're able to get the treatment and support you need during such a rough time.

Glitterandunicorns thank you 🙏 so sorry about your loss too it’s heart breaking.
It might be because I’m emotional but the thought it’s been there 5 weeks and possibly another 3 freaks me out, but on the other hand I don’t want to let it go ☹️ I’m so confused

No advice sorry but just wanted to say sorry for your loss as well. MCs are awful and no woman should have to wait 3 weeks

Thank you 🙏

Sorry for your loss x

I would push and push and push! Not to scare you because everyone is different but giving my experience - first dose of Misoprostol didn't work for me, second dose was awful and thought it had worked but it hadn't and 3 weeks later I haemorrhaged and ended up overnight with blood transfusion (felt fobbed off both times because of COVID restrictions to be honest).

Still getting positive test 5 weeks later - scan showed retained products so I had MVA (D&C under local anaesthetic) - so it ended up dragging across 3 months.

Have they suggested MVA as an option? With hindsight I would go straight for that if it were to happen again. It isn't pleasant particularly but it is quick and straightforward and effective so you can move on. x

So sorry for your loss @Chazdink
I had a MMC back in March and was 8 weeks when it was confirmed- I was asked what type of management I wanted and I asked for d and c because for my mental health I didn't feel strong enough to cope with going through the miscarriage at home or wait to see if things happened naturally- I also had a toddler to consider and couldn't be housebound for days/weeks in case heavy bleeding started.
I would push and tell the EPU you feel you are being forced to continue with a pregnancy which isn't viable because the medical management of misoprostal hasn't been effective and this is hugely impacting your mental health now and you have carer responsibilities for your other children. Push the mental health impact aspect and state clearly your wishes are a d and c. I opted for mine done under general- it was absolutely fine, over and done with quickly and minimal bleeding in the days after. I had to take things easy fo 48h afterwards and did feel woozy and dizzy etc. You can opt for d and c under local anaesthetic too if it would be tricky for you to take 2 days in bed due to your other children. Do keep pushing- don't be fobbed off or feel a nuisance because you aren't- this is a horrible experience for any woman and you rightly just want it done with now.

Thank you! You both have just made
Me cry 😭 for good reasons! It’s nice to be told I can ask for different and not feel a pest. It’s now the day after the second dose, Iv been in so much pain but it’s only made me bleed (not as much as a period) and nothing to suggest the pregnancy is passing. I feel so down I was really hoping the second dose would work. I asked if the second dose tends to work better and she just shrugged and said who knows.
I am generally really quiet and just go along with things. But you two have given me a bit of a nudge to actually stand up and ask for more help to get this over with.
I cannot thank you enough for your advice 💜

I was exactly the same @Chazdink, I just went with it because I am quiet and too trusting but they pampered me when ended up staying in because I think they were worried I'd be complaining!

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I genuinely would've pushed more if I'd known then what I know now.

I'd get back on to them and say it's second dose now that doesn't appear to be working and you are not trying any more, and are not willing to wait around for several weeks risking infection, ask if MVA is an option. They are so flippant, but it is your body and your mental health that they are being flippant with - not good enough.

Difficult if you aren't a confrontational person, but you need to push for what is best for you x

Just read @Makingnumber2 post and fully agree - definitely push the mental health aspect because it really is a distressing time.

I had horrendous anxiety following the whole experience and ended up on sertraline for a time.

On the positive side I am now 28 weeks pregnant but essentially over 3 months (probably 3 months physically, another 3 months because of the resulting anxiety) of TTC were totally wasted because of their incompetence! x

@Chazdink sending you a massive hug- it's such a hard and horrible time but I'm glad you're feeling encouraged to push more for what you want and I hope you get the treatment you need swiftly.