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Whats the best way to make mummy friends?

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sas94 · 18/07/2021 22:15

I'm early pregnant, and excited for the baby. But all my friends are single, and with no children, I love them dearly but I'm worried about not having any mummy friends at all. I'd like to find people that are in the same situation as me!

How do people make friends with other mums?

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BunnyRuddington · 18/07/2021 22:22

Congratulations OP!

I don't think it's something you can force, just try different things till you find your people.

Try things like the Mush App, Antenatal Classes and Antenatal Yoga might help.

Have a look at what your local NCT offer as well. Some have groups where you can go and meet local Mums and some have Bump groups.

You can also go to local Playgroups and your local BFing Support Groups while you are still PG.

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sas94 · 18/07/2021 22:28

@BunnyRuddington

Congratulations OP!

I don't think it's something you can force, just try different things till you find your people.

Try things like the Mush App, Antenatal Classes and Antenatal Yoga might help.

Have a look at what your local NCT offer as well. Some have groups where you can go and meet local Mums and some have Bump groups.

You can also go to local Playgroups and your local BFing Support Groups while you are still PG.

Thank you for this. I'll definitely give these a go!

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IAmWomxxnHearMeRoar · 19/07/2021 09:28

I have a 7 mo DD. No ante natal classes because of Covid, but I just go to a particular local park lots and lots at the same time most days, and have already become friends with 2 mothers, and acquainted with a few others.

Stonecrop · 19/07/2021 09:48

It might not be on at the moment due to covid but I loved aqua-natal/pregnancy yoga

Stonecrop · 19/07/2021 09:49

The swimming one I meant to say, as more chance to chat and make friends than the normal pregnancy yoga

daisypond · 19/07/2021 09:51

I made friends through the postnatal group run by the health visitor. And then later at playgroups- this is where the main friends came from. I did do a antenatal NCT thing but didn’t really make friends there.

iknowimcoming · 19/07/2021 09:51

When you have an appointment with your midwife ask them about classes and groups they are usually a good source too

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 19/07/2021 10:03

good advice above.

It's not easy so please don't have high expectations.
I moved to England from a different country so people I met had already had their own friends and family and simply weren't interested in making new ones.
That was no shock but still hurtful, I did feel alone a lot and would've really suffered if I didn't have wonderful SILs to talk to. But having those lovely walks & afternoon chats on a regular basis simply never happened.

I was lucky that I made friends with a mum a few houses down the road by chance (DS1 was 7m old) and another at baby swim (8m) - almost 20 years later we are still friends!

But the majority of people just get so busy that even if they want to do stuff together things usually fizzle out.

go to an NCT antenatal class, then sign up for baby walking group, baby yoga, baby swim and also mum& baby excercise club.
see if you even like (or able to do) any of those, if not then don't bother.
but those are the type of gatherings to meet new mums

LunaDreams · 19/07/2021 14:17

Try the Peanut app....kind of like Tinder but for pregnant women and Mums!

I've met a few women who live nearby and are in same stage of pregnancy so have gotten a lot from it already.

It's a bit weird at first but preserve as I've got a lot from it!

SmidgenofaPigeon · 19/07/2021 14:21

@LunaDreams I’m toying with it now you’ve said the peanut app is worth persevering with!! I downloaded it and didn’t get much further with it as it’s all scmaltzy and a bit American…does that make sense? I feel odd for letting it put me off but the style of it I just couldn’t get on with!

wishing3 · 19/07/2021 14:40

Defo NCT group-not cheap but I think a lot of people are mostly doing to make friends. Also baby groups if you find you get on with someone.

Snowwhite83 · 19/07/2021 14:41

Nct group, expensive but best money I ever paid. Still really close friends with 5 out of 7 of my group five years on.

CorpusCallosum · 19/07/2021 15:54

All our parent friends were through NCT. We were lucky with our group and leader who pushed us to make a what's all group quickly and then cemented our friendship through all the messaging in the early weeks.

I did pregnancy yoga and aqua-natal too. I enjoyed them but didn't make friends which lasted outside of the classes.

LunaDreams · 19/07/2021 16:37

@SmidgenofaPigeon I do totally get what you mean...it's very American! The good thing is you can join local groups and filter by distance from you so you can make it more relevant!

I would say persevere if you can as I've met some lovely people on there x

KHR1 · 19/07/2021 21:22

I made some lovely mum friends at the free NHS antenatal classes. We made a WhatsApp group on the last session and most of us stayed in touch for about a year (then covdd hit!) and I'm still good friends with one. A lot of us went to the same baby classes which was nice!

SmidgenofaPigeon · 19/07/2021 21:36

@LunaDreams thank you, that’s good to know! If it’s a good pay off I might be able to persuade myself back into it!

Have sighed up for NCT- the NHS offerings were useless- virtual classes at about 11am on a Wednesday or something in the kiddie if a working day

SmidgenofaPigeon · 19/07/2021 21:36

*middle of

HandforthParishCouncilClerk · 19/07/2021 21:39

Go to the nearest playground and shout ‘I HAVE GIN!’. The good ones will come running!

SmidgenofaPigeon · 19/07/2021 21:40

@HandforthParishCouncilClerk now that sounds like something I could get on board with.

8dpwoah · 19/07/2021 21:42

I know it's a cliche about paying for friends but NCT was great for that and we did meet up regularly in the early days, still most of us chatting today on WhatsApp two years on! One of the baby groups I went to was pretty good for going for coffees after but then covid knobbled all that.

8dpwoah · 19/07/2021 21:44

The NHS one didn't really give chance to get to know people as it was shorter so no lunch break or anything, and different people at each session. Possibly more useful for specific facts about your hospital although our NCT lady was very knowledgeable about ours to be fair.

AnnaSW1 · 19/07/2021 21:51

Go to baby sensory group. I went from when they were 8 weeks old

Crunched · 19/07/2021 21:54

Another recommendation for the NCT -a useful group of mates in the first few years and one friendship still going strong after 20 years.

fruitpastille · 19/07/2021 21:59

My nct fizzled out after a year. It was fine but we lived in different towns. The ones I've stayed friends with are those I met at my local nhs clinic antenatal classes and then went on to local baby groups and then school. It helps if you don't have to work full time after mat leave but of course not everyone can do/wants this.

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