Pregnant after a MMC, and now no symptoms again

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Hey Ladies

So basically I was pregnant earlier this year and a week before my 12w scan I started bleeding, went to the EPU who confirmed the baby had died and had stopped growing around 9w. I was devastated and opted for a D&C. During that pregnancy I didn’t experience any symptoms at all….

Anyway I’ve recently found out I’m pregnant again (first cycle after the D&C)…. I’m around 5w/5 & a half weeks, again I’ve not got any symptoms and now I’m just anxious and scared it’s happening all again. Another misscarriage is on the way because of the lack of symptoms…
Don’t know what I’m after tbh, maybe just a handhold or some positive stories of people who haven’t had any symptoms in their pregnancy and had a healthy bubba or anyone who had a successful pregnancy after their misscarriage?

Thanks for reading 💐
X

I’m sorry you’re worrying. I’m 10 weeks pregnant after a series of miscarriages and it certainly puts a dampener on future pregnancies that’s for sure.

I had a MMC at 13 weeks 2 years ago. I had symptoms right up until I eventually lost the baby at 13 weeks, despite it having stopped growing at 6/7 weeks.

This pregnancy I have had several days where symptoms have suddenly disappeared, I’ve worried and then they’ve been back with a vengeance a few days later. Your hormone levels fluctuate daily and this is really normal.

I hope this puts your mind at rest just a little bit. Xx

I am sorry that you are worrying but it's very natural to worry and if possible can you try to have strategies to get you through the next 7 weeks?

I lost two babies between my two sons being born. First pregnancy straightforward then 2 mc before my healthy son.

With any of my pregnancies I never had sickness that made me sick - just feeling sick and that never really got going till week 6/7.

I lost both babies week 8/9. First one was a silent mc found at an early scan at week 9 as I 'had a bad feeling' but no bad signs.

So onto a positive story. With my last pregnancy my feeling sick stared to stop about week 8. I worked myself up into a terrible panic that it was happening again. We went for an early scan and she found the heartbeat in seconds and didn't need to do the internal scan. And she put me nearly a week ahead.

So the only way I survived the last pregnancy was to never look to far into the future - week by week. I didn't let me partner talk much about the baby until we got to week 20. Sounds pessimistic but it worked for me. Also my midwife agreed to do my booking in app at week 10 which was after my danger weeks. Talk to your midwife - mine was really good.

It's very natural to worry but it will get better. I was so happy once we got beyond 20 weeks and movements started.

Good luck

I had two MMC last year, one at 12 weeks and one at 9 weeks.
Firstly I'm so sorry you've been through this, it is a really awful thing to experience.

Third time lucky for me, I'm 24 weeks pregnant now and I felt completely the same as you in the first trimester. The difficulty with having a MMC at 12 weeks is you mentally have to get past that 12 week point before you can relax a bit and at 5 weeks it feels like forever away.

Please know what you are feeling is very common and totally expected after a loss, you're not alone and there's a huge amount of support from other ladies who have been through this.

At 5 weeks, I didn't really have many symptoms, I found they really kicked in around 7 weeks. There was definitely days where I felt completely fine and panicked and then a few days later it would all come back again. I don't think symptom spotting is accurate anyway as I still had morning sickness and sore breasts after miscarrying both times.

I bought a book called Pregnancy After Loss, I would really recommend you get a copy. Also, are you able to get any sort of talking therapy? It is really common to have PTSD after a miscarriage, so talking through the trauma with a professional can really help you process it.

With each milestone it does get easier. You'll get past the point of your miscarriage, then have your 12 week scan, then you will start to feel baby moving, then you get your 20 week scan and you will find yourself starting to relax a little at each of these stages. I have only just felt able to start telling people I'm pregnant so I really understand the fear and worry!

The first trimesters is truly shit and I wish I could say to you 'don't worry' and it would help, but honestly you're going to worry and panic about everything but you need to practice some techniques to relax like meditation, mindfulness, breathing or yoga to get you through to your 12 week scan. Do the best you can for the things you can control - eating, sleeping, taking your vitamins, exercising/going for walks. The rest is out of your hands and you just need to trust your body and hope for the best.

The other thing that helps some ladies is private scans, for me personally it just gave me an extra thing to worry about, but see how you feel.

Really really good luck, keep putting one foot in front of the other - you've got this!!

Hey ladies @Enwi @welshladywhois40 @Knock123 thanks for all of your messages above. I really appreciate it 💐
I ended up going to my local EPU a week or 2 ago as had some brown bleeding (exactly how my MMC started before)…. BUT to my surprise there was a baby @ 6w5d with a heartbeat!!! I am now 8w2d and still no symptoms at all apart from slightly tender boobs but that’s it.

I have another private scan booked for this Monday coming when I should be 9w1d but am extremely anxious about it as the baby died @ 9w last time :( x

Hello fellow anxious mama! I went through mmc last December, zero pregnancy symptoms zero miscarriage symptoms. Had surgical management, pregnant within 3 months after and now 25 weeks. It was a one off, there's never any guarantees, I didn't do anything differently but it can happen, I'm wishing you all the best for this pregnancy ❤ what helped me was lots of private scans, I just had to know we are still on track. Had zero symptoms again so it means NOTHING. if you like podcasts listen to Natalie Crawford md 'as a woman. There's a great episode on miscarriage and loss, it filled me with hope. Good luck 👍

Hey @mia2201 thanks so much for your reply! It’s so comforting to hear you had/have zero symptoms again and are now 25w. Congrats 💐 sorry for your previous loss also 😞 x
Oh wow ok, I shall find that today and give it a listen! Thanks soooo much! X

You're most welcome, darling! That episode saved my sanity, listened to it 3 times I think :) the miscarriage was the sadest event of my life, you know the stats yet don't think it will happen to you. Its so brutal, isn't it? Keep going! Celebrate little milestones, know that you're strong and you will survive whatever life throws and you and HOPE! also there us a beautiful meditation on YouTube called first trimester meditation by hypnobirthing with Anja. I listened to it daily, its very calming and helpful 😌 x

I'm due for my 12 week scan tomorrow and I'm so nervous!! I've had pretty much no symptoms.. my boobs are a bit sore and a handful of evenings I've felt a bit sick but not much at all. I have had a couple of cramps and feel like my belly has started to grow a little bit but it doesn't stop me worrying as I've had no early scans so this will be the first look at what's going on in there! Hoping for good news tomorrow 🤞

@mia2201 I listened and it was very comforting! Thanks so much!!! Will also look into the meditation 💐

Hi @Mrsmujic awww bless you! I hope your scan goes well today! Keep us updated! Sounds like you’re on the right track though with belly growing and sore boobs etc! X

Hi all! So I went to the scan, I was soooo nervous! However it all went well and it showed up straight away and was wriggling around. Little bigger turned upside down then put it's back to us so couldn't get the best pictures. Seems all is well though, I'm so shocked!! Can't believe it's in there, what an amazing experience! Good luck to you all xxxxxxxx

@Mrsmujic oh wow.. wonderful news 💐 so pleased for you!!!! X

Helloo. I'm 26w and had no symptoms 🙂

Wishing you a healthy pregnancy x

Hey @DizzySquirrel90 congrats 💐 and oh really? Soooo comforting to hear. Am struggling at the moment with all of these negative thoughts. Thanks so much for posting as it does help! X

No worries! I was worried at the start also as I had literally nothing, I went for a 9w scan for some reassurance before the 12w scan.

I wouldn't go any earlier than that though as sometimes earlier than 8ish weeks can cause more worry rather than reassurance as baby is still v small!