Mixed emotions

[Due22]

Hi, I'm new to mumsnet. I have recently found out I am pregnant after trying for around 1.5yrs to conceive. I thought I'd feel over the moon but having some mixed feelings. Think I am still in shock as I'd convinced myself I couldn't get pregnant.
I'm all over the place, feeling scared, apprehensive, then very excited and calm the next. Thinking oh my god this is actually happening....Assuming this is hormones? And because its a life changing thing.
Anyone else had this?
I thought it would just be a woohoo! thing so feeling confused.

Hi @Due22

Firstly congratulations on your pregnancy!

I also felt this way when I was found out.. cried for a few days and couldn't even talk about it that much as just struggled with it. It really shocked me as I wanted a baby for a while and had gotten to the point i was struggling with friends telling me they were pregnant even before we agreed to start trying (DH hadn't been keen on idea of babies so gave him time to think it over)

I remember saying to my best friend once I'd spoken to her that I was worried as everyone else seemed more excited about this baby than I did. It just took me a lot longer to get my head around it. A few other people have posted simular things over the months I've been lurking around mumsnet so I've been reassured that it's quite common and lots of people feel it!

Totally normal. I was trying for my baby for 6 years, finally got pregnant and then immoderately thought I needed to get a termination because I wouldn’t be able to cope! It’s madness what our brains put us through.

Allow yourself to feel everything you need to feel but trust that this is what you wanted and that you will be ok.

I’m 35 weeks and still have my wobbly days but for the most part I’m over the moon and can’t wait to meet my little bean xx

• immediately & all the other typos that my tired pregnant brain created x

Was the same trying for a year and when it happened we were in a state of shock for about a week. Keep talking to one another and give it some time and then you will get your woo hoo moment

@Taenia Thank you!

That's such a relief to hear honestly.
I've struggled with all my friends/family getting pregnant whilst we've been trying. I've felt left behind and frustrated it wasn't happening for us. So yep its weirded me out how I've felt since finding out I'm pregnant.

Nice to know its a common thing. Dreading telling family/friends incase I don't look happy enough or excited enough about it. We're going to take some time and talk it all over in the next few weeks before we even tell our parents. I'm hoping this sinks in soon! Thanks so much for responding.

@Sheisfee Wow 6 years is a long time. I've struggled for just 1.5yrs and found that so emotionally draining. Huge congrats on getting there & feeling excited about bubba's arrival!

Our brains can be our own worst enemy. I struggle with GAD (anxiety disorder) so I'm trying to seperate those thoughts from these (thankfully) normal worries. Well now I know they are normal.

Thank you so much for replying xx

Thanks @2021mumma that's good advice. Looking forward to my woohoo moment! xx