Missed miscarriage

[RadicalSoul]

Hi all, I just found out Thursday during an 8 week scan (private) that I had a missed miscarriage at 7weeks. Opted for medical management because I didn’t want to just wait and see when my body would notice that it’s not viable :-( Think it might have gone ok but I’m having a hard time telling to be honest. Also tried calling midwife service (UCHL in London) but the phone rang for 15 minutes (I kid not) and no one picked up. Wrote them an email but they say answering takes 7 days… so I’m turning to you lovey fellow humans out there. Mumsnet has really helped me by reading other people’s experiences and people really are so lovely and helpful here. But I digress.

I took Misoprostol on Friday. I think it went ok i.e. bleeding started soon and I passed two things bigger than your usual blood clots though I cannot say how big or what they were, they just made a sound when dropping into the toilet and I didn’t look. I am still bleeding as I would during a period today (day 5) which I suspect is normal but I am getting a bit anxious and would love to know what is normal and also next steps

How long should I be expecting to bleed for or at least how long is not something to be worried about? What are the things I should watch out i.e what is not normal and should lead me to go in for a medical check? Do I cancel my original appointments? Do I need to come in for an appointment or scan to make sure the miscarriage is complete? Do I take a pregnancy test at some point to see whether all has worked and im back to normal? Any recommendations on what’s helped you through this process?

Thank you so much already for reading! When this is all over, I plan to write a bit of an experience post to help others that come after me though of course I don’t wish it upon them :-(

Xx
Radicalsoul

Hi there OP

So sorry to hear about your loss. I had a MMC last year but didn't find out until the 12 week scan that baby stopped growing at around 7 weeks or so. I was referred to early pregnancy unit for medical management as well but was seen a couple of days after the scan.

Is there an early pregnancy unit you can contact or speak to? Who gave you the Misoprostol? Before going down the medical management route, I was given an advice leaflet on what to expect re. bleeding and timing etc. I bled for about 3 days or so then it tailed off - think I passed the baby the day after taking the medication then passed the sac a couple of days later (it's all a bit of a blur now). Had a scan a week after taking medication to check everything had passed (which it had) and advised to take a pregnancy test 4 weeks later - it was still positive so took one another week later and it was negative.

It really is such a cruel experience to go through and I'm surprised you've not had as much support as I had through the NHS. Definitely try to contact midwives or early pregnancy unit so you've got that support in place.

@Radicalsoul
So sorry your going through this it's an awful thing to go through, I have been through it 4 time and 1 cp but that was just. A late period, all 4 losses where different first I ended up in the hospital bleeding bad kept in over nite and then the other 3 happened at home I knw I passed the sac and that 2 times it was on pad but it makes a plopping sound when hitting the toilet as for norm clots did nt make a splash they slid in the toilet sorry for tmi but that's how I knew I passed something other than normal clots 💚

Thank you both @KeepSmiling89 and @Babyghirl for your messages! I really appreciate it.

Regarding your questions @KeepSmiling89. The medication was given to me by the private clinic where I did my scan after a video consultation with a doctor. He did talk me through it all and they had info sheet as well. I think the decision was the right one, just don’t feel like I have anyone to reach out to now with questions or concerns. The midwife service that’s responsible for me just isn’t being very responsive and I’m not in pain or panic so going into an early pregnancy unit has the same general number as the midwife service (just a different dial through) and they haven’t picked up either :-/ I guess I’ll just wait and see what happens and hope the midwife service gets back to me.

It’s really good to know I will likely need another scan to see whether all is in order and do a pregnancy test in four weeks. I’m still bleeding but it’s not a lot of blood and on and off so I’m hoping it’s all ok. I’ve read on a different nhs hospital site with a good information sheet that on and off bleeding can last 3-4 weeks and is perfectly fine as long as it’s not super heavy (heavy pad an hour) and doesn’t make me dizzy, feel unwell or fair. So that’s promising…

@Babyghirl the plopping sound is exactly what I experienced! Thank you for sharing that!

@Radicalsoul
Hopefully the worst is over you, and bleeding eases of I only bleed for up to bot 7/8 days after so hope its the same for u but if it starts and stops heavy get on the phone to the epu happened to me and the tissue was stuck in my cervix and was trying to clear out I got told to take a test after two weeks so maybe try that, I'm on a thread ttc after a miscarriage if and when ur ready you r more than welcome to pop over the support is amazing xx

Hi all, I know its been a while but I just wanted to thank you for your kind words and sharing of experiences. The midwife serivce actually called me back eventually (a few days too late in my opinion) and were very reassuring. They said it all sounded fine (just bit of bleeding here and there can go on for a while apparently). Four weeks later pregnancy test was negative. And yesterday I found out I was pregnant again. Trying not to get excited since who knows but it is still great to know its all working again :-) Will post my experience of the missed miscarriange and medically management separately for future people that are interested.

Thanks again for being so lovely!

Aww that is great news. I have had 4 miscarriages and I know how hard it can be. It is great when you do get pregnant again though and hopefully you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy.