When did you tell people?

[PeonyBlushSuede]

Hi, I'm currently 8 weeks and wondering when you all decided to tell people.

So far have only told my husbands boss - as otherwise was struggling to book off appointment time.

We are planning on telling a friend at the weekend as it will be a while until see him face to face again. I'm also thinking of telling a family friend who has been like a mum to me - my mum passed a few years ago, otherwise I would probably have told her.

Nobody until I'd seen baby wriggling on the dating scan, was 13wk. We'd had a miscarriage after seeingba heartbeat on a scan last year so I was very reluctant to tell anyone tbh. Hubby couldn't contain himself after the dating scan though lined the kids up as soon as I got home and told them, he face timed my mum before I got chance! Immediate family were 1st to know within a couple of days of dating scan. I held off telling close friends until 16wk and not so close friends after the anomaly scan. K7ds told their teachers etc as soon as they were back at school as they were excited, I was over 16wk then. I'm almost 35wk now and couldn't hide it if I tried, bump is huge lol.
SIL is also pregnant now and they told everyone the day of their dating scan.

I told everyone around week 8. I also told them it is very early, so I prefer if they don't get excited or talk about it just yet.
I had a mmc last year and talking to my friends and family really helped. I am very open about it, would tell whatever happens anyway, so I didn't see the point of waiting. I spoke to them again after my 12 week scan to let them know everything is ok and we can talk about it now.

I had to tell everyone at work pretty much as soon as I found out as it had a massive impact on my job. Told a couple of close friends straight away as well. Told my parents at 9 weeks & everyone else after the 12 week scan.

I didn't tell hardly anyone until after the 20 week scan as I'd have a loss previously at 12 weeks.

Parents - when we found out. Immediately family - about 14 weeks. We didn't want anyone else knowing until we'd had the all clear at the 20 week scan. But even then, we didn't announce it as such, just didn't hide it.

We told my mum and DH’s parents a day or two after we found out. I’d want my mum’s support if something went wrong. My MIL also suffered with recurrent losses so I knew we would have her support too. I told my manger about 6 weeks because I needed risk assessing and I couldn’t attend a site visit due to nausea. DH told his boss just before the scan because we’d had a scan two weeks earlier and he was worried it looked like he was interviewing for other jobs.

We ended up telling my dad at about 10 weeks because it felt like I was lying when answering questions. We thought we were about 11 but got pushed back at the dating scan. It was a bit earlier than I planned and my dad instantly wanted to tell everyone but managed to keep it a secret. We told the rest of the family between the first scan at 10 weeks and our second dating scan at 12 weeks. Bit sooner than I wanted and sort of stemmed from telling my dad.

Told our friends after the second dating scan at 12 weeks. DH told the rest of his work. I told a couple of colleagues that I’m close with. I’m 19 weeks and still not really told work, just the odd person as it comes up, so if people are talking about things that will be when I’m on maternity leave I’m letting them know. We still haven’t done a social media announcement and I don’t think we will either. DH hasn’t told his biological dad, they have a distant relationship. There’s a few acquaintances we haven’t told. However, I think even if something is wrong now we would need the support of those around us, so I’m glad people know.

In first pregnancy I told a close friend early on as felt sick. Then told family at 12 weeks. Told work at 22 (wore big jumpers). Worked well.

I didn't tell anyone with my first until I was 22 weeks, although even then it was telling people. Social media found out when I posted pics after the birth.
I'm presently 9 weeks with my second, and haven't told anyone. Not sure when I will. I want to wait beyond 12 weeks because it just still seems quite early to me, and things can still go wrong. (Zara Tindall announced at 12 weeks and miscarried at 16.). I'm not sure I'll be able to keep it secret so long because you normally show earlier with your second, but I'm not into big announcements, and I sort of think it goes a bit quicker without people asking you how you are all the time for several months which I would find annoying.

I'd had a previous loss and knew how much support I'd need so we told people pretty soon. Told parents the day we found out, and best friend the same day, then told immediate family over Xmas lunch (they would have questioned my lack of drinking and eating anyways) which I was around 7 weeks, then told my other friends and siblings after our first scan which was 8 weeks, then everyone else pretty much after 12 week scan. Work I told straight away as knew I was going to have loads of extra appointments and wanted them paid, also would need to arrange cover etc so it benefited is both me telling them the Monday after I found out.

6 months. We lost our son around 5 months so kept it to ourselves for as long as possible

13 weeks after 2 scans.
I didn’t want to get anyone’s hopes up before then (I was almost 41).

About 25 weeks when I was starting to show.

Our parents at 12 weeks, I told a friend at 6 weeks as wanted some support in the early days but that was it. We’ve not done an announcement and just tell people as we see them.

I told my boss a couple of days after we found out (just over 4 weeks), as I was already getting symptoms and I wanted to prepare him in case I needed days off etc - they're very relaxed and flexible. We told my parents, grandparents, and close friends on our wedding day when I was 6 weeks. We had an early scan at about 8 weeks, and after that we told our close friends and I told my work colleagues (there are only 10 of us total at work). I have my dating scan next week at 12+6 and assuming all okay, I will be 'announcing' it to everyone else after that.

• told close friends at wedding