Anyone’s mother drive them crazy during pregnancy?

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My mother is about to become a grandmother for the first time, just like DH’s mum but she is really really reaaaaally grating on me.

I think she thinks she is the more important one as she speaks about it constantly as it’s ‘her first grandchild’ and constantly tries to make it a competition with DHs mum and says little remarks like “oh has shebought anything yet?”

She also keeps telling people she’s going to be a grandma which is true but very different to DHs mum who says “DH name and my name are going to have a baby we’re so excited”

She keeps trying to make it about her and wants to plan events (such as a big gender reveal party and a big baby shower) but I’m quiet and have like 0 friends so really don’t want these events as they’ll just be for her?

She’s being very overbearing and while I get she is excited, it’s me having the baby, it’s mine and DHs baby it is the biggest moment of our life!

Am I just being a bit irritable? Or does anyone relate (please tell me I’m not just being a major irritable bitch)

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My mum is already gearing up with old fashioned advice like putting the baby on a four hour routine and not picking it up all the time because all babies are Machiavellian geniuses. And don’t forget that I have to dive on the baby and rush it out of the room the instant it makes a peep at night so my DH won’t be all tired for work. She keeps on saying ‘well this time next year you’ll see I’m right’.

@thecapitalsunited oh wow my mother hasn’t even started on that yet but I can imagine she’ll start as I get closer to having the baby

We just have to do what we see is best for our children! At the end of the day we’re their mother!!!!

😂 I could have wrote something very similar myself. My poor mum doesn’t need to do much in my pregnancy, just speak and it really really irritates me.
I’m 35 weeks now and still feel the same, have done for the majority of time.
It doesn’t help when she pretends to know everything or compare it to what it was like when she went through it over 25 years ago.
I feel awful as I know I’m totally unreasonable.
But, at least you know it’s not just you and your mum!

@Carefree1 this has indeed made me feel a bit better LOL. I have felt so guilty for wanting to block her number and not visit her at all!!! I just get so irritated - blaming it on pregnancy hormones

EVERYONE irritated me in my first pregnancy, lets see how number two goes

she lives in a different country so no, she didn't.

But I'm 100% sure that given the chance she would have🤣

Oh just nod and smile. With DS1 we told her the baby was due in Feb, due date was 24th Jan; he arrived on 25 December. That took some explaining. DD was due to be an elective caesarean on x date. X date was MILES birthday; mother's response "oh so you are having the baby on HER birthday". She possibly expected me to cross my legs for five months! I feel your pain.