People betraying me. Can't trust anyone it seems

[SweetSunflowerBoo]

Why do people think they have a right to screenshot your pregnancy posts and show them to my abusive mother AFTER I made it clear to everyone she was NOT to know because I want her to have nothing to do with my baby?!?!😡😡

So furious. I literally deleted everyone else besides my friends off of FB and someone has been sending her all my pictures and I don't know who it was 😡
I've now removed anyone that has anything to do with my "family"

She has now told allllllll my so called "family" and they have been ringing my dad none stop telling him how they "have a right to see the baby" 😂 HA

If they abused me what on earth js going through their head to think they're going to see my baby?!

Anyone else having a shitty time with "family"?
Feeling really stressed and down x

I empathise but I haven’t put anything on my profiles for that exact reason. You cannot control what other people do.

Agree, if you don't want certain people to know don't share things on social media.

Don't post on Facebook.

I never did.

An old colleague of mine I had no idea was pregnant until she posted a picture of her baby.

You don't need to post about it on Facebook.

I disagree with pp. You should be able to post what you like on your social media without people feeding information back to your abusers. These people should stay out of it. I'm thankful that my abusive mother wants nothing to do with my unborn child but she could easily have reacted like your family. I hope you find out who the snitch is!

I empathise as I have abusive family members as well but this is why you don't put it on the Internet. Once you put it on a public platform like that (and it is public, even if you only have friends on your page) you have zero control over what happens to that information. There are no mentions of my children on social media for this reason, I don't want certain family knowing more than necessary about them. If I was you I would remove all posts about them, share updates with the important people through private messaging and try and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

@romdowa thank you. Everyone else is just telling me it's basically my fault for posting.

Why shouldn't I be able to post about my baby?!
I shouldn't have to keep everything hidden.

I've literally only got my dads and his wife and my fiancé's family on Facebook now. And they all hate her guts

I just feel really annoyed that because of 1 person being a snitch I have now had to remove literally EVERYONE else and now have no friends on my Facebook

For everyone telling me it's my own fault- I went through my Facebook list over 4 times before I posted Anything and removed anyone I thought wouldn't keep it quiet. I literally only kept my friends. And none of them know my mother.
So one of them has literally gone out of their way to betray me.

Well they have no rights whatsoever to your baby or you. Just tell them to F off.

I wouldn't do the whole sharing on social media unless I was ready for all to know, people talk. It only takes one motormouth for it to be around all the people you do or don't like.

Remember legally whatever shit they spout they have no rights to your dc...

@SweetSunflowerBoo it’s not your fault, I think you’ve just been naive to expect people to keep quiet, pregnancy is an exciting time and so people let slip.

For me, I don’t want anyone from that side of my family to find out and so I haven’t told them but I’m fully aware they may discover through the grapevine but that’s all they’ll ever know. All I really have control over is contact.

I mean they didn't find out from me and I'm already over 5 months so I hope it was clear to them that they won't be finding out anything from me. Because no way in hell are they going near my baby

They haven't spoken to me in a year anyway and never pick up the phone when I try to talk to them.
So it's their own fault

have you checked your privacy settings? mine were set to share photos with friends, and also friends of friends could see them.

you need to lock down your profile, not just delete people

@QforCucumber

have you checked your privacy settings? mine were set to share photos with friends, and also friends of friends could see them.

you need to lock down your profile, not just delete people

Yes I was going to say this too. I’ve found before that even when I think I’ve set my privacy settings up perfectly they’ve somehow been re-set without me realising. May be worth double checking.

Sorry you’re going through this OP.

I've literally only got my dads and his wife and my fiancé's family on Facebook now.

How sad that you've removed all your friends. Probably would've been better just to make a WhatsApp group for his family if they're the only people you want to share anything with.

Flush the rat out.

Take inspiration from "Wagatha Christie" Colleen Rooney.

Write loads of statuses saying you chosen your baby's name but use fake names . Use the settings to exclude everyone except one person...

So show one name to just one person. Exclude everyone else.

For added oomph, make the names a touch "out there"

If any names get back to you, you know who the rat is.

Sorry this happened OP. And congrats on your pregnancy

@strawberrymilkshakeisdelicious that would have been such a great idea. But I was so angry yesterday I just deleted everyone

My Facebook is on highest privacy. Only my friends can see stuff and I never post anything as my profile picture that I want anyone to see