Pregnancy after MC

[Aluasen]

Trigger warning - this post mentions miscarriage but wasn't sure where was the best place to post this.

A bit of a back story - myself and DH have been TTC for 20 months. We conceived in February 2021 but miscarried at 6 weeks. Since then, we've started the process of getting tested for infertility issues. DH has a count at the end of the month and I'm getting day 21 bloods done regularly. I found out yesterday at 10dpo that I am pregnant again but all I can think about is the risk of miscarriage again. Any slight cramping or pain and I start to panic. I've looked into stats about the odds of loss again but all the figures seem to be different. Does anyone have any stories from being in the same situation?
I've attached a photo of my 10dpo frer test. I have more ready to test with but want to test with fmu every other day. I haven't contacted my doctor yet but will do this on Wednesday (3 days away) as this is when AF is due.

It is terrifying being pregnant after loss. It's so hard to relax but it does get better the further along you get so just hang in there. Congratulations and good luck.

I've had lots of chemical pregnancies, 5 miscarriages between 8 & 12 weeks, 5 children from 4 term pregnancies (from 1st, 4th, 6th, 7th) and 34+5wk atm (10th). The losses were frustrating and heartbreaking but each time I've got a perfect little baby I've been glad I endured it all.

@Chelyanne I'm sorry to hear about your losses. I'm glad you've got the outcome you were looking for in the end.
I guess DH and I always thought getting pregnant for the first time would be a breeze. My mother has 5 kids and his mother has 7 so we never expected anything to go wrong 😂
I think we're both just so nervous of going through it again and not really sure if we would keep going if it happened so there's a lot of pressure on this to stick, which I know doesn't exactly help.

It's such a taboo subject. So many women experience a loss and don't speak of it.
I know some who have had every pregnancy result in children, others who have lost every pregnancy and lots who have had a mixture. I never knew my parents had experienced the loss of twins until we had a set of our own. People who have struggled say to us how lucky we are to have so many but they only know of the successes, we rarely speak of the losses face to face as it's hard.

All you can do is keep hoping all will be well and celebrate each milestone you pass.

@Chelyanne I get what you mean. I understand a lot of people don't want to talk about it because of past trauma but it's so taboo and there's rarely any support.

I think this might end up being chemical, I took another test just now and it's the same line after 2 days. The same thing happened with my last MC. I don't think I'll get to the full blown double lines.

I've found being pregnant again terrifying I had a chemical in April I found out last Sunday I was pregnant again done lots of tests cb said 1-2 weeks which would work out right then Wednesday 2-3 then early hours this morning its went back to 1-2 i can't help but test despo for my 3+ to try stop worrying....

Don't loose hope I read on another feed someone saying they got their stronger lines in the afternoon I have everything crossed for you x

A positive is a positive. I wouldn't worry too much about the line strength.

I always test weekly after the 1st positive but only up to 6wk, then I self refer to midwife team. No more testing after that unless I have a mc, then it's the wait for a negative and can take weeks.

@Aluasen that looks like line progression to me, the 12 dpo test is darker.

I'm pregnant again after miscarriage and I was the same - testing every day and worrying. I'm ten weeks now and still worrying. If you feel like it, I'd recommend an early private scan - can see a heartbeat just after six weeks. If a healthy heartbeat is seen the rate of miscarriage drops dramatically. I had one at seven weeks, and will probably have another this week.

With one miscarriage the odds of a second one are not higher. I don't know why, I've found stats quite comforting. It is horrible waiting though

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7
We booked in for an early scan last time and ended up having to cancel a few days before so I think we're just a bit nervous to do it again. I think we will probably wait until we hit 6 weeks and then book the next slot for a private scan.
It just so nerve racking waiting

@Aluasen that sounds like a good plan. I actually phoned up on the day of mine and asked if they could squeeze me in - made me less anxious with no waiting around for it

I believe the lines are good for 10 and 12dpo. My lines only got stronger at 14dpo (I have 28 days cycle). I kept testing every other day on cheap Amazon strips till 23 dpo, that made me feel a bit better.
I had a mmc last November and a chemical in February. I am 13+5 (had a privet scan at week 8 to see the heartbeat - last time the baby did not make it that far) and the 12 weeks NHS scan. All is well, but I am keep worrying that something will go wrong. I believe this feeling will only go away when I hold my healthy baby in my arms.
Chemical pregnancy's are very common- due to the early tests, we know about them now. One mc also very common: you are more likely have a healthy baby than another mc.
There is nothing I can say about not to worry. You will be terrified through the pregnancy. Get a privet scan (I would not suggest it before week 8 as there are many reasons not to detect the heartbeat around week 6 even with a healthy baby: it will mess with your mind). As soon as you will see the heartbeat, you will worry a little bit less.

I wouldn't book an early scan before 8wk or you risk having more worry if you measure behind (quite common early).

I will not book private early scans again. Did with our last, saw hb at 8+3 and mc at 9+3. I found it much harder to deal with than previous mc's where I'd not seen a hb.

Thanks ladies for all your messages. I think I'll just see how it goes and try not to think about it. I'll give any updates as I get them so fingers crossed 🤞