Pregnancy at 4 weeks.

[Naomi2b89]

Hi all I'm new to this so please bare with me. I found out about 5 days ago I was pregnant (before my period which was due today) and had 3 positive pregnancy tests (very very faint on FRER & cb 1-2 digital). My LMP was 9th June and we did the deed through my ovulation week which was 20th-27th June. Have been suffering with cramps over the last week,some quite intense and lower back pain. Woke up this morning to blood- its pink/orange and red like fresh blood. At the moment its only when I wipe not on my underwear, but I feel it might get heavier as I'm cramping quite a fair bit, i was only 4 week pregnant so very early but I did another test (FRER) and it showed a clear negative, absolutely heartbroken. I've googled and sounds like I'm having a chemical, which I'm not sure really what that is. I had a mc this time last year at about 5/6 weeks. So I'm absolutely heartbroken and keep crying blaming myself that maybe its something I've done. I'm desperate for another child (2 children already- DD-9, DS-7) I'm just terrified of it happening again.
Basically my question is even though I know I've lost it and I was only 4 weeks gone and letting things happen naturally at home (dam me early testing, wish I never now as I wouldn't of been any wiser to my pregnancy and would of just thought it was my period)... do I need to contact my gp to inform them or do anything? Do I just wait it out.
I need to tell my partner yet.
Sorry for long post.

No idea sorry, so hard for you though

No you don't need to tell your gp, in my experience they basically don't count chemical pregnancies as miscarriages, and they usually don't require any intervention.

Sounds like a chemical pregnancy. Nothing to do but wait for your period. No need to inform anyone unless you feel like something is wrong (pain/extra bleeding). Sadly CP are so so common. Sending love xx

Thanks all. I started bleeding today which is actually my due date for my period, so not sure if this is my period or what. Such a horrible experience and to of gone through it twice, I honestly don't know if I have the strength to try again but i would love another. Its tiring and so depressing. Keep thinking its me and ive got something wrong with me.

I would mention it so it's on your records so if you do have another miscarriage you can be referred for recurrent miscarriage. They won't see you until you've had 3 miscarriages but I believe this would count. I hope this doesn't happen to you but it will help accessing support if needed.

Thanks @spookycookies I will give them the drs a ring this week and tell them, although I'm not sure if they would class this as a miscarriage because it was so early.
Hoping the cramps and bleeding stop soon its so exhausting.
Keep trying to come up with reasons as to why this has happened to me for the 2nd time.

My chemical pregnancies have never been counted/added to my notes or given a second thought by doctors.

@Garman

My chemical pregnancies have never been counted/added to my notes or given a second thought by doctors.

I suppose it depends. I've had two miscarriages and if I had a chemical at this point I would push very hard for it to be counted.

@Naomi2b89
Sorry your going through this, they don't count chemical pregnancy as a miscarriage I have been there I had one have have since went on to have 4 miscarriages all from ten and a half weeks to 6 and a half weeks, they say a cp is up to 5 weeks and a cp most likely happens cause there something wrong with the egg and sperm as soon as they meet and won't be able to develop so it ends rather quick so it's nothing you have done 💚

Thanks @Babyghirl just wish I had a magic wand or I predict if we tried again all would fine but I'm nervous about going through it again now. The chances are its probably going to happen again. If they don't class it as a miscarriage then that means they won't help me or run tests. I would like to try again in August after I've had my period as such but terrified it might happen again. I'm going to continue taking folic acid and vit d from now until we ttc again.

@Naomi2b89
I swapped my folic acid to folate after a fertility specialist said they better for u as not everyone absorbs folic acid and folate a lot better it folic acid but pure no added stuff in it can post a pick if you want of the ones I get on amazon, I'm under the rmc nw and will get progesterone on my nxt bfp if you don't mind me asking what age r you, I'm trying ttc child num 1 so hoping nxt time works out 💚

@Babyghirl I'm 31 and my partner is 43 so I'm not sure if age has anything to do with it. We have 2 children a dd who's 9 and a ds who's 7 we decided to try last June and it ended in a mc at 5/6weeks confirmed by scan, I bled for about 5 days and it was done, this time I was only 4 weeks 2 days gone, today is period day so in theory if I hadn't of been so keen to test i wouldn't of known I was having a chemical pregnancy I'd just of thought it was my period (which would of been alot less heartbreaking)..I'm overweight as well which probably doesn't help but I was alot bigger when I was pregnant with my 2 so I don't know. It sounds bad but I'm glad I lost it so early on, so hopefully the pain and bleeding won't be as bad. Yes please that would be great, i was going to start taking it now to get my body in a better position but who knows.
Bless you good luck with your journey, I honestly feel a bit of a fool as I never thought I'd be in this position but goes to show it can happen to anyone and more than once. Sending baby dust your way. X

@Naomi2b89
Just asking age as if your 35 or over you can be referred to the fertility clinic if trying to long but I would say speak to ur doc and tell them you have been trying for over a year nw with two miscarriages they might put a letter through for you worth a try. Baby dust to you to I'm on a thread trying to conceive after a miscarriage if you want to join us in that I can tag you in it 💚

@Babyghirl thanks yes please that would be great, its comfort knowing I'm not alone in this (sorry if that sounds rude, but you know what I mean)... ill give the gp a ring this week & tell them (knowing my luck they won't do anything) but may be able to offer some words of advice..... just not nice going through it and then when you do get the postive result its sitting on egg shells waiting for the scan... I can fall pregnant easy enough (first time with all 4) but its the holding onto the pregnancy which seems to be the issue. My friend was telling me that a chemical pregnancy is where it doesn't even get to implant because the egg and sperm don't connect properly and that in theory I wasn't pregnant... so upset! X

@Naomi2b89
Yea she right means there's something wrong with the egg or sperm when they connect so nothing at all to do with anything you have, I will tag u in it nw x

@Babyghirl so that means in theory there was no baby as such? Sorry I can get my head around it more so if I knew there wasn't an actual baby if that makes sense... or am I just completely clueless?

@Naomi2b89
It was explained to me when the egg and sperm meet it would never have been competable for growing from the start, prop not enough or to much chromasome if spelt rite so would never grow in to a baby if that makes sense xx

@Babyghirl that makes sense. Thank you.