Pregnancy

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S097xx · 10/07/2021 00:51

Hello ladies, just looking for a bit of advice really! Ive recently found out im 7 weeks pregnant and im not sure what to do about it, im not officially with the babys dad and he doesnt think we should carry it through, i have such mixed feelings right now and feel as if i still have a life to live as im only 20 years old, but also cant bare the thought of getting rid of something which is part of me? **Any advice? Sorry to be a bother

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Amijustagrump · 10/07/2021 16:36

No advice but you do whatever is right for you! Pregnancy choices forum is a brilliant part of mumsnet and helped me a few years ago with a similar situation

ChaiTRex · 10/07/2021 17:15

Hi OP,

Whatever choice you make, it’s going to weigh heavily on you. I know one woman who still feels guilty about terminating decades later, but I know many other who can look back on it and feel positive about their decision.
It’s going to be really hard for a forum to give you insights as they don’t know you that well.
For myself, I never got pregnant until age 32, but I think if it had happened in my 20s, I probably wouldn’t have gone through with it. I was still finding my way and I was aware at the time that I wasn’t ready to be a mum. Absolutely, everyone is different though, and 20 year olds have been having babies for millennia!
The first time I got pregnant, it was surprise and I wrestled with the same decision. And I was 32, married to a supportive partner, and on a solid career path. It’s scary no matter what stage of life you’re at. Do you have any close friends you could talk to? Someone who knows your situation better?

Whatever choice you make will be the right choice. It’s hard, but you’ve just got to listen to your head and your heart on this one.

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S097xx · 10/07/2021 17:18

Thankyou too you both! My friends and family dont think its a good idea to carry it through at this point in my life and i agree, just dont think ill be able to go through with it, but thankyou for taking the time to reply it means alot!

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Amijustagrump · 10/07/2021 18:05

Speaking from experience I do personally regret my choice BUT the care I was offered and support from Marie Stopes was amazing. They calmly talk through the options and even offer you consuelling to work through your thoughts and ideas before you commit either way- it may be worth phoning them. You don't have to commit to anything right up until the moment so please don't think phoning them is a mistake

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