Feeling a bit down and scared

[coffeequeeeeen21]

Currently 16 weeks pregnant. It’s been tough so far I’ve felt awful since about week 6 and no sign of the second trimester surge a lot of people reassured me that I’d get!

I had a bit of a bad night last night I was just crying all night and I had no real reason to. But when I was crying I just felt scared and alone. I felt like I can’t be someone’s mum, I’m going to be so awful and they’ll have a bad time growing up like I did.

I worried what if my partner doesn’t help as much and it divides a wedge between us? What if I can’t cope but I’ve got this little person relying on me to be everything for them?

Im sure these are normal thoughts, each day goes by and I get more nervous and it feels more real that I’m going to be a mother. But I just felt lonely and like no one else around me knows this? I’m the only one I know who’s pregnant atm!

I still feel a bit sad today and I’m not sure why. This is making me quite worried that I’m upsetting the baby too!!!

Anyone ? :(

Sorry that you're feeling so rough, I was lucky not to suffer with morning sickness for long but I can imagine how wearing it must be to have been dealing with it for the past 10 weeks. Are you currently working? Don't be afraid to call in sick if you need to.

Have you any reason to think that your partner won't be a good support?

Don't worry about upsetting the baby, he/she will be happy out curled up in your womb! Maybe try something like the Peanut app to meet more pregnant ladies in your area, I've found that a really good support for me! I've met a few girls for walks or mocktails which has been lovely. Or even just for chatting online about local things like our maternity hospital or creches in the city.

I've felt like, this I'll be honest I've really struggled with my pregnancy even though it was very much wanted and hoped for.
I'm 28 weeks now and mentally feel better now I'm into the third trimester.
I had every symptom going and suffered with bleeding until 19 weeks sk very stressful.
I've enjoyed it more since feeling baby move and finding out he's a boy. I feel more bonded.
Nothing much helpful to offer I'm afraid but you're not alone and there are quite a few threads i found from other people struggling. It's a huge thing to get your head around anyway and doesn't help when you're feeling crap

Thank you both

It’s so hard isn’t it I always imagine pregnancy as you just get pregnant and you are pregnant. Didn’t think I would feel how I do physically!

I have had time off work they have been so supportive and continue to be, so I feel supported in that sense!

Nothing bad about my partner but regarding housework he’s a ‘I’ll do it later’ person and I tend to do more chores than him, despite my nagging. That just kind of made me worry I’ll take on the chores and most parenting duties, just a worry of mine.

The peanut app is a really good idea thank you. I think it would help if I knew some other mummies :)

Come sit beside me. I will wrap a cosy blanket round you and tell you my tale.

I felt like you. I worried everyday about not being a good mum. I worried I wouldn't love the baby and that my life would change for the worse.

People would say to me "are you excited???!"
"Yes." I would say, whilst imagining punching them in the face.

I now speak to you from the other side. It's literally the best thing I ever did with my life. I remember crying all night just thanking God for letting me have this baby (I am not religious )

Mine are 8 and 10 now and they are my pride and joy. So much fun along the way! Hilarious, beautiful, fascinating creatures that I can't believe we produced.

You can do this. Worry is normal. If your DP comes over lazy, you will sort it. But he might just surprise you.

Definitely speak to your midwife. These are not feelings that you have to, or should, keep to yourself.

Your baby, for all of your failings (we ALL have them, will, without a shadow of doubt, know that you are the best mum in the world.