Can't see family and struggling

[Homesick25]

I'm 28 weeks pregnant with DC2. My family is abroad and I was desperate to see them before baby came as it's been a year already with Covid. With the rise of cases and new restrictions it's now completely impossible. I feel so upset and so trapped, I ended up sobbing on the bathroom floor last night.

I already feel like I am grieving DD being an only child but was hoping before her sibling came we could see family, spend quality time together. It looks like we won't be able to do anything and my heart just breaks for her. She's 3 and has essentially grown up without an extended family and has no idea there are lots of people who love her besides her mum and dad. She's so awesome I wish I could share her with the people that matter the most to me.

Going through pregnancy without seeing my family is so lonely. I also lost my mum so it's not like I can compensate by speaking on the phone to a woman who understands and that I can share every detail and get excited with. I feel so guilty for DC2 as well that they're not even here and all they're experiencing right now is my stress and worry in utero.

I know noone can help and the situation is what it is, I just felt like sharing. Thank you for reading! I need to find a way to focus on the positives even though I can't see anyone to get excited with, or ways to distract myself to stay happy. I have way too much time to think!

I'm sorry you're feeling like this, and I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum. It's understandable that you are so low. I know it's easier said than done but please try not to feel guilty, you are giving your DD a sibling and that's an amazing thing itself. You can still have special time with her once baby is here and it'll be even more special then

I’m so sorry. We’re in the same boat, all our family is abroad and I completely relate. It’s been so long! We really miss our parents, and with them getting older every year is precious. It’s so hard. I was hoping they might come this summer but they are keen to postpone until baby is here. It’s hard to see them all mixing and visiting each other and not be a part of it.

@Dove88 thank you that is so kind. It's making me tearful to feel understood! It's also good to be reminded this will be great for DD long term, just need to get through this little bit and it will be OK.

@thebookworm1, so sorry you are in the same position, it has been such a long year. Yes it's so hard and partly what set me off yesterday, as they were all together celebrating a birthday and seeing all the photos of my DD's cousins without her was hard. They see each other all the time and I almost feel like I'm not part of the family anymore :(

We were all set to go at christmas too and DD tested positive for Covid the week before so had to cancel. That was such a blow but I got over it thinking there would be another chance. 7 months later and there hasn't been! My brother was also hoping to come next month no matter what it took, but there are now new isolation rules on both sides and he just can't have that much time off work.

When is your baby due? Hopefully once they're here things will be easier and this will just be a distant memory!

I'm sorry you're going through this ... I'm also in a similar boat, I moved abroad in January last year and didn't have time to establish a social circle or friendship group in my new country before the world got crazy.
I desperately miss seeing my friends and family back home, and now I'm pregnant with my first child, I really feel like I need my mum around. I'm hoping with the relaxing of travel restrictions for doubly jabbed people will help, as it will at least mean my mum can come visit me relatively easily (I don't plan on getting the vaccine until I've finished breast feeding).
Where are your family based? Will the relaxed restrictions also help you?

@jojojo82 sorry you're in the same position, I can imagine it's even tougher with it being your first child as well. Fingers crossed your mum can come visit you soon! My family is in France, the rules keep changing so we'll have to wait and see. So frustrating as it's so close yet so far! With cases rising though I'm not holding much hope of the rules relaxing but noone can predict it so I'll drive myself crazy trying to!