MIL odd behaviour towards my pregnancy

[hellonewworl]

MIL did not try to hide her disappointment at our recent pregnancy news. And will not accept that I have a bump, won't ask how I am, won't acknowledge I am pregnant. Looks somewhat annoyed/upset when I mention a sibling for DD in front of her.

Background- been with her son 5 years, engaged, house, dog and 2 year old together. Stable relationship. Both work and she hasn't had dd for 5 months so not like we rely on her.

Says I am very small for my gestation.
I am a lot bigger than I was with DD but she said the same during 1st pregnancy. DD was 9lb 2 so not a small baby, I am 5ft4 so I am small. You can imagine the size of my bump.

I just find her very odd. Why wouldn't she be happy for us? This is her 4th and final grandchild and I feel like she's the only person who isn't happy for us.

She might have personal experience of miscarriages or 20 week medical terminations, and so probably doesn’t want to raise her hopes up. I’m the same way - don’t like to talk about babies until they’re here because I have not had many positive experiences with pregnancy.

What sort of relationship do you normally have with her. When you’re not pregnant?

Does she have a good relationship with your DP her son?

Did she behave like this with the other GC not yours but her other child’s?

What does your partner say? Is she ok with you outside of pregnancy and what is she like with her dgc?

Does she see much of her Son and your dc?
I'm wondering if she feels when the new baby arrives she'll take even less precedence than she does now.
Good chance she blames you if she doesn't see much of her Son and dgc.

I'm confused you said she doent accept you have a bump but the you said that she commented that you were small for your gestation

Is that not her just trying to be polite mine asked if I was having twins I would of preferred your comment

What do you mean she doesn't hide her disappointment etc

If you don't have a good relationship normally with her maybe your picking up on things that aren't really there

I say that as someone who feels mine picks at everything I do but in reality she doesn't it's just me being hormonal

Is she particularly glued to your dd? Is she worried she will get pushed out? My dm started favouring dd over ds and I had to point it out she was being unfair to both dc..

What she happy during your first pregnancy?