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36 weeks pregnant and still can’t believe I am about to have a baby!

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sunshinecitrus1 · 06/07/2021 19:46

Hi!

I am 36 weeks pregnant and I still can’t believe I am about to have a baby! Almost like I am in slight denial with things. Everything is ready for him, my hospital bag is done etc. but sometimes I just can’t get my head around the fact that I am going to be a Mum. It almost doesn’t feel real sometimes, especially as day to day at the moment are just like “normal days”. I can’t imagine a little person being in this house even though his little nursery is all set!

I thought at this point I would have been petrified of child birth but thankfully Hypnobirthing has made me feel miles better on this. However, I am worried that this “in denial” feeling is going to hit me like a tonne of bricks when I go into labour / when baby is here!

Anyone else felt like this?

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HumunaHey · 06/07/2021 20:12

I'm 37 weeks with DC2 and reality hasn't hit for me yet either.

I think the feeling really helps with childbirth. It beats being petrified!

Emsnewmum · 06/07/2021 20:16

I'm due on Friday and even though I couldn't imagine being pregnant and now I am it's feels so normal I can't imagine giving birth or actually having a baby/being a mum like you said! So strange isn't it! I also find not knowing when exactly il go into labour so strange eeeek x

sarah13xx · 06/07/2021 20:41

I’m 35 weeks and completely in this boat 😂 I got everything organised really quite early on so I don’t even find it weird that we have a full room in our house for this little person anymore because I’m just so used to it. Other people seem to be realising how soon it is now and they’re saying things like ‘next time I see you you’ll probably have a baby’. I’m just refusing to believe it’s real 😂 I’m sure that’s what everyone feels like and I obviously know when I go for a scan there is a baby in there but I just can’t imagine actually seeing that baby in real life! 😬 it’s so bizarre

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sunshinecitrus1 · 06/07/2021 21:01

Thanks girls, this makes me feel better and that I am not going mad!

I agree @HumunaHey this feeling does really help with childbirth.

@sarah13xx I can completely relate to everything you’ve just said!

I am sure it will sink in for all of us once our babies are in our arms Xx

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TensmumT · 06/07/2021 21:08

Ooohh I remember these times so fondly!! My LO is 4 months now and gosh I did go through those feelings! During the last trimester, I would hold his little clothes up and just feel so emotional, so excited and impatient to meet my baby! I would try to imagine how his little face would look like, would he resemble me or DH? When he finally came, the very second I laid eyes on him, an immense rush of emotions washed over me, he was right there, my little baby! I can't wait for the next one already! (not pregnant right now, just saying :p)

Nat4392 · 06/07/2021 21:45

My baby is 5 weeks old and I’m still in denial she’s mine sometimes 😂 I feel like it’s not even real at times! I can’t believe this perfect little thing is mine and it grew in my tummy!

sarah13xx · 06/07/2021 21:47

@TensmumT @Nat4392 aww how lovely are both your comments. Can’t wait for this feeling 🥰 hoping all the questions and worries just disappear as soon as I see my baby’s face!

MM1993 · 06/07/2021 22:05

I'm 33 weeks and have serious denial a baby is coming 😂 when I buy things or see baby things in the house it doesn't quite sink in that in a few weeks there will actually be a baby here!!!

PurpleFlower1983 · 06/07/2021 22:14

I’m 37 weeks on Friday with DC2 and feel exactly the same!

PlentyofToys · 06/07/2021 23:14

Yep I was in denial with my daughter (baby number 3 and stopping there!) right until she was born. I mean, I knew I was going to have a baby, I just didn’t really accept I was actually going to have a baby if that makes sense!

stclair · 06/07/2021 23:29

I don’t think I properly realised I was having a baby until we had a tour of the birthing unit. We could hear a woman in labour, and I just burst into tears and sobbed my way round the tour , as I just felt this overwhelming enormity of what was going to happen! The poor midwife must have thought, I hope I don’t get this one!

user1471523870 · 06/07/2021 23:43

Yes, yes, yes!
I was in denial when pregnant and carried one after my baby was born for a loooong time. To be very honest he's almost three and I often look at him and think who is this cute little man who lives with us? How can I be so lucky? Is he really mine?
It's absolutely crazy, but I still think that. I can't get my head round the fact I am a mum and I made him!

scrivette · 06/07/2021 23:46

I remember standing staring into the Moses basket many times wondering how this little thing was actually mine and how I had managed to make him. Sometimes it didn't seem real even then!

Nobranothanks · 07/07/2021 07:02

You're not a weirdo.

I spent my entire pregnancy in complete denial - tbh I'm still in denial that I was ever pregnant and my dd is now nearly 4 😂 (surprise pregnancy - I'm meant to be infertile)

I remember sorting all the baby things out and people asking me questions about things and I was completely clueless. When she was born I kept looking at her thinking omg what do I do with you and how did you get here?! I spent the night in the birth centre and was so petrified of getting things wrong I summoned the midwife every time she made a noise or needed something.

Needless to say, everything was absolutely fine.. I still wonder how she got here but that's mainly because she's 4 going on 14 😂

SillyBry · 07/07/2021 07:38

31 weeks with number 2 and in total denial!
If it helps, my midwife said when her waters went with number 2, she burst into tears saying “I’m not ready to have 2 children!” So we’re very much not alone! 🤣

HumpHumpWhale · 07/07/2021 07:41

I kind of got my head around it by the time he was 6 weeks old. But I still have flashes of "whaaaaat? Really? Me, a mum?" My kids are now 8 and 5.

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sunshinecitrus1 · 07/07/2021 08:01

It is so nice to know I am not feeling alone with this!
I think it is just a surreal time (whether you are FTM or if you have children already) so it's hard for it to sink in. I think it's just our way of coping with the change sometimes. Our minds take time to adjust to the idea of having a baby because it is such a HUGE DEAL.
You always hear people talk about "I can't imagine my life without my baby now they are here" but never really hear of people being in denial that their baby is actually their baby! So it is a relief that there are a lots of people out there that are feeling / felt like me
Another thing I can't get my head around (and I think another poster has already mentioned it) is being called mum / mummy! I also can't imagine calling my OH dad / daddy!

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sarah13xx · 07/07/2021 09:25

@sunshinecitrus1 I can’t imagine the mummy/daddy thing either 🙈 it’s even more weird the fact they don’t talk for a while so anyone referring to you as that is not the baby but you kind of need to say it repeatedly or they won’t learn how to say it 😂
I’ve had a really really easy pregnancy, I think that just adds to how in denial I am. I’m like it can’t be time for him to come out already?! I think if I was hobbling about in pain I’d be so desperate to get him out it might feel more real

BastardMonkfish · 07/07/2021 12:06

[quote sarah13xx]@sunshinecitrus1 I can’t imagine the mummy/daddy thing either 🙈 it’s even more weird the fact they don’t talk for a while so anyone referring to you as that is not the baby but you kind of need to say it repeatedly or they won’t learn how to say it 😂
I’ve had a really really easy pregnancy, I think that just adds to how in denial I am. I’m like it can’t be time for him to come out already?! I think if I was hobbling about in pain I’d be so desperate to get him out it might feel more real[/quote]
Don't worry about that, from the minute baby comes out the hospital staff, the bounty lady, the health visitor, the lady at baby groups, the nursery staff, the GP and dentist, basically everyone you will come in contact with for years will call you 'mum' you'll soon find yourself thinking how nice it is when someone calls you by your actual name!

Littlepaws18 · 07/07/2021 12:15

Think you actually have the best approach! There is absolutely no point in worrying about it until it happens. Each labour is so different you can't predict what will happen. My thoughts ( I'm 37 weeks) is however painful/ horrendous it is it will be over in a matter of days/ hours. It's my second and I can't remember the pain of my first- so it can't be that bad right?!

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sunshinecitrus1 · 09/07/2021 12:43

@sarah13xx Yeah exactly that haha! Although as @BastardMonkfish says, everyone around us will soon be referring to us as Mummy / Daddy so I think we will get used to it . I have also been lucky enough to have an easy pregnancy (so far - I don't want to jinx anything!) so I agree, that probably adds to the denial because if things had been a real struggle, it might wake us up to the realization of what is actually happening lol!

@Littlepaws18 Thanks for your reply You are so right that there is no point in worrying about it until it happens. And even when it does happen, it's the most natural thing in the world too which some of us tend to forget . I really like your attitude to things! I also think that to myself as well that people have multiple children and if it was so bad then people wouldn't go ahead and have another

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Bythemillpond · 09/07/2021 12:49

Friend came over on the Monday when I was well over 40 weeks pregnant.

She said “Just think by next week you will have a baby”

I replied with

“What makes you think that?”

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sunshinecitrus1 · 09/07/2021 13:07

@Bythemillpond Haha love it! I have a feeling this may happen to me! I had a baby shower last Saturday and I keep looking back at the photos we took on the afternoon and I still can't believe everyone took the time to be there for me because I AM HAVING A BABY!

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Bythemillpond · 09/07/2021 22:00

I really couldn’t understand why she would say such a thing

As it was dd wasn’t born till well through the following week.
Dd I think had decided she wasn’t coming out. 55 hours in labour and then a CS

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sunshinecitrus1 · 10/07/2021 09:03

@Bythemillpond That is an awfully long time! You must have been exhausted. Good things come to those that wait and all that though

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